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My boyfriend told me about a situation and I'm having trouble seeing it from his perspective. I'd appreciate your feedback.

He says a woman "took advantage" of him. In the past, when he was with another woman, he was friends with a woman who he admits he was attracted to. His girlfriend was on tour at the time, so out of town. He says he had one drink at a party and felt messed up. He says he may have been drugged.

He says he went to his friend's house because he was "scared". He said he doesn't remember anything else. The next morning, she said "you were so out of it, I had to drink a bunch to not feel like I was taking advantage of you". He freaks out and says she raped him. His girlfriend I guess believed him because they moved on (he went on to sleep with 2 more women during their monogamous relationship). No one else believed it was rape. Their mutual friends saw it from her perspective (she felt humped and dumped).

First of all, I believe men can be sexually assaulted by women (inappropriate touching, sexually exploited, etc). I don't think men are animals. BUT in this case, why did he show up at HER place? And she didn't feed him booze and drugs. How is she held responsible? If a guy I really liked who also flirted with me made a move on me when he was drunk, I wouldn't think he was in a vulnerable state.

He has acquainted the situation to a male friend of mine trying to penetrate me in my sleep. This man and I had no romantic history. There was no suggestion of romance. I was visiting from out of town and stayed over. When I woke up to him on top of me, I left and wandered the streets of New York in shock (and almost jumped on the subway tracks, I was in such a state).

Did this woman take advantage of him? Did we experience something similar? Am I being a dick? My emotional response is FUCK THAT! HE'S A CHEAT AND BLAMES THIS WOMAN 😡 but maybe I'm missing something... or it's not rape and I'm so pissed he would compare our experiences. Thoughts?

Dustin is 19 years old. He's a high school dropout, has a felony and he has emotional issues that make him burst into tears or lash out in anger without expecting it. He also stole phones. He meets a beautiful girl named Maria. Maria knows that Dustin is homless and he did cry in front of her, but she kissed him, hugged him, gave him food and her parents would let him stay a night for a couple days. Dustin was happy and he really wanted to marry Maria, but Maria already had a couple guys who wanted her. She even bought him new clothes and let him shower.

Ellot is 24 years old. He is overweight, has a deformed face but he's a nice guy and never got in trouble with the law. He graduated high school with good grades, got a 4 year college degree with good grades but he can't find a girlfriend. When he did get one at 25, he caught her cheating on him with one of his closest friends and she eventually got pregnant. He lost his job and now lives with his parents

Be honest, if you were my boyfriend (and future husband) and she gave you all this trouble, on a 1-10 scale how much would you dislike her?

- Not being invited to a social gathering with the excuse of ''oh my husband's friends are coming, it's better for you to just not come''
- Bad-mouthing you to others, super loud enough for your boyfriend or girlfriend to hear and you actually overheard it once over the phone
- Constantly nagging your partner to break up with you
- Making slight sarcastic gestures whenever you used to visit your partner
- Arguing with you and insulting you right on your partner's b-day to the point of making you cry in anger
- On your partner's b-day, she literally forces you to buy something saying ''ok then do something on his/her b-day, proof to me that you love him/her''
- Bragging and laughing to others about how she made you cry
- Saying ''you're only crying crocodile tears'' and being so inconsiderate how much she just hurt you
- Overall meddling too much in the relationship
- Offering you a fake apoloigizing over the phone and you know it's fake
- Years later, making some insulting comments on your facebook
- Lastly unfriending you and blocking you from her facebook