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This is my list of the many things my ex boyfriend has done:
- Lied about his real age for many years. If I knew, I wouldn't have dated him.
- Lovebombed and lied about a future, lied about wanting kids
- Succeeded in draining most of my fertile years (I'm now 34 years old and childless)
- Defamed my father (he plotted a rumor with his female friend) and my mother nearly filed for divorce
- Messed with my mother's health by lying about her plotting things in our relationship. This made her cholesterol levels (out of stress) and heart beat to rapidly increase.
- Scammed me with over $1,200 and never paid it back
- Was obviously cheating the whole time and likely used my money on women
- Said ''when your grandma dies, don't talk to your aunt anymore''. He was after money.
- I eventually discovered he wanted my parents to already put me in their living will so he can get 1/2 of my portion.. he one said ''your dad should already include you; who knows when your parents will die.

I saw a guy for a few months back in my early twenties. I settled with him because no one better came around, bad decision hence I should have waited for someone that really met what I was looking for. I was a virgin at the time, he was not. I really tested him with my virginity. I didn’t want to have sex right away, I wanted him to get tested for STDs which he did. After a month in, we finally did have sex but he did say that he wouldn’t have waited if I decided to hold off until marriage. When he visited, he bought almost everything he covered the bill 80+% of the time. But he wasn’t romantic, he made it clear there were times when he was romantic with his exes and he knew I wanted the same type of chivalry. All he did was take me out to dinner for Valentine’s Day. He bought us a cruise package for his birthday but again no romantic gestures, more just taking out his wallet to cover the bare minimum. The other red flag id say is he talked about his exes more than I would have liked, even though he knew I was suspicious of that. He kept on saying that he was over them, he brought them up because he happened to have a lot of his social experiences with them

My ex used me and stayed with me for a year , he pretended to love me for a year , but then he ghosted me out of nowhere , it's been 7months since we split , he calls me somtimes after he ghosted me but only to talk about sex and sex , only now he told me he's sorry for playing with my feeling after I told him that I know the truth that he is with another girl I mentioned to him her name , she's an ex of his , he told me he never loved me , and he didn't even find me attractive to begin with, I wish i was his ex he chose her because she's preety and I can't get over this, it's been 5 days I'm depressed can't get out of bed , I starve myself all day , should I send him a last message to tell him everything that's going in my head and what i feel and wish him good luck in life for the last time?