When I was dating from 1970 (age 16) to 1994, there was no such term "friends with benefits". It was just called having a girlfriend/boyfriend.
People may have had varying levels of commitment. Some people may have cheated.
Looking back, my girlfriends and I fell into infatuation (the "feeling" of passionate love). We were monogamous. But for me, they may have been more like friends with benefits because I had no interested in getting married or having kids. It's not that I planned to never, ever get married. I just knew that I was too young, immature and inexperienced to be a good husband or father. I hadn't seen enough of the world and done enough.
In the meantime, I really liked girls, I loved sex, and enjoyed having a girlfriend. But I didn't just see them when I was horny. We hung out together, went places, did things and had fun together, conversed and confided in each other, and were really good friends.
It wasn't until my early 30s that I started to think I might be ready to find a life partner and settle down.
Does that make sense?
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You answered your own question , FWB’s only works if both people are on the same page with things , if you aren’t on the same page than you are best to end that FWB’s all together and move on from them, because they are just using you for sex and nothing more. I only have FWB’s with girls that are on the same page as me , we both agree upon things before jumping into bed together.
friends with benefits is not designed to lead to marriage. It’s just another form of casual sex. If you’re looking for marriage don’t friends with benefits because you’re giving the green light for the wrong thing and will end up frustrated and upset with the person who is ok with just friends with benefits.
That’s exactly why. Because they don’t plan to get married.
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You answered your own question. They want friends with benefits because they don't want sex in marriage. Everyone wants to have sex, our human bodies are built for that. If you're not going to be in a long-term relationship, and don't want to be a total slut, friends with benefits is the best way to go.
That actually makes sense- they want no commitment.
Most don't know what they want but certainly don't want to get married now. And if they specifically said to you that they never wants to get married, then it was specifically meant for you.
I made up my mind early on that I didn't want to settle until I was at least 30 and instead wanted to tick of my bucket list. Until the age of 30 I had multiple of friends with benefits. Some knew of my goal and others didn't. If someone questioned it, I would probably have just said never to avoid the conversation.
I had a friends with benefits a few years back, that wanted kids and asked me to get her pregnant.
we tried dating but it never worked out, So we kept it as casual sex only, We had 3 kids together.
it ended when she met her now husband.He is a great guy, and I’m happy for them. I’m not in the family picture, & he is raising my kids.
not that marriage was out of the question, We just never got there. And weren’t compatible in that way.
She wanted kids, Was attracted to me, and liked the genes I would pass on, And that’s exactly what we did,
we knew exactly what it was going into it.Because relationships don't need state / church validation, and "marriage" is nothing but an imposition to some.
It doesn't mean they'd want the relationship to be any less than a married one, necessarily, but the marriage itself is expensive and effectively pointless. It is just social convention. Nothing more.Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning but when it’s all said & done your house is gone. On the other hand some people like when things are easy cum, easy go.
They don't want commitment.. They just want the benefits of what would come with it unfortunately.. Sex and maybe some companionship until either is ready to disappear..
Why not? friends with benefits is compatible with that. Not everyone wants to be married.
marriage is responsibility and it needs supportive actions.. but friends with benefits is just for pleasure.. so men choose friends with benefits untill the loose their power..
They want to feel validation without commitment because they are immature
Because they like having sex. But don’t want a relationship and all the problems
You know if the want to be friends with benefits it's just sex and that's it
They like sex. Or mayube one of them wants the relationship to be more than a friendship.
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