Older woman and younger guy 8-9 age difference. Was it worth it?

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I have a younger guy that’s been interested in me for like 6 months now. He’s 19 and I’m 28 and he has been trying everything possible to date me. I’ve never dated a younger guy before so it would be a huge switch from dating usually older men. We got really close like 3 months ago and we see each other a lot almost everyday. We talk a lot and surprisingly have enough stuff in common that there is never a dull conversation between us. I’m looking for a serious relationship (eventually not now) and have expressed to him that th next serious relationship I get in is goin to be because I’m looking to get married and start having kids. He insists that that’s what he’s ready for and gets really offended when I tell him that I think he’s a bit too young to be so sure that’s what he wants.

Any guys out there dating a woman 8-9 years older than them that has any advice or would like to share their story or any Women dating a way younger guy that would like to share her experience or advice? How do these relationships really pan out?

Older woman and younger guy 8-9 age difference. Was it worth it?

cavmanier · Accepted Answer

Of course if he is your right match, I think that's great. I don't think age should matter. I just think in the vast majority of cases a guy that age will be much too immature. 19 year old guys are even immature for 19 year old women usually. I think it's very unlikely that you to work out personality-wise, but if you do, I don't see a problem.

Other than that, I would just be concerned that he may want a younger looking girl if you're together long term. Statistically couples where the guy is older in the girl is skinnier works out best.. You don't have to be a statistic though of course, whatever works for you two.

If you think he has the right personality for you, I would just see him casually for a while to see how consistent you feel these things. Give yourself time to evaluate him more. You don't have to know if he's right for you right now.

Thomas__Shelby · Accepted Answer

The fact that he’s inter in you says a lot about him. Most guys aren’t mature enough to date older women. The fact that he’s interested in you and is offended by the things you say means he’s probably very capable of handling a woman like you. Give him a chance

tehbrut · Answer

I was 19 she was 40 i fell in love even knowing she couldnt be asked for kids she had already had 3 and almost all grown but i had the time of my life and woulda remained like that if she wasn't so curious of what else was out there after 5 years but 11 years later we are still great friends we both got married and failed and had a fling not to long ago but once she broke my heart she was written off from soulmate had she been faithful i believe id still be in love with her cause we still have that spark every time we see each other. But she told me i didn't want her and didn't wanna marry her but i did and if i hadn't lost trust for her id be married to her. Is he mature? Is he focused? If he shows u and gives you everything u could ask for he probably genuine. There is no benefit personally to have a older woman other than they generally have got there head on right and know where there going instead of wantting to party and the late nights out i just wantted her to know and feel i loved her and her reciprocate the feels that i knew she had and was afraid to let out for a long time cause of the age gap.

ZackBan · Answer

The only difference between him and a guy your age is that they grew up to different influences. Different tastes in music, clothes, technology.
As far as age is concerned there is really no such thing as older or younger since we all lead different lives and it all comes down to our experiences in it. Not to mention that tomorrow is not garenteed and no matter your age you could end up dying. So chose what you want to do based on who he is and not how long he's existed, if he truly makes you happy then it's worth a shot.

BlessedDaddy · Answer

At 29 I dated a 19 year old who carried herself well and appeared perfectly normal. She got pregnant twice then we got married.

I ended up raising both children on my own for the last 14 years.

You don't know what you want at 19. Infact, the reality is:. A man is not ready to be a man until at least age 26 or 27.

igiem · Answer

I have a friend who is dating a 21 year old. There is a 5-6 year age difference. They have been at it for about 3 months and is going surprisingly well. If you like him, but are hesitant about the age thing, I would go for it and see where it leads you. Good luck.

seansin · Answer

This strike everyone opinion my ex and I are 17 years apart 21and was 36 when married. No matter what it's hard to cohabitate together

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

I don't think you should do it. You're wanting to start a family and he basically just got out of High School. He might grow to regret what he did at such a young age if you do.

Avicenna · Answer

Your concern is legit. A 19 year old is very young for marriage and kids.

holidaze · Answer

Give it some serious thought before making a irreversible decision. Regret is a bitch.

Shamalien · Answer

he will leave and u will be older and more alone than ever.

Anonymous · Answer

But it's ok for a man who is 10 years older to go after a girl 10 years younger. like my cousin did. who is 40, and married a 30 year old girl?

termanator · Answer

No I’m not currently , but would

Plitty-Tank · Answer

If she is that hot, it is totally worth it.

Dremer123 · Answer

Age doesn't matter 😅

billluc69 · Answer

been there when i was 17. she showed me a lot

Sanjajkumar · Answer

Its theirs opinions

Silvius · Answer

Yes, of course

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