Would it mean he considers me his girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

We started out dating, but he never actually asked me to be his girlfriend. Then for about 3 months we didn't see each other, so I assumed we're just friends. Then he called me and asked if I have boyfriend I said no and we started hanging out again. He told me he likes me. And well things went like this for about 4 months, we were both busy so we'd hang out maybe twice a month. so I decided to have sex with him. He knew he was my first and it didn't go well. But he still kept calling me and asking about me and my family. When we were once in his house and having fun, he hugged me and called me his girl. And I kind of don't know what to think of it. Does it mean he considers me his gf? Because he didn't actually ask if I wanna be one, I pretended I didn't catch up to this comment. He also told me what he thinks of the future, us having a kid lol well not for now I hope cause I'm too young and not ready. And 2 weeks after that, he asked me out to go to the beach, but hasn't called since.

I have treated him like a crap in the past, lied to him and he knew I was lying. I'd reject him sometimes and maybe he fears to ask me to be his girlfriend if I say no? What do you think about this?

[robotteenamerica]

yeah you burnt him.

hes scared, but he likes you.

you need to get over your fears, stop with the rejection and dive in to a relationship with him - no flailing! remember, if things go bad you two can always break up.

but there is nothing more wonderful than the feelings of mutual attraction and being in love and having that safety and security in the arms of the one you trust -- you best friend!

opportunities like this come once in a lifetime- Do it! I dare you! :) and tell him how you feel, apologize for the pain you caused him and so what if you are young? YOU AREN'T GOING TO GET MARRIED TOMORROW! but you will never be young again and you will never have the chance to try it out -- as you get older lifes responsibilities get in the way and only serves to prevent you form seeing the people you love.

good luck!

[anjelica]

I honestly think he really likes you but he is afraid of getting rejected or played by you again. I feel you should let him know how you feel about the relationship and where you want to go with it. Speak up about what he has said to you and ask him if he is serious.