Men, this is for you, it's about women's emotions and a part of your value to them. Women, enjoy this true story!
We met on GAG! Our 2nd date was going nicely, perfect summer weather, I had fun adventures planned for the whole weekend! On the way, I made a quick decision to check out a waterfall that I thought she'd enjoy and was on the way. Just a brief stop, we had some time constraints!
Lets go back in time first 10,000 years or so! The Bible tells a story of the “Fall of Man”. Someone a long time ago crafted this story to convey some important info. Wasn’t easy to write when chiseling into rocks, so they must have felt it was important. What would you chisel into rock to communicate?
Here's the story, NIV Version.
Genesis 2:16 And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.” [Adam was informed what not to do!]
Genesis 2:25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. [emotional state was pure ao dar...]
The Fall of Man
Genesis 3 Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”
2 The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden,3 but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’” [the woman knew the LOGICAL facts!]
4 “You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman. 5 “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” [how easily she lead astray...]
6 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye [do you see her emotions kick in?], and also desirable for gaining wisdom [temptation], she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her [knuckle dragger standing right next to her, didn't stop her did he?], and he ate it [followed her lead, is that how dancing works folks?]. 7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; [shame sets in!] so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.
This story, so easily glossed over, is choc full of the of juicy tidbits to the keen eye! The Bible writer was genius, had prior stories to pull from, or maybe God? Here’s what I got out of it. Women are easily lead astray by their emotions. Friends with benefits ladies? Go for the players ladies...they are attractive aren't they? How about that powerful narcissist, he looks good? F-buddies are awsome aren’t they? Women are emotional beings, they were designed that way, assumably for the nurturing of offspring to pull those offspring out of their shells and into social connection. But those emotions blind them sometimes and you gotta be aware like the Alpha male is of his troop!
The “Man” was standing right next to her and he let her screw herself over! Big mistake! The man has a job to do, which is to protect the woman from harm, including self inflicted harm. Pay attention EMOTIONALLY and protect her!
Protect her by distraction and leading! So what could “Adam” have done instead of letting her decide and follow her lead? How about: “No, that is not good. Lets go over here [distract her], there is better fruits there.” Don't ask her permission, lead her! You will hear this from dating coaches. Can't tell you how many times I've had to learn to use this, and it works. Distract the woman from the poison, redirect her to a better emotional place! Lead!
Men, have you experienced how women sometimes want us to take power when they are emotionally off and provide a force to control them? This is in a loving, but powerful way. It's like dealing with a child at times, if that makes sense.
There is balance here! We aren't always controlling or constricting. Look at the Alpha male in the gorilla kingdom. He lets the women in his troop roam about, and forage and live life. When there is a threat, like another male comes along causing trouble, he smacks him down, with confidence, his stair, his smarts, or physically. If a female is in trouble with a predator, he will come to her aid and protect her! Otherwise, he leaves them be to go shopping and do their nails! He will put his life on the line for his women, he will fight to the death won’t he?...to protect! He will also mate with her, that's his reward! Don't forget about your reward:)
You can learn a lot for your relationships from the Bible and from nature!
Back to our 2nd Date:
Wish I had realized all that and had it in my head, it would have come in handy.
So we went to this waterfall, and she was elated.. She climbed up on the railing on the right side like the gymnast she used to be and looked happy as a child at play! She wanted on the other side to climb on the rocks. I looked closer at that railing and said to myself...how do you get over that without getting hurt? That's a long ways down! I was studying it myself. I was in my logical problem solving mind, not my emotional protective one...BIG MISTAKE!
Before I could react, she did a gymnast dismount! F@#$@K
A beautiful and perfect dismount and she stuck the landing...and I was reaching for my phone before she hit the ground!
I still can hear the screams right after she landed! Her ankle was badly broken. Emergency crew had a hard time getting her out of there. It looked something like this after the first surgery...and there was another.
Weekend fun came to an end fast! What ensued was hospital, doctors visits, pain killers, figuring out how to get her home for another surgery, what my role was...we were not GF/BF yet. It was months of healing. We ended up dating for 2 years after that with many wonderful memories, and some pain too. She fully recovered!
Anyone can make a bad decision. But, I'm talking about women's emotions here! As I look back, I realized she was at the peak of her hormonal cycle at that time.
She was always upbeat and really ..beyond positive at that time. Other times, she was way low emotionally. Timing is a factor for women! Keep an eye out for her moods. If she was sweet one day and 2 weeks later is cold, this may be a reason why. If you young men are getting confused by women's behavior, you might consider that her moods swing quite drastically, so don't take her mood changes so personally. It gets worse after the 2nd child too!
Women make emotional decisions (as do men), sometimes they are not good ones. When I see something I don't agree with, I speak my mind! Women respect this, even if they complain! If you watch dating coach videos, they will tell you over and over, be decisive, be emotionally strong, etc.. Do you see some reason why women want that?
I wonder how many women have died at the Grand Canyon or rocky cliffs or on Cruise ships doing crazy stunts when her hormones are off? How many bad relationship decisions they make, based upon moods? Alcohol would be another contributor. I don’t blame myself for what happened. But I took what I could from it and learned so I'm better next time for her sake. I hope you do as well.
Death at the Falls
If you notice the flowers in the pic/video, those are for the girl who died there. Quite a few teens died there over the years, taking some bad chances. Not long after my girlfriend made her jump, a young woman committed suicide in the same area...depressed for reasons we don’t know, she ended her life. How sad, such a beautiful girl too, healthy, and full of life.
Men, stay alert emotionally to what is going on...your female wants you, and she needs you too! MGTOW...do a 180!
Thank you for listening!