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So you start dating your best friend who you've had a huge crush on for months - He is caring, shares a similar sense of humour to you, is physically attractive to you, seems to be decently honest & loyal, is understanding when you are anxious/irritated by something rather than being annoyed, reassures you when you need it, and promises on your and his life that you are his one true love and even wants to marry you!

Problem? He doesn't put much effort into the relationship or show much eagerness to see you. After 10 months you have not been on one date together and mainly just hang out in each others houses in one of your rooms all day apart from a few exceptions where you go on a trip with their family or a short trip such as Tesco alone with them. You are growing bored of this. Your mum even keeps saying maybe he's more like a friend.

You fear you are starting to lose interest in him though still like him a bit but things desperately need to be sorted v/soon. You're not sure if he is the right one for you which pains you but you keep feeling uncomfortable about it and your family do not think you have ever been very happy with your boyfriend.

You have spoke to him about it a few times now but only very recently have been firmer with it. He says he will do everything he can to keep you and even gets very upset when he fears losing you, to the point of crying and having "that sinking feeling".

You want to work things out but are worried you may just be pro-longing the break up. He is also currently the only guy you are all that interested in and possibly the only one who is that understanding of your problems.

You see each other twice a week for 9 hours though it used to be just once a week + he has in the past cancelled meeting with excuses like being tired and his leg and back aching a bit from when he went on Alton Towers ride.

What would you do?

After 14 months of a turbulent relationship with my partner who admits he is not good with relationships of any sort (quite antisocial), can be rude and unaware of healthy boundaries, but he is trying so hard to be better at all of the above and loves me very much and it is mutual. Both of us realize we are out of options when it comes to being together and having a normal and stable relationship, because we have tried different things to help the relationship to go the right way, end up at another roadblock. I don't want to leave him as I hope we will pull through one day soon, but I have been let down so many times and with important things like my safety, health, financial stability, and my trust in him as a reliable and honest partner. Forgiving him and trying to move on doesn't do us a great deal of favor. Trying to address things with him sometimes ends up being called it "bitching and moaning", which makes me want just to keep my mouth shut and get on with things as they are. When take time to come up with a constructive way to speak with him about it he peaks up and tries to address it himself without realizing that I might not always be ready to talk. This also upsets him. if I am not ready to communicate I can say something unintentionally that would upset him as well (he is sensitive one and takes things too close to heart). Hence I try to talk less about what is on my mind until I am clear what exactly that is so I can tell him in a constructive way. During our fights the truth comes out in the most ridiculous way through shouting it out and bringing up the past issues, and overreacting. When he gets aggressive police gets called in, he has been asked to go twice. Fighting drains both of us, and we both strong headed. I often have suicidal thoughts during our fights, and every time say to my self this is the last time. Few days/couple of weeks he is back into my life, because he loves me and hopes for the best with us and so do I. Thank you all.