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Once upon a time I felt guilty about “hook ups” in my late teens and early 20s. Back then I actually had a few girls hop on me. I would follow up with them later to just hang out, just to be “nice”. Other guys would say “wtf you doing? You got your half”. Surprisingly there are some women who use men for sex. It’s much less insulting on male side when this happens. It does leave a bit of a hollow feeling though.

I also acted chivalrous and “took things slow” with the girls I really liked. That got me friendzoned 100% of the time. Every single time.

I’m my late 20s I just started banging everything in site. I have had three relationships in last 8 years. (From 8 months to a year long). Every single one these relationships we had sex within the first 3 dates.

When it comes down to it I WANT to take things slow and get to know a woman for who she is before sex. I could even wait to marriage for the right woman. But does that kind of woman only exist in the strict religious sectors? I’m spiritual myself but I’ve never found a woman I was crazy about in church. Please no rude atheist remarks to that observation. thanks.

But again I’m I guaranteed to get friend zoned EVERY time I try to take things slow? Nothing worse than putting in all that effort and anticipation just to be ditched for being too chivalrous and boring.