Personally, I don't know many good relationships. My parents are divorced, most of my friends are bitter single babymamas, and most people around me are in unhappy relationships and marriages. Or they cheat like crazy. In the hood, if you're not getting cheated or abused (physical, verbal, etc) they pretty much consider that a great relationship because the standards are so low. But I feel there's more to making your partner happy than that- those should be a given, not "high standards".
I see movies, but let's face it, they center more on what women want in relationships vs what men want. Most romance in the media - books, movies, TV etc is centered on the guy wooing the woman, him trying everything to please her and just the female idealized version of love. I'd love to see more on the man's idea of love (and no I don't mean porn). So before y'all go making fun of me, y'all can see I don't have many good examples to go off of. And I just really want my boyfriend to be extremely happy and satisfied because he does so much for me. Like will random flowers make men smile as much as it does to us? I know a lot of comedy shows joke that all men want is silence, make him a sandwich and please him sexually, but I feel that's too simplistic to be true. But I don't know, I'm not a guy so maybe that is the secret formula to keeping your man happy. What are little and big things that make men happy?
Yes I ask him but he says as long as I'm happy he's happy but I feel like there's more I could do!
TLDR: I'm just looking for tips on what makes men extremely happy in relationships? What do y'all like? Thank you :)
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Be yourself and set boundaries and advocate for yourself. Relationships start out great because people overlook each other's flaws but then after the first 6 months you start realizing true colors and what people are really made of. If you don't speak up for yourself your partner will continue to do things that may unintentionally hurt or disrespect you and you WILL resent them for it. In a relationship you shouldn't listen to the Hollywood BS where people are just programmed to make you happy. Being happy and fufilled takes work. It takes sitting down and teaching your partner how to treat you and maybe your friends/family on trivial things and on big things. It also takes being steely enough when your partner does the same. No partner is perfect and they will hurt you, but it takes strength to stand up to your partner and advocate change for both of you, rather than just hash out blame from pent up frustration. People will talk about giving and giving, but have your own boundaries so that you dont empty and lose yourself in the process.
I kind of agree with you I just dont think setting boundaries is healthy sure talk about what bothers you but dont tell them they can do something for instance I dont believe in telling my significant other they can't flirt with other guys now I know most people would so "oh I could never do that if my significant other even looks at someone imma cut a bitch" which is understandable
but I didn't say it's ok for them to flirt with another person I just tell them how I would feel if they did or do flirt with another person. If you tell someone they can't do something it makes them want to do it more I'm sure majority of us have rebelled in are lifetime and you got a rush from the thought of "oh I might get caught" even if you didn't like doing it you might have found your self more prone to doing it just for that rush so in my opinion tell your significant other how it makes you feel and if they dont feel bad about looking at other girls/guys or flirting with them then I dont think there heart is with you cause I know if my girlfriend told me that I would understand how they felt and I would remember that when I happened to see an attractive girl
@Boo_Boo_Bumpkin for me setting boundaries is not telling the other person what they can and can’t. Because we can’t control other people. We can only decide on what we will do if they treat us poorly. Fx let’s say your partner speaks at you with a bad language, you can say “When you talk to me like that, I feel hurt and I won’t talk with you until you can speak to me in a proper language”. That’s not about controlling them, but you are showing it is unacceptable to you and what you are gonna do about it. About flirting, yes don’t say you can’t do this and that. But definitely let them
Know you don’t like it, that you find it unattractive and would never do such a thing because how would they feel if they were in your shoes. It is really not about telling people what they can and can’t but about showing what you can and can’t accept.