Would you date someone with autism?

Question

I wouldn't. I have had already burned myself with one such girl, but that's just a personal preference.  What about you?

Tram321 · Accepted Answer

I honestly feel disgusted with reading some of these opinions. Autism or not, everyone has their own problems whether it’s depression, suicidal, divorced parents, poor, no parents. These people without autism are no better or superior humans. It only shows how many closed minded and ignorant people here. Or maybe just naive. You might not even know someone close to you is autistic because they know you will discriminate them and get hurt.
This is not to bash you, this is just me standing up for people diagnosed with autism who get discriminated. None of my military friends know I am diagnosed, they think I am normal. They treat me with respect. And I get a lot of attention from men... My colleagues would say I’m mature for my age compared to those a little older than me. I work as a dental assistant frontline worker and attended a university. If you are diagnosed with autism, you are not alone, stand up for yourself. And I hope the people who are not fully knowledgeable about autism “think before they say.” I’ve talked to a lot of people about different autism spectrums. The average person I spoke to doesn’t understand the spectrum, nor truly respects it. Even a few professional fully knowledge will mistreat autistic people and get away with it. It is unfortunate. So stand up for yourself or you will always be bullied.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Nope unless it was really mild.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No I would always be wanting someone normal. Although I have a really smart female friend with autism, who is also a lesbian. We were shooting the shit for a long time and the conversation evolved into me jokingly threatening her that I was going to send her a dick pic. She would always say stuff like “go ahead” or “I’m waiting” and I was always confused until one day I actually did it lol.

That’s when I learned I was the only guy she ever had feelings for, but alas I just couldn’t do it and besides the autism she just had a lot of emotional issues. Now she’s a dude😕

COMMODOREII · Accepted Answer

Hell no!!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I was married to a girl for 17 years who developed a mild disability after two years of marriage. The next 15 years were the worst years of my life. I've learned a lesson about that!

Desconhecida · Answer

No. I didn't even know autistic people could date.

Sarahr123 · Answer

No I wouldn’t because unless it is very very mild I would feel like I am taking advantage of them. They are essentially very vulnerable just like children are and you wouldn’t go out with someone under 16 or 17 so why would you take advantage of someone who is severely autistic right?

OnlyAdie · Answer

I am actually with someone now who has autism. Like I have to admit, there’s a lot of learning to do, about stims, spoons, certain ways their brains work etc. And everybody is different with it too, but my girlfriend honestly is the best girlfriend I’ve ever had. Like I trust her 100%, we’re solid. She helps me in ways that I didn’t know I needed help!

No matter who you end up dating/in a relationship with, it won’t matter if anyone turns out to be autistic. It’s normal. Everyone is different and everything changes. As long as you both have respect for one another, that’s what matters.
So date whoever you want.

SphynxUK · Answer

Firstly, one person with autism isn’t the same as ANY other with autism. Some you’d never even guess if you met them irl. (Me)

I would date someone yes, as long as they can mostly lead a normal life. ie I wouldn’t be date a non verbal type, or someone that only lives and breathes one singular topic!

art84 · Answer

I had a foster brother who had the characteristics of a person with autism. He was higher function but he would have this weird fasciation with diapers. He would also get upset really easily and go into a rage for any little thing. He even attempted to harm himself with a knife and didn't know what he was doing. He would even start scratching himself. Basically he would act like a child even though he was in his 30"s as he had ADHD and other challenges. So I would not date a girl with autism as I couldn't handle how different her brain works compared to a normal person who isn't autistic.

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

Actually yes. High functioning of course. Let me say this, not all autism is the same. there's different levels of it. Severe to mild. Then there's high functioning autism which called aspergers. I myself grew up with aspergers, but never mention it to anyone because I'm very high functioning, I know how to act my age and how to live in the real world, I can drive, I have a job and nobody ever notices which I find a good thing because I get insecure about it especially in the dating world. I wouldn't mind at all dating a guy even marrying a guy with the same level of aspergers. Even raise our own children together. As long as he loves me for me. Disability or no disability, I'm looking for a man who will love me for who I am and not judge me for growing up with a disability. Who accepts me and be there for me no matter what. Y'all should think about that.

Egirl28 · Answer

As a girl with high functioning autism yes I would as long as we had more in common than just our autism and I was attracted to him on every level. They are still a person with worth and love to give ❤

Anonymous · Answer

No because I would feel like a creep. I know this 30 year old women with autism and she basically has the mental capacity of a 12 year old child. She can't do anything for herself except work part time at simple jobs like walking dogs and her parents will have to take care of her forever. She acts like a child too and hugs strangers. I am almost positive that she doesn't know what sex is. She is very innocent and naive. I could never date someone who is mentally a child. Just because they are physically adults doesn't mean they are able to understand an adult relationship. I would see myself as a pervert if I dated someone who was mentally a child. Although I'm not saying all people with autism are like that. I'm actually not sure how the mental state of most people with autism is. I don't know much about the condition.

RyzaStout · Answer

I would since I'm autistic myself. My hubby also married me so he would date someone thats autistic too

Twalli · Answer

It's kind if a difficult situation. I have autism. Most people I socialize with have some form of a developmental disorder even if it isn't an ASD. Since I only date friends, by definition I will probably date someone with autism if my girlfriend and I ever break up. The thing is, those of who are high functioning are almost impossible to notice. None of my friends in high school and college knew I had it until I told them. Those of us that have HFA appear NT to most people and could probably pass as a NT person until you've already fallen for them. We're smart, and we can learn exceptionally quickly.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

I have heard that they tend to be less emotional, can't read the body language, too direct, less romantic/cling etc. Idont know, i really prefere a clingy cheesy person.

Trooper205 · Answer

It would depend on the person, but in my personal experience, I would not.

I used to be close friends with an Autistic Individual. In fact, we were considered "Best Friends", but His actions proved otherwise. I was certainly used as Leverage. He'd blame many things on me, plenty of snide outbursts, deny any acts of unkindness... I had to break it off. It was a rough relationship.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

It’s theoretically possible I have dated someone with Asperger’s syndrome (a high functioning form of autism)

ShortCircuit · Answer

If I couldn't tell that she had autism before she told me, then clearly she was high functioning enough that it wouldn't make a difference anyway. And if I could tell right away, then I wouldn't have gone out with her to begin with. So there's really no situation in which I'd reject a girl after finding out she had autism. Either it's bad enough that it bothers me, or it was never a problem in the first place.

just_a_potato · Answer

I have family members and friends with autism who all function differently, I wouldn't decide not to date someone just because they have a learning disability. The only exception are dependents who need others to thrive in society, as I would want to date someone who has the same power as me in a relationship.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

It depends on the individual woman really.

I somewhat dated a lady who I highly suspect to be Asperger's, about 6 years ago. She had a tendency to be so weird in certain social situations that I just couldn't tolerate it. I avoided her like the plague for about a year, and then we re-convened to being friends and then she moved about a 1,000 miles away to be closer to her family.

But every person is different. I can't say that I wouldn't date a woman with mild autism.

NalleBabyBoysss · Answer

Yeah i have autism and i dated girls with autism. If you like someone i don't think they care about disabilities because you already like that person so if you leave her/him when you find out a disability i think she/he is better of without you

Mynameisdom7 · Answer

My S. O. and I are both on the spectrum. We have Aspergers. It’s actually easier to understand certain stuff about each other. I think that’s a blessing. I wouldn’t date someone who is nonverbal though (not trying to sound like a douche, but that’s how I feel). But my answer is maybe. If we click then absolutely... but if not, then no. It’s just like any other relationship to me.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I’ve found some attractive and nice to talk to but thats about as far as I’d go

sheikalana · Answer

I never met anyone with autism but as long as we have lots of things in common and can have interesting conversations about anything I think I would.

psychoticanimallover · Answer

It would depend where on the spectrum. I’m pretty outside the box so it might be kind of hard.

Avicenna · Answer

Probably not. I just wouldn’t be confident that she could handle the ups and downs in a relationship and communicate well.

KillianK · Answer

I'm just watching the responses from both sides of the field here as I AM autistic and have asked similar questions before. I'm disheartened to see so many people would not date someone like me unless the case was very specific to what kind of autism it was.

Underworld158 · Answer

No , because they can be fussy about things. Also they can be emotionally detached and disconnected sometimes.

Laura_Marx · Answer

is that the girl from the last question, who I said you should break up with?

I'm dating several girls with autism, and have dated several others in the past. I'm probably more disposed to date other neuroatypical girls than otherwise.

Prisma · Answer

Yes, because I'm autistic so I think me and then would understand each other a bit better well hopefully.

worldscolide · Answer

My wife is autistic.. Not all autistic people are the same. Just because you were burned on one, does not mean it should color your opinions for all.

My wife has Asperger's syndrome. We have been together 8 years next month.

EaterPeter · Answer

No. Such a turn off. Sorry bud you've been dated one and burned. I know someone who did and had kids with him. He attacked her and now is in some place probably.

msc545 · Answer

I don't think I would do that. I really want to be with somebody who has a full range of emotional responsiveness.

themythos · Answer

I had a close friendship with someone with autism and I can honestly say no its an Emotional Rollercoaster

GoldenTulip · Answer

I wouldn't.. simply because i have form of autism myself. And then i would turn nuts... need someone to balance me out.

RawIronhide · Answer

I don't know. I never thought of it before. Are there issues that wouldn't arise in other relationships?

CubsterShura · Answer

The spectrum of autism is too big to have one definitive answer.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I have mental illnesses so I don't know all that I have I been diagnosed with Bipolar / Schizo-effective disorder Anxiety /Schizoid personality

zella54321 · Answer

Autism is a part of personality and for me its really imp. So, I wouldn't

Zoetpoet · Answer

I wouldn’t mind. If i truly loved the person it wouldn’t matter

Zelda_5 · Answer

I wouldn't not date them just because their autistic.

WesBrewer · Answer

Depends on where she is affected, if she looked good I am alright trying it out.

Anonymous · Answer

No I wouldn’t but I’ve had friends that had it mildly and for example would be socially awkward but idc. As friends I don’t mind but like dating nah

gemgem · Answer

I dont think it would be right to date a girl who is mentally retarded it would be like dating a child.

SenseiSeptred · Answer

I am not going to discriminate against myself by trying to avoid dating someone like that if it came up.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

It would depend on where they are on the autism spectrum.

Anonymous · Answer

I have a very mild disability on learning but I've been rejected because most girls don't like slow learners and they want more confident and more dormant men

Anonymous · Answer

It turns out yes I would. Although I didn't realise it at the start. You need a strong constitution, right?

AmeerX · Answer

Autism is not a disease. it is an altered state of mind

NightOwl8801 · Answer

My stepson has aspergers and is on the spectrum , I have a godson that is autistic

Iron_Man · Answer

If it’s that bad the way you talk about it then I probably won’t

Juxtapose · Answer

As an autistic person this comment section is going to be an interesting read lol.

Skankhunt · Answer

It depends on whether it will click between us or not. But I wouldn't exclude them

CapitalismFailed · Answer

Maybe if they were at the higher-functioning end of the spectrum.

Torari · Answer

I would, in autistic myself so we'd probably get along just fine.

Slim57 · Answer

Yes I think thats probably the only person I could connect with because I think I have some form myself but I don't know never been tested

shinnaeun · Answer

It would be hard at first but of course I would.

jjj101010 · Answer

I don’t see why it should be an issue. If u like them then why not

DrAdams · Answer

I would since I have ADHD

Remyhehim · Answer

Yes, I have and I don't regret a thing

siseñor · Answer

with mild autism maybe

SavageGirl101 · Answer

Naw I wouldn’t

Anonymous · Answer

I will definitely date after finding his character.

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