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As a woman in her mid twenties, she has never attracted a man she’d want to date. They’re always physically unattractive to her, if they’re good looking it’s usually an issue with their personality. And if they’re nice and good looking, they’re too short for her (only an inch taller/same height and she’s 5’7). Should she keep looking for a guy that meets her preferences or give a chance to the guys that have shown interest?

A woman in her mid twenties has never been in a long term relationship. The only time she dated someone, it was with someone she did not find attractive. She used the dating apps and that’s the only way she met guys. She’s told she’s attractive, however, only attracts men she isn’t physically attracted to. She usually attracts men that she does not find good looking with decent personalities. If the guy is good looking, they’re douchey or they’re good looking but too short for her preferences. Should she just settle for the sake of not being lonely or is she too picky?

Just hear me out
You prefer to split the bill - seek out women or men that prefer the same, don't wait until you have arrived to the dinner date (or whatever) and just assume its split, ask them their preference before the date even happens
You prefer for your date to pay or you prefer to pay - seek out women and men that prefer the same, don't wait until you have arrived to the dinner date (or whatever) and just assume you or them pay the full thing, ask them their preference before the date even happens
You will be saving yourself a lot of frustration and "men are trash" , "women aren't shit".
Maybe let go of getting mad because someone won't mold themselves to what you like based off a date.

I'm dating this guy who through friends, said he was desparate to be in a relationship. He wvwn had said that he doesn't have a preference in a person and jist wants someone to love amd care for him. And i loved his personality from the start. I meam, when he waant sad and depressed he was supee noce and shy and nerdy. I perfect safe guy! But im starting to feel a way with him... i mean should i feel bad about the situation he said he would date someone? Like does that mean im more of an opportunity than a love interest? And mainly what im asking, should a daye a this guy?

In regards to this ridiculous post Is there a lot of racist people in here?

I don't understand, if a black man says he finds white women unattractive, I'm not gonna go crying about it or call him a racist. The word racism is being used wrongly too many times nowadays. Telling someone they are lesser than other people bc of their skin or race is racism, but telling someone you don't find them attractive bc of it isn't.
Why is that so hard to understand? A preference is a preference.

And for those of you who say it happens more often with black people, that still doesn't make it racism if we're still talking about people who honestly just aren't attracted to them.

I find black women 10x more attractive than white women, and white men 10x more attractive than black men. I also find eastern Asian men 10x more attractive than most European men. Am I a racist?

Racist definition: prejudiced against or antagonistic toward a person or people on the basis of their membership in a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized.
Prejudice definition: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience

Let's play a game called spot the difference.

Let's say John doesn't want to date red heads bc "they're known to have a temper", that's a stupid reason and not true for all red heads. Let's say John doesn't want to date red heads bc he finds red hair unattractive. Which one is wrong and which one is harmless?

Here's another in case that didn't work

Jane doesn't want to date black men because she thinks they're all thugs.
Jane doesn't want to date black men bc she isn't attracted to their features.
Which is harmless and which is wrong?

I'd like to side note that after a discussion with a friend on here, I do see how someone would be upset if someone said a black woman looks like a man. I know very well how a lot of black women are viewed by some people. But most black women I see are beautiful in my opinion.