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In an 'equal' society, why am I making a down payment just to see a woman? Well, certainly, the U. S. is anything but equal, but this concept still bugs me. When I was younger, money never factored in to it. Either we had it or we didn't, and we would both buy meals for each other when we did have it. Going on picnics with home made food and stuff. I only went to a real restaurant a couple of times, and that was with my (ex) fiance when I was 17; so, I didn't care what I had to pay, because we were already together, and I adored her. It was about spending time with one another, not which one of us was the 'provider'.

(Although, seriously? 50 bucks for a hamburger that isn't even as good as Wendy's? And that was in 2007! >_> Although, the view was very nice up in a tower overlooking Dallas.)

So, why am I supposed to buy her meal when she's just a stranger to me? I'm just supposed to, because if you don't, then you're an asshole. Even if she makes more money than me.

If a chick expects me to pay for the first date, just to get a free meal and run out, then fuck that.

One of my female acquaintances outwardly told me that she thinks that men should treat women better than women treat men, and that it's their 'role' to be the provider. That's some seriously old fashioned thinking for a liberal, incidentally.

Then, I have to question whether equality is even possible, given our innate desires. Men, to chase down a woman and bump her over the head, so to speak, with a club: claiming victory. And the woman, chasing and ultimately wanting to be controlled and protected and chased and desired. Masculine being power and feminine wanting to be controlled by that power. I. e., 'you're the man, so you should be able to catch me a chicken,' so to speak.

I'm not saying this is always true, just that those seem, to me, to be the innate instincts of men and women; however, intellect, the ability to reason, isn't included in that.

I just see it as archaic.

Ok so we dated for two years an it ended due to my ignorance but she still chased aftr me bad things followed some is still hard to believe her seeing a shrink and ending up getting preg at a party and ended up marrying that guy an was still in contact with me up to when he forbid her to talk to me n blocked on everything. we broke that rule periodically through the years but now we been talking again due to a mutual friend. I've loved her for as long as i can rember an still think an feel like she the one for me... During some of our convos she says things like she wonders what life would b lik now how she still misses me an how things were.. We had small fights but it was an amazing relationship, phone calls for hrs, letters, MSN messenger. An she even named her son aftr me (same middle nam).. I can tell there is still something there for me as she said. "Nothing will ever be the same or compare". So should i go see her an see what happens? Im tired of living this way in wonder an in regret. I dont wanna b one of those people that always wonders or goes when they turn 50.. (Prolly a lot more i could say as well)