Hi everyone,
I’ve met this cute girl in college and we instantly had a connection. We confided tons of secrets; deep thoughts; etc. We’re getting to know eachother pretty well. At that time she dated an abusive boyfriend.
I said I had feelings for her at that moment, but she said “Let’s just be friends.” And that’s what I did. I love her friendship a lot.
Then she broke up with him (he cheated on her).
I made sure to be there for her as a friend first and offered tons of help and my attention. After a few months, when all things seemed to settle down in her life, I said I still had feelings for her. Again she said “I really want to stay friends.” (“Really” meaning as in she didn’t want to lose me as a friend.) So after this, I gave up on the romance.
I took my space and started doing things that I enjoy rather than giving her all my attention again. I think she noticed my lack of responses and attention. I wasn’t ignoring her at all, I kept being polite and sweet to her; just not as frequently anymore. Needed to shake my feelings for her.
Very recently she started to message me on my personal number, whatsapp and messenger; trying to get a hold of me. I was working till 23pm so I couldn’t answer. Then she called me the morning after saying she was worried sick about me.
After that she invited me twice to her house. We were alone both times and the second time she cooked for me and we listened to music all night, while laughing and talking. She said she was extremely happy to see me and hoped that I had enjoyed myself. I did ofcourse.
Now I’m confused on wether she likes me as a good friend or now more romantically.
Someone please give me some advice/answers; I’m getting desperate for either confirmation and/or closure...
Thanks in advance!
I’ve met this cute girl in college and we instantly had a connection. We confided tons of secrets; deep thoughts; etc. We’re getting to know eachother pretty well. At that time she dated an abusive boyfriend.
I said I had feelings for her at that moment, but she said “Let’s just be friends.” And that’s what I did. I love her friendship a lot.
Then she broke up with him (he cheated on her).
I made sure to be there for her as a friend first and offered tons of help and my attention. After a few months, when all things seemed to settle down in her life, I said I still had feelings for her. Again she said “I really want to stay friends.” (“Really” meaning as in she didn’t want to lose me as a friend.) So after this, I gave up on the romance.
I took my space and started doing things that I enjoy rather than giving her all my attention again. I think she noticed my lack of responses and attention. I wasn’t ignoring her at all, I kept being polite and sweet to her; just not as frequently anymore. Needed to shake my feelings for her.
Very recently she started to message me on my personal number, whatsapp and messenger; trying to get a hold of me. I was working till 23pm so I couldn’t answer. Then she called me the morning after saying she was worried sick about me.
After that she invited me twice to her house. We were alone both times and the second time she cooked for me and we listened to music all night, while laughing and talking. She said she was extremely happy to see me and hoped that I had enjoyed myself. I did ofcourse.
Now I’m confused on wether she likes me as a good friend or now more romantically.
Someone please give me some advice/answers; I’m getting desperate for either confirmation and/or closure...
Thanks in advance!
