I tend to be a very quite person, except on things that peeve me. One thing in the world that REALLY grinds my gears are Gender Roles/Stereotypes. These crazy outdating things that not only screw up the dynamics of relationships, but of society as a whole.
Because of these things it's hard for relations between men and woman to function normally. It's hard for people to embrace their natural selves because men don't want to be called "pansies" and women don't want to be called "butch". It's hard for LGBT people to be accepted into "normal society".
And it'll only get worse because these roles are being passed on from genertation to generation.
Both men and women are obviously victims to these things and thanks to: Google and https://www.healthguidance.org/entry/15910/1/List-of-Gender-Stereotypes.html .I've decided to list a few and whats wrong about them.
Women Gender Roles/Stereotypes:
1] Women are supposed to be pretty and be looked at: This one probably has to be the biggest downfall for women. From a young age we are told that we need to constantly worry about our looks and a man will only like us if we are attractive. They make tiny makeup kits marketed to little girls to "play with". Images of the "perfect woman" are thrown at us from every direction and if we don't adhere to the qualifications we are less of a woman, and not worthy. Look around GAG for instance and you will find dozens of girls asking if they are worth it. Woman go to EXTREME surgical measures to be "perfect" and/or diet to the point of starvation. This is probably the biggest thing that needs to stop. Because despite what society says it doesn't matter what you look like.
2] Women are meant to be the "damsel in distress"; never the hero: To me this can be interpreted multiple ways. Literally as to where in a bad situation we are unable to do anything, which is the biggest BS because there are MANY bad ass ladies out there in our military/police/etc which defend us every day. Not damsels but HEROES. I'm proud to say I'll be one of them soon. Another interpretation is in that men do EVERYTHING for the women. This is the BIGGEST pet peeve of mine. Nothing makes me more mad than a man who thinks I always need his help, that he needs to cater to my every whim and demand because "hes the man". Although I will never deny a mans help, if I can do it myself I will. Whether its lifting a box or paying for a date. Men should do things for us because they want to and because we deserve it, not because society tells them. Like wise ladies, spoil your man every once and a while.
3] Women are supposed to cook and do housework/Women are to be submissive and do as they are told: I put two together because I think these two go hand in hand. Although I do personally agree, any good woman should know how to cook, I don't agree they are SUPPOSED to. Same with housework. In a good worth while relationship things are EQUAL. Not one bossing the other around, which is why I combined the submissive thing. Because in a good worth while relationship there shouldn't be a submissive. Unless your talking sexually :p
Male Gender Roles/Stereotypes:
1] Men do not cook or sew or do crafts/Men do not do housework and they are not responsible for taking care of children: Piggiebacking off of the last female stereotype, I know plenty of men who cook. My boyfriend being one of them. He's actually very fond of it and I love it. We work together in the kitchen like a well oiled machine and it brings us closer together. I know, thry word of mouth of course, a few men who take care of the kids while mommy makes the bacon and these men love it. Some men have a better sense of being a parent than ladies do and thats completely fine. Said men shouldn't feel like less of a man because they rather stay home and cook and clean while their lady works. These men are bigger men in my opinion because they aren't afraid to bend and stereotypes.
2] Men are in charge, they are always at the top: Honestly this is kinda a poor attempt to piggieback off the second female one. I'm surprised "men always pick up the slack" wasn't more clearly defined on this list. Since its kinda of a thing. Stroll through this website and you'll find a lot of "men should pay first" "men should do this" "men should ask the girl out first" "men should initate sex first" etc. I honestly feel bad for men because you guys have a LOT to do according to society. I personally once again think the slack should be even. Women should pay for dates sometimes, women should ask guys out sometimes, and women should iniate sex (without being considered a slut, another steretype surprisingly also not mentioned). 50/50 equal partnership.
3] Men do "dirty jobs", they are not secertaries, teachers, cosmetologists/Men enjoy outdoor activities: This is more for those men who are under the LGBT caterogory but also for straight men for which "manly" things don't appeal to them. Straight or Gay or Trans, sports, cars, booze and fucking all the time aren't always appealing. Just like some chicks don't like shopping all the time. This is probably one of the most harmful stereotypes for men because they will get bullied if they don't fit in with the norm. Just as looks drive girls to do insane things, not fitting in with "the guys" can drive a guy equally crazy.
I can only hope our society soons abadons all these things and just let people be people. Just as we are not defined by our race, or our sexual orentation, we shouldn't be defined by our gender.