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I had this happen a few times when I was younger. I refrained to hit it fast because I saw her as a girlfriend potential and wanted something long term (there was definitely making out involved).

On three different occasions this approach ended the worst way possible for me (permanent friendzone). Lots of hope, heart, effort, time, money and worst of all my self esteem / reputation was completely really damaged. .

But seriously at what point do you risk her assuming your okay with being just a platonic friend

This doesn’t apply of course if she legitimately wants to wait to marriage. But if she says that then she better have very low number or be a virgin. High number women in this scenario are completely bullshitting you. Especially if they just recently slept was someone else before they met you.

Lets face it , 30 and under age group have it pretty well today. They don't have the restrictions we had growing up. The women can dress like a tramp in school and work and nothing is said. Guys can wear pants down to ankles and caps and tattoos in school and work and nothing is said. When they wanted a car , parents buy them a new one. My parents wouldn't. They knew one car meant 3 cars with 3 sons. Didn't buy any of us a house. We didn't get all the toys at Christmas either. Now I understand why. To keep us hungry to succeed and buy our own stuff. Today , if JR wants it , he gets it. This why all the 30 or younger people think everything should be free to them. They don't want to work or work their way up the ladder. They think they should be given A's in college no matter the effort, it should be free, and when they get out a job should be waiting, and this job should pay them $300,000 a year. They have no drive (unless a fictional one) and just hope Socialism takes root in America. If we just had Socialism I will be saved. They don't want marriage and kids. Just ME ME ME!. This is why the US is doomed. Not Capitalism or Free Market's fault, but the people who make up the country. You can't expect a person to work and contribute is everything has been given to them.

In my experience, younger people do not often go on a first date and say, "I'm really looking for someone who is a good match for me so we can settle down and get married." I guess the thinking is that such a declaration would scare the living bejeezus out of your date and they'd run for the exit.

BUT. . . if your date feels that they aren't ready for marriage, wouldn't it be better to discover that now, rather than after you have been dating for three months and started falling for him/her? Do you talk about your dating goals on a first or second date?