I don't understand, if a black man says he finds white women unattractive, I'm not gonna go crying about it or call him a racist. The word racism is being used wrongly too many times nowadays. Telling someone they are lesser than other people bc of their skin or race is racism, but telling someone you don't find them attractive bc of it isn't. Why is that so hard to understand? A preference is a preference.
And for those of you who say it happens more often with black people, that still doesn't make it racism if we're still talking about people who honestly just aren't attracted to them.
I find black women 10x more attractive than white women, and white men 10x more attractive than black men. I also find eastern Asian men 10x more attractive than most European men. Am I a racist?
Racist definition: prejudiced against or antagonistic toward a person or people on the basis of their membership in a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized. Prejudice definition: preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experienceLet's play a game called spot the difference.
Let's say John doesn't want to date red heads bc "they're known to have a temper", that's a stupid reason and not true for all red heads. Let's say John doesn't want to date red heads bc he finds red hair unattractive. Which one is wrong and which one is harmless?
Here's another in case that didn't work
Jane doesn't want to date black men because she thinks they're all thugs. Jane doesn't want to date black men bc she isn't attracted to their features. Which is harmless and which is wrong?I'd like to side note that after a discussion with a friend on here, I do see how someone would be upset if someone said a black woman looks like a man. I know very well how a lot of black women are viewed by some people. But most black women I see are beautiful in my opinion.
After reading this, I still think it's racist
This has opened my eyes and now I understand why it isn't racist
I've always known that having physical preferences isn't racist
You're asking the wrong question. What you should be pondering is why all forms of racism are considered equal. Racism is not prejudice against a specific group based on race, it's DISCRIMINATION based on race. What you quoted is an example, not a definition. The statement "white people need a higher SPF sunscreen than the rest of us" is a racist statement. It's true. It's not likely to offend anyone who doesn't have their head up their butt. But it is racist.
The examples you give posit a dichotomy of "wrong" and "harmless", but I'd argue that that's not only false, it's irrelevant: what matters isn't people's attitudes, but their actions. If a person thinks people of another race are inferior, but treats them the same anyway, do we really have a right to complain? You can say that's not likely to happen, and it isn't, but if we judge people based on their ideas, rather than their actions, how are we any different than those who go after people based on their religion? Well, thinking less of someone for being racist isn't the same as forcibly converting someone at gunpoint- but if you go that route, you're admitting that it's actions that matter, not beliefs.
The other point I'd make is that people don't choose what they're attracted to. So it's not them that are racist, but whatever portion of their brain makes that call for them.
@SmokinAces2000 Racist means "discriminating on the basis of race". Aside the incorrect use of "race" (as humans are human), the statement is racist. As is the fact that white people have less melanin in their skin.
It isn't racist at all.. you like what/who you like. It goes for everything in life. That's why there is a word "variety"? If I like apples and you don't does it mean that you don't like ape because they are apples? No! I've talked with you and I know that you are far from racist @lanadelrey25. You are one of my best friends on GAG. This will be going on and has been debated before us and will continue after we are long gone. (Hopefully not) This is why I say people are fucking morons. Not all but some. I don't like people, but maybe I'm racist against human beings...
ITs silly if someone says i dont find ANY ___ people attractive. Even i can admit someone is attractive regardless of if i’d actually date them. For example, im not gay but i can admit that some women are attractive. doesn't mean i want one. Just means men and lesbians are likely to find them attractive if they see what i saw. But a lot of people have underlying intentions and they usually do mean it in a racist-like way when they call out a whole ethnicity for being unattractive. A person can PREFER to only date certain races but to literally call a whole race unattractive would make them questionable in terms of being racist
I haven't seen that much. I dont know many who say “Idris Elba is unattractive” and then someone says “youre racist.” Thats not how i’ve seen it play out on GaG. This site has a majority who specifically say things like “I dont find anything appealing about black men/women. Theyre like bottom of the barrel.” The fact that they single out a whole group yet go drooling over people like Beyonce as if she's not mostly black is ridiculous. At the end of the day, they do find black people attractive. They may not date one but should admit that They at least find certain ones attractive. But no A lot just sum it up as “none are attractive” and then are surprised when theyre called racist
I don't really see it as us being racist for having a preference. It's not like we hate the race we're don't have a preference for, but I can see it though why people would think that. A part of racism is discrimination and simply put it's choosing one over the other because of their race. My preference goes towards people with dark hair... but that doesn't mean that the people who are blonde or ginger aren't attractive to me. One of my exes is blonde. There's beauty in every race and turning a good guy down just because of his color, is stupid and a damn shame, would be my loss. Not at all a dealbreaker, never will be.
Downvotes: instead of instinctively reacting, without comment, on the basis of the mantras which have been programmed into your youthful brain by the PC indoctrination machine, can you please explain how a person should control what is attractive to them and what is not attractive?
I know what friend you're talking about. :) I don't think it's racist to have a physical preference (unless we're talking about myself, but that's a long story...). But I can see why someone would be offended if you don't find them attractive because of their features.
If an Asian/Russian/African/Latino person says that she/he prefers a certain type, then people don't mind at all, because that's just a preference and these races don't have any superiority or a racist history.
But if a western white person person says that, then people tend to call them racists because they don't know that whether it is just a preference or some white superiority (racism) is mixed with it. These is apparently because of their history full of racism.
This things translate to reverse racism which is bad too.
I call bullshit... just cos it's like that where you're from doesn't mean it's not the polar opposite elsewhere. In my 24 years on this earth I have never heard anyone called racist for not liking black girls or any other race.. you see it a few times on the internet and suddenly it's the view of 4 entire races? 😂😂 #Getoutofhere
It isn't! What I find is that men who aren't attracted to black girls always have so many negative things to say and drag them. While men who prefer black women don't usually go around dissing and dragging white girls. This is why I think the racist label is applied to people who mostly prefer whites for romantic pursuits.
These fools are not the arbiters of what is racist, even though they’d like to think they are. Too many things are falsely called racist and, anyway, we should be focused on what matters, not who wants to date who, which is relatively unimportant in the big scheme of things.
You're too focused on "proving" that, despite having a point of view that may seem non-PC, you aren't racist at all... You almost say sorry for having a different point of view!
Truth be told, be too much self-justifying is just an invitation for people to shit on your head, laugh at you and accuse you of "white fragility."
It hardly convinces anyone to take you seriously...
Don't get me wrong, I find it strange to like one physical traits in a person and not be willing to over look certain things. Like you prefer white guys but you meet a really nice Asian guy and you both have a connection and like each other but you don't date him simply just because you usually have a preference for white guys.
I especially hate it when people have a certain prejudiced against a race so won't date them. Like I've heard a lot of guys say they won't date a black girl because black girls have attitude problems and I just think thats flat out racist and stupid. Having an attitude problem has nothing to do with your race. People of all races can have that trait
It's the world on what they perceive as racist making fun of someone's color that's racist but if you're dating a different race it's not racist and what you do with a different race is not racist dating someone for different race is a new thing so some people may not care for it so they call it racist
You're witty enough at your age to put this topic up. I voted for option C even before I read the caption. Intolerance is the biggest foe of today's world. Even I have a preference for white women. It doesn't make the other women bad or me a racist. Preferences and prejudices don't go hand-in-hand. People don't understand this BASIC difference.
What you fault to realize is that it is racist to have a preference based on skin color. MLK told us not to judge based on skin color so y'all gonna do the opposite? You gotta see white men and black men equally attractive if you not really racist. This post just proves racism is alive and you are racist too.
And that's the problem, you will never make everyone equally attractive. An opinion is an opinion. Not everyone will find all white or black people attractive so stop trying. @desolaterain please help me out
You can just make someone be sexually attracted to both black and white men if they already aren't.
That's like making a person being being sexually attracted to both men and women if they already aren't. If it's not naturally thier preference, then it's just not going to happen.
@Yuuibtony There's no issue, I said black women are 10x more beautiful than white women in MY OPINION and white men are 10x more handsome than black men in MY OPINION, yet he says I'm racist bc of a physical preference? He has issues, not me.
@DesolateRain I guess not, I'm done being nice with this conversation, I tried. @Yuuibtony get the fuck off my post and take your friend @wapdestroyer with you. Say another thing in response to this and I will report your comment and your profile page. :) Have a nice day *kisses*
Do you see that finding the majority of a certain race unattractive is not racist? But if I met someone that out of the majority was handsome to me (like James Earl Jones) I would date them if I liked them, therefore, I'm not a racist.
(Jane doesn't want to date black men because she thinks they're all thugs. Jane doesn't want to date black men bc she isn't attracted to their features.) Lol I imagined you whispering while you are saying this😂😅i dont know why
Yes, it's option C for me. Although it pains me to say, this is a good post. I would love for it to be a completely redundant post as if making a take saying the sky is blue but unfortunately the obvious is a skill many today lack.
Yeep and for whatever reason those same people turn the blind eye and think it's harmless when someone says my people have small pee pees and similar stereotypes about Asians.
I don't hold it against my partner when we go to an ice-cream parlour and she always chooses passion fruit, lemon or pistachio, and I always go for chocolate, vanilla and coffee or hazelnut. Diversity is a beautiful thing.
That's the problem, you're afraid to stand up for what's right. Anyone who is logical knows it isn't racist yet you're still afraid to agree with me. Sad.
I don't think there is a winning side here. Either a person has a right to choose whomever they want or they are racist, it's kind of a non winning argument
That could be very interesting, if you can get others that are talking about this to a place of peace with definitions. I would like to think we have the freedom of choice. The way it's talked about, feels like an arranged marriage
