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Let's say you meet a handsome 30 year old man who makes you laugh, but he's a bit rude at times and makes fun of girls who he finds are fat and ugly. He also made fun of a fat girl with special needs and called her a fat, ugly bit*ch but he always told you were beautiful but still pointed out things you can improve on Physically and his love for bone straight hair. His mother always took good care of him and spoiled him as a kid but he was bullied for being fat. He wanted you to pay for the first date, meals, and he doesn't plan on buying you anything or even paying for future dates. He's always asking for people's money, including you and he hasn't had a job in 13 years.

date him or no

We met on Tinder and he clarified to me that he wants a relationship.

We talked for 2 months before we actually met. He flopped twice on meeting me and I flopped once. The first time he flopped, his reason was because his sister got pregnant and his mother was mad. He had to deal with the situation. The next time we set up a date, I flopped because my relative came over from another country. The 3rd time we set up a date, he flopped again and I was really mad. I got ready and when the time came, he never showed up and ignored my calls. Hours later, he sent me a text saying he does want to meet me and something came up. I just stopped talking to him. 2 weeks later, he messaged me saying that he wants to fix things and try again. I accepted it.

When we met, it was good. He was obviously very attracted to me. He apologized to me for what happened and that something really bad happened to him. We have been talking everyday ever since. We set up a 2nd date and it was supposes to be today. 2 days before, he said he won a ticket at work to see a game so can't make it. He rescheduled to the next day. Yesterday, he said he might can't make it. I asked him why and he said he's to deal with what he mentioned to me in person. I was disappointed when he said he can't make it. We talked on the phone and he told me the issue he was dealing with. One of his family member owes shark loans a lot of money. His family member don't have the money so he took over the debt. He lost a lot of money and still paying them. He has been feeling really stressed & not being himself so he doesn't want to see me. Later, he told me he has been dealing with this issue for awhile. He told me not to tell anyone about it just incase if we get into a relationship he don't want people to judge him.

He told me that he wants me but don't want to jump into a relationship. I don't know if he's lying or he's being serious about it. Does he sound like a player?

I don't like people paying for me. For some reason it makes me uncomfortable. I don't date much but I always offer to pay my part of the bill because I think that's fair.

The social norms of dating obviously vary in different cultures. Who do you think should pay?