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I’m going to try to sum this up as much as I can: I met this guy who’s a 2nd year law student on a dating site a couple months ago. He asked me on the first date, went well, I asked him for the second. Things were fine, he’d text me good morning almost every morning and check in throughout the day.

My issue stemmed from the fact that he hasn’t made an effort to see me in about a month but still texts me everyday (except one night a couple weeks ago, during a trip with his close friends, he was drunk and texted me that he wanted me there with him... turned into some dirty talk on both of our ends but we left it at that and didn’t bring up sex again)

Another issue is that when texting each other, I’d feel like I’m the one carrying the conversation. I believe relationships can’t be built on texts alone and honestly I’d rather FaceTime or call. I asked him to call me once, he said he would, but ended up not doing so.

After the second date, I felt like he was kinda pulling away. We’re both going into finals (I’m finishing my bachelor’s). My whole thing is, I get that law school is super busy. I know that especially around this time of the year, there’s not always time to hang out. I already pointed it out once when I felt he was pulling away and he apologized and explained what was going on with school.

I’m not sure why, but at some point last week, I had enough. He was days away from starting his finals and our conversations were turning into small talk sporadically. I just haven’t responded to him at all and it’s been days.

Part of me feels bad “ghosting” just because I know he’s been super stressed school and finals, and maybe I shouldn’t take this personally. The other part of me feels like he’s really not interested (I’ve felt this way for a while, we’re also both still active on the dating site) so it’s better for me to just walk away instead of waiting for him to do so. What do you think I should do?

I'd personally rather be alone, I sleep better that way, and so does he, because I'd have to get up and blow my nose all the time.

So he really TRIES.
That's the thing though. It is he tries to make me happy by doing the things he knows I would be happy about but he doesn't want to. He would rather be with his buddies playing video games.

For example: he tries at work. He is the best at his job. But he hates his job. He is stressed because of his job. He just wants to quit and play video games all day and night. This is now he feels about me as well. I feel lile he isn't good for me. Maybe another girl. I joke that he is better off alone and not married.

Obviously (or hopefully) no one would date anyone like these but if you had to decide, which would be most tolerable to date? Personally I’d pick murderer since they’d be doing me a favor 🤣🤣 but in all seriousness I’d rather die alone than date one of these

I just don’t understand how I fail to attract a man that I want. I know I’m only 26 but am 100% certain that I’ll end up alone. I know I’m not beautiful but should be able to attract a decent man. I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years with no success, here’s my luck: 1) the attractive guys are just flighty/want sex, 2) the decent looking guys that have a decent personality are just too short for my preference and 3) the ones with the good personalities are just not attractive. Why can’t I find a guy that’s tall, decent looking and not a dick? I mean I’m not morbidly obese, I’m thick but I thought there’s guys who dig that. Even a little slimmer, men did not talk to me. I lost a lot of weight 3 years ago assuming that would result in more attention From the opposite sex and it hasn’t. Is this common or is there just something terribly wrong with me? I don’t feel the urge to have casual sex, I don’t really care for sex much at all. I don’t even masturbate, the only guy that I ever “dated” was just not attractive and I was so angry that I couldn’t get better. I’m glad that ended, I know my worth. I’d rather be alone then settle and be miserable, I live by that.