I just want to share my story about the worst dating experience I've had. I feel like venting since I've learned about certain details today and want to write everything out so I can put a lid on it and move on. If you're keen for an interesting story (it's like something out of a movie) read on:
A bit of a backstory: My girlfriend of a year cheated on me and we broke up. I started dating other girls asap to get over my girlfriend ( I know dumb). Went home for the holidays (about 2.5 months post-breakup) to give myself some time to heal. It did wonders and I finally felt like me again. As I went to check into my return flight there was a glitch and it chose the wrong seat for me, tried to fix it but couldn't. It was a middle sit and I hated middle seats, I spent a lot of time trying to change it but to no avail. I've never tried to change my airplane seat before, foreshadowing?
So on this transpacific flight a girl sat next to me, lets call her M. Lucky me that I couldn't change my seat I thought, she was very pretty. Long story short we really hit it off and she even spent a few hours sleeping on my shoulder and I had my hand on her lap. I knew I liked her right away and could tell she was very attracted to me as well. I had to see her again so I asked her if she wanted to share a cab since we lived like 10min away from each other. She agreed and I decided that's where I was going to make my move. Just as I was about to ask her out she got a call and it turns out that it was her boyfriend. She never mentioned a boyfriend to me on the entire flight, she mentioned a friend and flatmate, but no boyfriend.
She told me that she was actually just about to break up with him. They had been together for 3 years and she hadn't felt happy for the past year and knows he's not the one. She also revealed that she had cheated on him several times. I told her that I was just about to ask her out before she got that call and she lit up like a lightbulb. She gave me her contact info right before her boyfriend came to the taxi to help her with her luggage.
I couldn't stop thinking about this chick. She had IT. After 2 weeks, I caved and asked her how she was doing. She asked me out for drinks right away. A week later we met for a quick one hour afternoon lunch since I had very important exams in two days that I had to study for and didn't have much time. She convinced me to have a drink, one drink turned to two then three. She convinced me to stay with her and not leave early.
I was mesmerised. I never experienced that much pure chemistry before. M told me she couldn't believe she had only known me for such a short time, she said it felt like we knew each other for years. The date didn't end until 3am. We stayed up drinking wine, making love, watching a movie (well little snippets of it ;), and talking about our life and basically everything. WE could tell each other anything. It was by far the best date of my life. I walked away that morning thinking that I just had my last first date.
The next two weeks were magic. We were great together and vibed off each other so well. We had some very memorable dates and would even spend entire days together. She told me I was the type of guy she'll always instantly fall for. How I was such an amazing guy and she was so happy to have met me. She told me that her cousin was coming to visit her and that she was going to be distant for the next 3 weeks. I thought that was odd, but whatever this girl was crazy into me. I've never had a girl be that into me before and I'm in my late 20's, I've been around the block if you will. On our last date she made me walk her to her work and told me that she wanted me to stay with her forever and to never ever leave her. I comforted her. She also told me she wanted to give us a shot.
Three weeks went by and she pretty much ghosted me. I did run into her and her cousin a couple days after he landed. She was oddly cold. After I knew her cousin was gone I texted and asked if she wanted to come over for a dinner party I was hosting. She agreed. She came over and things were just different. She was still affectionate towards me, but something felt off. At the end of the night she left when the expectation was she was going to spend the night. I called her out on it and her odd behaviour over the last 3 weeks and she told me we'd talk about it later as she got into the cab.
A few days later she texted me and told me we needed to talk. I told her if she wanted to break things off to just do it over the phone since I didn't feel like having her drag it out any longer or seeing her to just get dumped. She convinced me to see her in person since she told me it wasn't what I thought and she wanted to explain some things. We met at this random dive bar. She told me that she was crazy about me, but all of this was happening so fast and she had just gotten out of a 3 year relationship and needed some time to heal. I called her out and told her that was bs and to just be honest. She stuck to her guns and told me she never felt that way about someone before and she wanted to try again in the future when she has her shit together.
I went to leave and she wouldn't let me. She was crying and hugging me and telling me she didn't want me to go. We agreed to have one last hurah date for the hell of it. Things were back to how they were in those two weeks, magic. She ended up telling me that I checked off everything on her list for the guy she wants to marry. She told me that she'd come visit me when I move and that we should definitely give it a try when we're able to and she feels better. She then told me she wanted to have my babies and spend over 30min talking about all the details. She couldn't keep her hands off of me the entire night or paying me compliments or telling me how much she liked me. At the end of the night I walked her back to her place because she wanted us to take polaroid pics together so we could have something physical to remember each other by.
A few days later I asked her out again and she declined saying she needed space. Three months later I tagged her on a random fb article I knew she'd like and she blocked me. I was confused and hurt to say the least. I wrote her a letter telling her how I felt and apologised for anything I could have done wrong (I knew it was a million to one, but she was worth that chance to me). I never heard back from her.
That brings us to today. This morning I was feeling sad and lonely and googled her name (it's been almost 2 months since the letter). I know stupid and unhealthy, but fuck it, I was weak. One of the links sounded interested. I clicked on it and I shit you not it was a site to rsvp her wedding. The guy she was marrying was the cousin who had come to visit her. Obviously he wasn't her cousin. Having just been cheated on in my last relationship I suspected this from the very start before he even came to visit her. Long story short they share a similar last name because of reasons so her story that he was her cousin technically checked off even though he wasn't and hence why I trusted her, I did do my research and didn't blindly trust her.
From the info that I could gather from the site it turns out that she would cheat on her boyfriend of 3 years every time she'd visit her hometown. So she had already told the guy to come visit her when she met me. So she basically cheated on her future husband with me. When he came over she felt guilty. Broke things off, but lied about the reasons and used a reason that she could conveniently use if things failed with that guy and she wanted to get back together with me. Even after he came to visit her she told me she wanted to have my babies and that she never felt this way before. She wrote the same bs on the site about her fiance, ha. Finally, last and certainly not least. I know her wedding coordinater, what a small fucking world. She's getting married at the place where my ex of a year used to work (the one that cheated on me from the beginning of the story). I know all the workers there.
I wanted to share this story as a warning to others. Don't be as blind as I was and be careful to whom you give your heart to, some people are lying selfish assholes.
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