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If you are old enough to be dating but have never had a date. . . why not?

. . . and her parents are worried about her!
. . . and her parents are worried about her!
When I was 15, I had no interest in dating; I was late in reaching some of my social milestones. Then I was in college and my life felt rather unsettled. The idea of dating made me feel anxious. I was certain that a girl would get bored with me in five minutes. I felt unattractive and I also suffered from chronic depression.

I had all the excuses to not date but, at age 16, I started dating. It was sporadic at first but gradually became more regular until I was dating as much as the people around me. At age 65, I have probably had a first date with at least 200 different women and I am very comfortable with going to meet someone for a first date.

I'm not a superhuman. It didn't require a superheroic effort. I just told myself that if I was ever going to have a reasonably normal life and find a partner, I needed to suck it up and force myself to get past all the excuses.

I've asked several questions here recently about dating and I am surprised at the number of users in their late teens and twenties who have never been on a date, or they went on one date three years ago. So. . . this question's for you. Why haven't you dated? What's your excuse?
I have no interest in dating. I'm asexual.
Vote A
I am too busy with school, work, family, etc.
Vote B
I am waiting until I feel more settled in my life.
Vote C
I want to date but I have social anxiety that is crippling.
Vote D
I am too boring and no one would want to date me.
Vote E
I am too ugly and no one would want to date me.
Vote F
I have a physical or mental condition and no one would want to date me.
Vote G
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