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Well as we all know that the media and left encourages hookup culture and/or promiscuity and takes newer generations away from relationships
that being said, do you think that hookup culture or the culture non-relationship sexual arrangements is diminishing the future prospects for women for having a relationship?

Because what I have seen is most of the teen and young adults who sleep around because they can without thinking of the future and how this isn't good for them end up with either self esteem issues where they end up in bad relationships again and again which takes a toll on their mental and emotional health since they don't seem to find the right partner.

Or

Once past the ages of 24-25 these women start to yearn for a fulfilling relationship with a loving partner who respects them and showers them with love with a possibility of being married down the line, but the non-douche, non-assholic guys who look for relationship usually stay away from those ladies who have a past of sleeping around and promiscuity because that shows a tendency of inability to hold serious relaationships which might lead to the guys ending hurt or being cheated on in the end.
And to be honest, if I were a guy, I'd have the same outlook.
I was one of those women in my late teens, but someone woke me up and made me realize the situation and changed since then.

But I hate it when I see women breaking down emotionally for not being able to find the right guys after years and years of sleeping around, hookups, friends with benefits.

I have been with my SO for almost 13 years. I have a male friend that I've known for almost 20 years. My SO knows my friend sort of. Me and my friend didn't get to see each other often but when we did we always fooled around unless we were in a relationship. Years into our friends with benefits we decided to try being in a relationship but that didn't work out but we remained friends. My SO does not know anything about our relationship just that we are friends. Me and this friend lost contact for a couple of years but we are now talking again. Our conversation are always a bit flirty, but recently he said I should fly out to see him ( he's 1000's of KM away) so we could cuddle. First I would never fly anywhere without my SO. But I have really been thinking about how much I miss him and cuddling with him. I don't want to do anything sexual with him I just want to cuddle. Would you consider this as cheating even if it's nothing sexual?
Sorry this is so long!

It should be noted that over that ten years period he's been involved with this ex both when he was single and also when he had a girlfriend. Always this this one girl, and his only explanatio when I've asked him is that it wasn't a big deal. But i find it hard to believe because girls flirt with him a lot and he didn't just cheat in the past with whoever. Its always been this one ex who he refuses to just cut all off all contact with.