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i pointed him out on the basketball court and was like “oh he’s sooo cute” and ever since then when we would see him around campus i would gush about him to her. She said “he looks crazy.” And i said “ yea he does but he’s still cute.” Then i spoke to him for the 1st time later. m, Saying, “i like your tattoos” he said “thank you, is that it?”. I was like “ yea.” cause it didn’t seemed like he wasn’t interested and was actually a bit rude. It hurt but i was able to get over it. So then maybe 2 weeks later my best friend says “ Drey (the ball player) is actually really nice he’s not crazy at all.” It caught me off guard and I’m like “y’all know each other?” She then says that she only befriended him to use him for car rides. Which sounded like a dumbs lie, then she started telling me how he was texting her Paragraphs of how beautiful she is and how she should let him treat her like a queen. Ironically My best friend is “dating” his basketball teammate, and she would always complain about what he said to her but still would not cut ties with him even after he continued it. Once he came to our dinner table, Sat across from me next to her and was like “ Can i get you something to drink.” Im not even gonna lie, the rejection AND attention he gave her over me was hurtful and made me jealous i can admit. Now she’s like they’re best friends and it’s obvious he's just trying to wait till another guy messes up. I don’t have the right to tell someone who they can and can’t be “friends” with, but it Honestly hurts my feelings that my friend would be so comfortable letting this happen when she knew i had a crush on him and talked about him. I don’t know what to do cause i know it’s not worth losing our friendship over but at the same time i don’t like this. i kinda distanced myself from her. I feel like she just disregarded my feelings as long as everything was good for her. I don’t want to control her so i just decided to make other friends, is this the right way?

So I’ve worked for my company for two years and I’ve known since early on that my boss is really really good friends with the head of HR and part owner of our firm.

As I got to know more people outside of the office certain things would be mentioned in casual conversations.

During a Fitbit competition I was complaining about the two women always sneaking in extra steps before midnight. A guy told me, well “they” have all those dogs and they have to be walked one at a time. My boss told me she didn’t own dogs.

Finally someone mentioned the HR/ Owner was trying to stall my boss from leaving their house this morning. So I finally ask a friend if they live together and she said yes, she didn’t know that they were in a relationship until a couple of years ago. So she worked for the company for 4 years before someone let her in on the secret.

I feel pretty silly and a bit hurt. I think at least at a basic level maybe not legally but ethically I probably had some right to know about the conflict of Interest.

But mostly I just feel like a fool recalling throughout today all of the times my boss directly lied to me about certain details or concealed details about where she lives, who she went on vacation with and basically everything.

Why keep it secret it does more harm than just letting it come up through the course of conversation. And it isn’t a secret applied consistently, most people know and many actively aide in the cover up.

It really feels like lie by omission and I just feel a little disrespected by the whole charade. Like maybe people I work with felt it was time I should know. HR and my boss both know I found out but didn’t come to talk to me about it.