I have a younger guy that’s been interested in me for like 6 months now. He’s 19 and I’m 28 and he has been trying everything possible to date me. I’ve never dated a younger guy before so it would be a huge switch from dating usually older men. We got really close like 3 months ago and we see each other a lot almost everyday. We talk a lot and surprisingly have enough stuff in common that there is never a dull conversation between us. I’m looking for a serious relationship (eventually not now) and have expressed to him that th next serious relationship I get in is goin to be because I’m looking to get married and start having kids. He insists that that’s what he’s ready for and gets really offended when I tell him that I think he’s a bit too young to be so sure that’s what he wants.
Any guys out there dating a woman 8-9 years older than them that has any advice or would like to share their story or any Women dating a way younger guy that would like to share her experience or advice? How do these relationships really pan out?
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@btbc92 ur friends that got married young... r they still together? Do they have any regrets? R they still happy with their choice? When I was 19 I could not even imagine being responsible... yet alone being a parent or married.
Older woman and younger guy 8-9 age difference. Was it worth it?
Of course if he is your right match, I think that's great. I don't think age should matter. I just think in the vast majority of cases a guy that age will be much too immature. 19 year old guys are even immature for 19 year old women usually. I think it's very unlikely that you to work out personality-wise, but if you do, I don't see a problem.
Other than that, I would just be concerned that he may want a younger looking girl if you're together long term. Statistically couples where the guy is older in the girl is skinnier works out best.. You don't have to be a statistic though of course, whatever works for you two.
If you think he has the right personality for you, I would just see him casually for a while to see how consistent you feel these things. Give yourself time to evaluate him more. You don't have to know if he's right for you right now.
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Well I don’t look my age. He thought I was the same age as him when he pursued me and didn’t believe me until I showed him my ID. So leaving me for a “younger looking” girl is not my worry at all. It’s th maturity level I wonder about. He seems pretty mature for his age but I’ve never dated anyone younger than me not even by a yr so I’m in uncharted territory.
But it is very common to think girls look younger than their age and realistically people tend to say that as a compliment because they know the person will be flattered. Maybe you are right though. Since he seems mature for you, try dating him if he seems right. It can take time to learn these things of course.
You just have to decide if the age is a deal breaker for you. If I were you, consider him if he think he's really your preference in terms of values and character.
The fact that he’s inter in you says a lot about him. Most guys aren’t mature enough to date older women. The fact that he’s interested in you and is offended by the things you say means he’s probably very capable of handling a woman like you. Give him a chance
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I just gave never dated someone younger than me before and I don’t want to put him in a position that he regrets. I expressed that I’m looking to start having kids. Once a baby happens there is no going back.
If you want kids, and want a good husband to father those kids, I suggest you hold off until you find a better match. Someone you feel attracted to strongly, inside and out, and that he is attracted to you the same way.
The fact that this post was made in the first place means he isn’t the one for you. Knowing who will be the father of your children is something you just know. Ask yourself. Is this the man who I want to spend the rest of my life with and have kids with?
If your immediate answer is no, then it is u likely that that answer will be swayed.
I was 19 she was 40 i fell in love even knowing she couldnt be asked for kids she had already had 3 and almost all grown but i had the time of my life and woulda remained like that if she wasn't so curious of what else was out there after 5 years but 11 years later we are still great friends we both got married and failed and had a fling not to long ago but once she broke my heart she was written off from soulmate had she been faithful i believe id still be in love with her cause we still have that spark every time we see each other. But she told me i didn't want her and didn't wanna marry her but i did and if i hadn't lost trust for her id be married to her. Is he mature? Is he focused? If he shows u and gives you everything u could ask for he probably genuine. There is no benefit personally to have a older woman other than they generally have got there head on right and know where there going instead of wantting to party and the late nights out i just wantted her to know and feel i loved her and her reciprocate the feels that i knew she had and was afraid to let out for a long time cause of the age gap.
The only difference between him and a guy your age is that they grew up to different influences. Different tastes in music, clothes, technology. As far as age is concerned there is really no such thing as older or younger since we all lead different lives and it all comes down to our experiences in it. Not to mention that tomorrow is not garenteed and no matter your age you could end up dying. So chose what you want to do based on who he is and not how long he's existed, if he truly makes you happy then it's worth a shot.
I have a friend who is dating a 21 year old. There is a 5-6 year age difference. They have been at it for about 3 months and is going surprisingly well. If you like him, but are hesitant about the age thing, I would go for it and see where it leads you. Good luck.
I don't think you should do it. You're wanting to start a family and he basically just got out of High School. He might grow to regret what he did at such a young age if you do.
Not true at all. Most of my male friends got married at those ages. The real question is, can he handle it with HER the age she is at the age he's at for marriage. Because he can be wanting and desiring marriage no matter how young he is. It just may not be right with HER. Because he's already getting offended. That should be red flag number 1 where he's mentality level and maturity is at. Marriage is about growth and such so with him its not an age thing. It is a dynamic issue with that age gap. She has more life experience than he does. Which is not a good idea. He'll always be the baby while her the mommy.
@btbc92: Well, maturity is more important than age, but having once been a 19 year old guy and knowing lots of them, I also know how unprepared they are.
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