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Just for the record it is not racist if you just find certain ethnicities physically attractive.

Physical attraction isn’t a choice. Race is also a bullshit victim excuse some people use who can’t handle rejection (if it was due to looks). If a minority girl isn’t physically attracted to me because I’m white then she’s just not attracted to me. I might be disappointed but it’s just how it is. Not her fault because physical attraction isn’t a choice.

However if you do find someone of a different race attractive but won’t even give them a chance because of unfair prejudices that’s a different story. It’s one thing if you took the time to get to know them and you just found them incompatible. But quite another if you intentionally stayed away despite finding them attractive otherwise.

Anyway I have have dated outside my race plenty of times. But often found these women brought up racial differences more than I did. I had an Asian ex girlfriend who would say “ah white people” occasionally when she was frustrated with me over something. It didn’t bother me the much because she was young, beautiful and in love with me for a long stretch. But I rarely brought up race when dating and if I did it was usually positive (she was a good cook).

But still I truly believe women consider race more when it comes to dating then they will admit (white girls especially won’t admit that).

Again I do NOT think it’s “racist” to admit you don’t find a certain ethnicity attractive (but respect them otherwise). But I think women are secretly more picky about this.

This person (25F) and I (23M) have been talking. She works as a supervisor at my nearest grocery store where I live. During the many times we've seen each other very rarely will she smile or initiate a "hi" (but I'm not saying that doesn't totally exist). Most of the time I go out of my way to chat with her. I know some things about her via the answers she gave me to my questions. She's a Gemini, I'm a Capricorn. But that's pretty much the only thing I know personally about her. She didn't even ask about my last name, what ethnicity I am, or my phone number or social media info. (She knows very few things about me other than the fact that I used to work at Whole Foods and that I am now taking online school.) I recorded a few TikTok videos jokingly talking about how I met this girl and made some jokes about a particular, really cranky guy from a commercial that sells pillows. I told her jokingly that I was his godson, she said, "Oh yeah! I remember you!"

But lately, she's kinda been ghosting me, limiting to just short chit-chats. I don't think she's all that interested. She's likely lost all interest in me. Even today my aunt honked at me as I was JUST going to talk to this girl, but she didn't even notice me or the car honking.

I did ask if she's down for the gym or the movies, she said while she appreciates me asking her out, she cannot go out.

With that said, I gave her some flowers/roses on Mother's Day and she really appreciated it. But she didn't say anything when I hid a Valentine's Day card inside with some chocolates in a bag.

Sometimes I feel like an a—hole for not going out of my way to talk to her today. But few days ago I was exiting the store, she was just glancing at me for a second and didn't even do or say anything. I feel left out, excluded, psychologically burned out because of her betrayal. She acted so f—king nice to me.