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I help my ex with money when he was my boyfriend.
he is poor.

he broke up with me
he says we have no future because I don’t have a career and he has no job & too old to start anything in his view

he didn’t care to hurt me even if I said I didn’t care if he was poor.

I understand this we have nothing but it doesn’t mean we can’t try. In my view

he doesn’t want to work a regular low paying job he sees it as losers do that.

I had to beg him to be my friend, after the break up. he didn’t want to even talk to me.
i begged only until I could feel better. he blocks me a lot of I say things that make him mad and I have to repeatedly bag him to unblock me because I’m lonely.

having someone to talk to helps and I don’t have money to be paying a therapist.

I have money because my parents have money.

fast forward to today, i am still depressed but feel less sad on days we talk

sometimes he makes me more sad but overall at least I have someone to talk with

back to the purpose of the question

his mom suddenly became sick.
since he is poor he can’t afford to go to specialists and can only receive the medical attention that is free

she’s been in the hospital more than a week now,

still no answers on what is wrong and the situation is getting worse

she has pain, losing her vision & today they diagnose her with COVID

No answers on the initial problem but now gave her COVID. She did not have it when she got there.

he asked me if I could help him with money again
so that he can take her to a hospital in a better city

QUESTION:
would you Help him with money if you were me?

he’s obviously not going to pay me back because he’s Poor

i was saving money to do surgery on myself for aesthetic reasons.

somehow feels selfish to say no and then use the money I have to make myself look better.
if his mom gets sicker or dies I would feel guilty even though it’s not my responsibility.

what would you do?
advice?

My boyfriend started working late nights with a mortuary company. He started pretending he had calls to get done. I believed he was cheating so it got bad and we went our own way. I went to get my car back and caught him red handed with another girl in the car. That night I pulled up he offered me money to go home but I noticed a shadow in the drive way and I managed to run up to the car and found a girl with 2 kids. I didn’t fight her. I took her with me bc she didn’t have a way of getting home and had kids and he also got away in my other car ( I’m dumb af) later that night he broke into my room and was sleeping on my bed. I went through his phone and he had another girl he was actually having a sexual relationship with. I confronted him and exposed him on his IG page. His guy friends congratulated him for his actions, at the end of the day a lot of girl thanked me. I decided to get back with him and forgive him. When he finally took me to his new place he was renting I noticed pictures of a girl who looked familiar , second time around I recognized who it was. It’s his ex from years ago. I was mad but at the same time he brings me over and sometimes I cook there. I don’t know how to feel about it. She’s not always around but when she is she offers him food her mom cooked or she whines and wants to talk about how she got hurt that day , he doesn’t say much just gets back to his room. I just wonder if he had conversations with her before I came around and even ate with her. He’s friendly and doesn’t say no when someone offers him food/conversations. It only makes me wonder what else he’ll accept. I forgot to say the first night I slept over the ex came back & just opened his room door.. she saw me laying down. Since then she keeps her distant but wtf? I’m obviously in love with this guy and tolerate his bs. I’m 23 and he’s 30 He like to act like he doesn’t need me but at the same time he knows he has advantage bc my cars are under his name. I was 19 b4.