Search Results: should i wait for her boyfriend

It’s been three months since we have known each other. We walk together on the way to our classes, he would wait for me. Must people would say that he likes me or he is my boyfriend. We act like a couple but the thing is that I am two years older than him. Someone asked him if I were his girlfriend, he said, “no, she is a friend.” As soon as they walked away, he told me, “Unless you want to be my girlfriend.” I looked at him because I was shocked, I wanted to say yes (we had mask on due to covid) but he continued and told me, “Just kidding, I am focusing on education.” I am also focusing on the education, we had the same goal. I thought about it lately to ask him out but I am afraid he would reject me since I know that he focuses on his education. Help me out older brothers and sisters.

Do you support living together before marriage? Why or why not?

I personally think it’s important to know what you’re getting yourself into before getting married. I know several couples that waited until they were married to move in together and divorced within a year because they couldn’t live together.

I’m also asking because my boyfriend of almost 4 years and I don’t currently live together but spend the night at each other’s 5x a week. I also don’t want to be the one to ask, but he’s buying a house this month and my rent is up in 8 months. I still have some time to figure out where I’m going to live, but I can’t help but imagine living together and how it would be. We discussed it almost a year ago and said we weren’t ready, but we’ve grown a lot as a couple and individually so I’m curious if he still feels that way. Is there a way I can be casual about asking or getting him to ask me? We talk about marriage sometimes but I don’t see that happening for another few years.

I know that there’s outside factors other than time that determine this, but I’m purely curious about the time frame.

For the poll, when did you move in with your significant other?