I don't know how to feel, any tips?

[PilotWhoPlays]

So i've been dating this girl for a little over 2 months and so far so good. We've been having great days together as we meet basically every day.

I just sometimes overthink, Maybe it's just because I'm insecure or I'm anxious but I just can't stop thinking about her past...

She's had 3 exes before me and has had ___ with all of them. The thing is, the ex just before me only dated her for a week but they still did so much that i've never done with her and they broke up not so long before we met. I don't know but it makes me feel uneasy, she's my first time so maybe that's why I feel very anxious but I just feel like she selects boys a little less carefully as her ex is a really bad person. I've already spoken with her about it but it doesn't seem to help really... I understand if she has a high sex drive but I just can't help to think about them together...

I just feel a bit like a second choice you know? Like a backup incase the boy she did want to be with didn't work out because there's more but I just don't want to get into detail here.

I understand that I'm just 16 but I really love her and she's the only person I've felt comfortable with and I never spoke to girls before her so maybe it's because of that but I just wonder sometimes how she ever liked her ex... I don't know.

I hope I can get some girl and boy opinions on this.
Feel free to leave some comments below I'm active to talk more about this.

[HighlyVolatile]

Present and future. It's not productive to dwell on the past if it upsets you and makes you anxious. You have to make peace with the past including the past of people you care about.

Everyone tends to have some sort of past. Even if you were with a virgin, she might have crushed so hard on another guy before, for example. It's very rare that a guy will be the only one a girl has ever desired in her life, but just because he isn't the first guy she ever wanted doesn't mean she wants him any less for it.

Love tends to manifest in a double-edge sort of way, especially when you're young. You can want someone so bad and that desire can also lead to a fear of losing them. Unfortunately, that fear can be the very thing that causes you to lose someone, so try to do your best to overcome it if you want the best chance of keeping her.

I might recommend Stoicism if you're down to study some philosophy. One of the things it focuses on besides learning to think more productively is to be able to cherish what you have without the accompanying fear of losing it.

[PilotWhoPlays]

I'm trying to make peace with the past and I've been better at it , it's just sometimes it just randomly pops up again and I just question myself you know? I will research Stoicism. Thanks for the advice anyways helps!

[HighlyVolatile]

Cheers!

[Anonymous]

Looks like you figured out how to successfully talk to girls very early in life