5 girls in a row make it clear they really like me. All turned me down, confused as hell?

[Misteree]

Not a guy who chases girls. Just not my thing
Had 5 in a row who've chased me and made it clear they are into me.

Girl 1. Tells me I'm the only person that gets her. Not even her childhood friends do. Repeats how she really wants to talk to me more. All done in person.

2 weeks later sends abusive message. Why would you think I'd talk to you? Next sentence, she still wants to talk to me.
Lists all the reasons why I'm no good.

Turns me down and just goes from guy to guy now as she can't find anyone

Girl 2. Made her too happy. Could spend her life with me.

Now a cat lady and alone

Girl 3. I had everything she'd want in a guy.
Unfriended me and gave a crappy excuse so I blocked her. Won't leave me alone in person. Can't understand I don't want to talk to her. Been a year and won't go away for too long. Series of random guys that last 2 weeks at most.

Girl 4 . Wasn't like the guys she knows. I was a great guy. Follows me around like a love sick puppy for a couple days at a thing we're both at. Her mom even tries to play matchmaker hard.
Turns me down for a lunch date. Gives me abuse for asking her out. Goes around telling people I'm a creep. Meanwhile she's sent me 55+ messages in a couple hours talking to me like we're best friends.

Girl 5. Is flirting with me in person for over a year. Tells me suddenly how she's told her friend she completely loves me.

Turned me down for a date. Chose randoms on Tinder instead. Told her never to talk to me again as clearly was messing with me. Another girl who just won't go away. Actually tried a few times to talk to me in the year that's passed since then.

I don't want to be messed about with.
Don't know what they want aside from attention but they won't get it.

I'd rather be alone than with girl's like that and all that's out there is girls like that. It's just evil

[ZDoes]

Okay. What I'm hearing you describe is: when alone and in person these women are interested. When not in private, these women push you away.
It's obvious these women are having an issue with your social position. This isn't an issue for private encounters. And it's utterly superficial and it has to do less with you than you think.
What other people think is a huge factor for women. They'll deny it, but research shows clearly that your social standing is a crucial factor for women when chosing a potential partner. They must see you as an upgrade from their current position. If you're not, you'll be friend zoned which is a nearly inescapable pit of frustration where you'll be told about all the bullshit and bad behavior she receives from the men she's actually sleeping with... but won't leave. Or and this one ain't that bad, and you can actually have more infuence with her, but do not attempt to cross over into her real world. This is the position of the fukboi. You are a living breathing sex toy. She trusts you with her inner sexual beast, you are it's keeper. But for one reason or another you are not suitable for public display. And as we all know public display value in a potential partner is crucial.
It's this public display value that I invite you to look at. Because it seems upon first evaluation that this is where your challenge stems from.
Could be a simple as style, the clothes you choose, car you drive etc. First visual impression counts. Are you over 30 but still dress like a teenager? Are you currently wearing a baseball cap of any kind? Cargo shorts? High top sneakers? Ditch the ball cap, put on a pair of slacks and a button down and get a good pair of shoes, real shoes. The kind with leather soles. You're a grown man, dress like it.
And start acting like your time is valuable. If you're sharing your time with these gals and not being "paid" in some way for your attention and time you're indicating to them that you are NOT valuable. And that always ultimately means disaster in the emotionally fueled processing center they use for decision making.
Ultimately women have the need to feel superior to her friends and associates. If you can make fer feel "better than" those with who she associates with on an ongoing and consistent basis you've got it locked down.
If on the other hand she's secretly worried about what her friends and associates will think about her because she's with you? The clock is ticking.

[Anonymous]

It would appear you need to set your standards higher, and improve your screening of new candidates before you get too far with them.
Being alone instead of dealing with this nonsense makes a lot of sense. But let's hope it doesn't come to that

[Misteree]

These are girls guys chase like crazy.
They seem to go after me because I don't chase them. I actually treat them like human beings and not pieces of flesh.

All I've waited a year at least to see if they continue to show interest and what their character is.

Only when I bite the bullet and ask them out they get angry, abusive, post publicly on social media mocking me after rejecting me.

I take the no and try to move on. But they are relentless.

[Opinion Owner]

By the sound of it, these women are high value and have a tremendous amount of attention. They're spoilt for choice and that can breed arrogance and indifference.
Perhaps what they like is you present as a friend. They like that you appear to be asking them for nothing.
When you ask for a date, you're just like the others and lose the appeal.

[Misteree]

Don't want them as friends after being messed about. But they won't stop trying to talk to me. If they said no and we're ok about it I'd have been ok.
Their behavior afterwards is disgusting.
Can go away and get their attention fix from other guys

[pillingsadness]

This doesn't mean that all girls in the world are like that. There are a billion women on the planet. You just need to find the right one for you

[Misteree]

All like that I've encountered.
I listed last 5 but many more acted the same.

One scolded me for not talking to her when we'd run into each other. I should talk to her as she's a nice girl. So I talked to her, gives me her number. Messages me and says she's going to see me next week. Next week I message and it's , who is this? Never heard from her again.

Last message she'd said I made her day.

[pillingsadness]

Maybe you're doing something wrong or not telling us something?

[Misteree]

They make it clear they like me like that.
I ask them out.

That's it. I'm a simple guy.
If I was doing something wrong they'd avoid me.
Not try to keep talking to me or confused why I'm not giving them attention. They had it, didn't want it.

One had even told her friend she really liked me after turning me down. Sorry but that's insane.

[moviedude714]

Sounds like they were just teasing and leading you on for validation

[Gwenhwyfar]

You are terrible with girls. They all just wanted friendship.

[Misteree]

Yeah like telling me she's told her friend "she completely loves me". Always trying to feel me up.
Or saying they want it go out on a date.
Or saying I'm exactly what they want in a guy.

Or girls who've tried to grab my junk. Yeah, they want friendship.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Or a quick hookup. Either way not a relationship.

[ChiTown33]

I hope you called the police and had her charged with sexual assault. She needs to KNOW that's NOT OK. Being a woman does not give you cart Blanche to put your hands wherever you like on a guy.

[Anonymous]

Those are just words. They never actually said they really like you, they didn't make anything clear. Just your assumption bro

[Misteree]

Actually they have. Read above. Outright told me they are into me and want to go out. I have female friends. Even they witnessed some of this and backed me up.

[FunkyMonkee]

Girls usually ARE confused as hell!!

[IncognitoBandito]

Women can be fickle at times

[Misteree]

Just evil than fickle. Just don't talk to me than play some game. Don't keep making it clear you are into me or outright telling me only to freak out and be abusive