My father stalks people on social media?

[sheikalana]

My father is a 60 year old man who doesn't have a job for the past 10 years because he doesn't want to. Spends the day home taking naps, smoking, drinking and doing a lot of nothing and loves stalking people on social media he even has a software that enables him to check pictures that people hide from others. Years ago I had a boyfriend and once he knew his full name he stalked all his social media accounts sent me screen shots and sent him friends requests which my then boyfriend didn't accept. I wouldn't accept either if I was my ex I'm a very private person and only a very limited number of people have access to me and my social media. I've noticed he's been doing this all over the years to other people. My mom recently got a new job and today he sent me inappropriate pictures of her new boss Lord knows where he got those pictures from and a full description of who the lady is. I was like WTF why would someone do that don't you have a life? I didn't even answer. He even knows this lady's dietary restrictions. Should I say something?

[Anonymous]

Honestly society is set up to help with those type of behaviors. Just Google the term "person look up" all they need is a first and last name approximate age and a location they have lived (an address is best but something like a city or zip can be used just as well. Then you go through the names look for anything common example my dad has his new wives (my step mom) as well as my birth mother meaning if I saw that I'd know it was my dad's info. Sometimes the amount of info on those sites are down right scary (public records) such as people who received mail at that address for any period of time will be associated with their name. Phone numbers (so if you had an old one you can track them like that) prison records, land deeds... In short information today is So public I'd be more surprised if they searched someone and found "Nothing" no record at all.

[sheikalana]

I think that only works if you live in certain parts of the world.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I'm sorry he does this and no offense but this is scary
also, I hope he isn't secretly chatting with underage
females or males online Lord only knows if this is
going on also this is a dangerous acts he's doing
his addictions could be causing this to happen
he could be hiding things from you and your mother
please correct me for any reason you feel to do so

[sheikalana]

I don't think he talks to underage people but I've caught him chatting with other women online tho.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@sheikalana It's sad and hope something will solve this matter
I can't imagine my father using software to bring up photos of
my ex gfs this would dumb found me for sure

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[Anonymous]

What a coincidence. I also do know a guy, who's around the same age with your father. He also doesn't work and he's been constantly hitting on girls online, some of them young enough to be his own daughter or granddaughter... He even lies for his age to lure young girls in... Geez

[sheikalana]

I sincerely hope he's not doing it. If he does I'm pretty sure he's catfishing because I doubt any young woman/girl would be interested in him. That is just insane.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, the photos he's using, are 20 y. old.

[Opinion Owner]

by the way why did you downvote me?

[sheikalana]

Not at all that was not me!

[sheikalana]

Thank you for answering tho.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I am sorry then

[weysally]

that would depend, if you want to break all ties with him then yes, but don't forget, one can block all contact on the media,

[Carolus]

.. and how do you know what he does everyday? Probably because you live in the same house. Him have a life? He already have a life. My question, why can you have your own place, block him and have a life? It’s like expecting a stone to move away from your path for you to pass.

[sheikalana]

I do not live in the same house neither in the same country as my parents.

[Carolus]

Then, if it’s your mother who have been giving this information, tell her to stop, its her husband, her marriage, her life remember. What you aren’t interested to know can’t hurt you. If you are interested to know what he did everyday, then don’t complain. Tell him to stop sending shit and if he doesn’t, block him. Focus on your life

[sheikalana]

You're telling me to block my own father as if this is a valid reason to block someone. It's my father, not a friend.

[Carolus]

You never heard of abusive parent (s)? Who even end up in jail? In your opinion, parent (s) should violate their children’s lives and walk because they are the parent (s)? Then I don’t know what you complaining about. No offense though but people need to disagree to agree.

[noohair]

He seem to have marketable internet skills that he uses for bad behavior. Sorry for that. I hope you don't have to live there. I don't expect him to change much. If he is doing something illegal, that is an issue.

[sheikalana]

I don't expect him to change much either I mean he's on his 60s. I just wanted him to understand this is not right. I know he once hacked a friend's computer Lord knows why.

[noohair]

Hackers have power and he feel that power. Age has little to do with it. He seems to be freeloading but may be an alcoholic with other psych issues. All the best to you, sorry.

[sheikalana]

He's not exactly a pro-hacker he just learned how to sneak in other people's computers years ago when it was easier to do it.

[AviatorTom]

You can say something but I doubt he's going to change what he's doing.

[sheikalana]

I doubt it too.

[blurpblurp]

Should probably tell your dad to pursue investigator field. It's creepy but then if it's his hobby, why not make money out of it.

[Waldoe]

why bother... he will only make up a lame excuse... sorry he is such a creep

[Elise888888]

Such a mean comment. She is looking for help not for you to insult her family member.

[driven159]

we all hope you don't be like him he needs help it is not much of a man lets his wife work when he does nothing not much of a man

[sheikalana]

I will never be like him and he's everything I don't want in a man.

[driven159]

he's not a man just a waste of flesh

[sheikalana]

That makes me sad cuz he's my father but it's the truth.

[driven159]

yes, I had shit for parent, but I made my self-better in spite of them just like you do want to be anything like him I am proud of you

[Jerre]

I don’t think it will do any good to tell him, only burn the relationship between you and your father.

[sheikalana]

I know that's the main reason why I never said anything. Our relationship has never been good but I don't think what he does is right either.

[Amoebaaa]

He is weird... You should do something about it.

[sheikalana]

I agree it's a very weird behavior.

[collie22]

i would want to warn people somehow

[sheikalana]

I want to tell him this is a very weird behavior but we've never been good friends and I don't know how to start the conversation.

[Anonymous]

He's a pervert!

[Elise888888]

Rude comment.

[Opinion Owner]

Truth is rude

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

How do you know he's a pervert? What if he's doing this for what he considers a good reason. Such as what if my daughter is wrongfully fired... We could use this to help negotiate he return to work... (Good old fashioned Black Mail)... Still messed up a bit but at least it's not cause he's a "pervert" the truth is WE don't know his reasons. Maybe it's so that he can feel like he's still connected to the outside world? Maybe it's like bird watching he tried it once found it interesting and now just does it to see if he'll find anything new? Or perhaps you're right and he is a pervert... Honestly though the only one who knows for sure is him.