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When I was 15, I had no interest in dating; I was late in reaching some of my social milestones. Then I was in college and my life felt rather unsettled. The idea of dating made me feel anxious. I was certain that a girl would get bored with me in five minutes. I felt unattractive and I also suffered from chronic depression.

I had all the excuses to not date but, at age 16, I started dating. It was sporadic at first but gradually became more regular until I was dating as much as the people around me. At age 65, I have probably had a first date with at least 200 different women and I am very comfortable with going to meet someone for a first date.

I'm not a superhuman. It didn't require a superheroic effort. I just told myself that if I was ever going to have a reasonably normal life and find a partner, I needed to suck it up and force myself to get past all the excuses.

I've asked several questions here recently about dating and I am surprised at the number of users in their late teens and twenties who have never been on a date, or they went on one date three years ago. So. . . this question's for you. Why haven't you dated? What's your excuse?

I am not talking about something that you pretend is negative but is actually positive. Like l am so patient that my peers often get mad that I never get inpatient. I am talking about actual negative flaws like impulsive, egotistical, unhealthy , etc.
I'll go first so people could possibly open up. I'll mention at least give things. 1 being my worst quality.
5. Okay this is the only one where you might think its a positive but its not so let me explain.
I work a lot and I barely have time for everything. I think this is negative because it ruins my chances of finding a potential love partner, gives me less time to do things I wanna do, and it makes me exhausted to even express emotions.
4. I shoot myself down from women sometimes even if I am attracted to her because I am afraid she will lose interest in me and become bored of me. To be honest at that point I'd rather be rejected instantly instead of later.
3. I absolutely get extremely frustrated and mad when people talk while they eat.
2. I have an impulsive tendency to call out people who are passive aggressive to me or who sugar coat things to me. Because I usually can tell when someone is sugar coating something towards me.
1. I have been told in real life and strangely caught quite a couple of times in public doing something really nice for someone. When those people who witness and tell me how nice that was for what I did I automatically shut down and tell them in a nice way to please not tell anyone. I have physically and verbally defended people in public. Mostly acquaintances and strangers oddly enough. All of that is fine but what I hate is that despite how nice of a thing I could do for someone and I never ask for a favor in return is that people are so quick to forget how nice you were to them. Sometimes even when you defend them physically. That absolutely makes me go ballistic and makes me angry. I think that still in a way makes seem self entitled or not humble and I hate that about myself.