What's the point of being with someone if they don't want to get married?

[Anonymous]

[AmandaYVR]

• Depends on the ages. Many young people do not want (and probably should not want) to be married. There's a lot of life to live, and things to learn about oneself. There are some advantages to marrying very young, but many disadvantages. If you marry early, you will go through the biggest change throughout the marriage (if you stay married), because development still happens, and life experience is an invaluable teacher. Many people grow apart over time.
• The real question should be, are the two people any less committed to each other, if legally and contractually married? Many people are as committed. And some see it as less 'trapped' and will leave the relationship, and person, when they feel it no longer is enjoyable.
• Men are turning away from marriage, more and more, because of the imbalance in the court system. Men are more likely to have to pay alimony. Men tend to lose the home and equal time with the kids. If the primary residence of the kids remains their childhood home, the ex-wife often tends to manage their time, and even if a court has granted equal access, men have, in practicality, experienced that she is in de facto control of the kids' schedule. Some women take the man's childcare payments, and spend them on themselves, not the children. This is infuriating to men, who have little control or say over this. On the other hand, there are a lot of fathers who do not want the responsibility of the primary caregiver of their children. Some even shirk the responsibilities, both emotional and financial, altogether. The mother ends up raising the child because he has abandoned his duties. But does the marriage contract help either of these?

You have to consider all of these things - especially from the man's perspective - and not just rule out any man who is against marriage. The why's matter.

[DizzyDesii]

I think it makes sense for two parties who never want to marry to be together. But if only one wants to marry and the other does not, they’re wasting their time getting together. Then again, it could be like John Cena and Nikki Bella. She always wanted to marry and he didn't. Last minute when she's ready to bounce, he’s willing to marry. He then uses the excuse that he also knows how much she wants a baby and he doesn't want to disappoint her (despite her always saying she’d give up being a mom for him). Anyways, they break off the engagement (which i think is truly because she mightve cheated). She starts dating this guy who wants kids. John Cena gets married to some random in a short amount of time after. Nikki is now pressuring the new guy that she just had a kid with to hurry and marry her. So did John really not want marriage? Or did he just not want marriage with Nikki. They say a man will change for the woman he truly wants to be with (and that must be the new girl). 🤷‍♀️ He probably felt like nikki constantly pressured him (which she did and is now doing to the next guy).

[bean2k21]

There are many reasons why people choose to be in a relationship with someone even if they don't want to get married. Marriage is a personal choice and not everyone feels the need or desire to get married. Here are some reasons why someone might choose to be in a relationship without getting married:

Personal values: Some people prioritize personal freedom or individuality over traditional societal expectations of marriage.
Fear of commitment: Some people may not want to get married due to fear of commitment or fear of the possibility of divorce.
Financial or legal concerns: Marriage can have legal and financial implications that some people may want to avoid.
Cultural or religious beliefs: Some cultures or religions may not value or require marriage, or may have specific customs around it.
Emotional connection: Many people find deep emotional fulfillment in being in a committed, long-term relationship with someone they love, regardless of whether they are married or not.
Ultimately, the decision to be in a relationship without getting married is a personal one that depends on individual circumstances and values. It's important for both partners to communicate openly and honestly about their feelings and expectations around marriage to ensure they are on the same page.

[MaazHussain]

There can be many reasons why someone may not want to get married, such as personal beliefs, past experiences, or a desire for a non-traditional relationship. Being with someone who doesn't want to get married doesn't necessarily mean that the relationship is not valuable or fulfilling. Some couples choose to be in long-term committed relationships without getting married, and it can work well for them. Ultimately, the point of being with someone is to enjoy their company, support each other, and build a meaningful connection, and whether or not you choose to get married is a personal decision that should be based on your own values and desires.

One example is the famous football player, Cristiano Ronaldo, and her girlfriend, Georgina Rodriguez, who are together since 2016 and even have children together and are still not married. Saudi Arabia where living without marriage is not allowed by law but has made an exception for him after he joined Al Nasr, a Saudi football club.

[AviatorTom]

Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have been happy together for 34 years without getting married. Marriage isn't the end-all for everyone.

[Guy13]

You got me as it nothing but a huge waste of time.

[Anonymous]

None.

There's been comments by others saying not being married you'd get companionship & that's what a non marriage relationship is. You're not partners, you're companions. There is no real alligence in a non-marriage compassionship, no reprecussions of cheating, etc. and as such you don't have to be faithful as with real married partners.

Not being married is, in ways, little more than long-term friends with benefits. The average non-married couple doesn't work together in home repairs, etc., etc., etc.

[Anonymous]

There’s a lot of reasons. Getting married doesn’t mean you love someone that much more than someone who doesn’t get married. I know a number of people who are happy just being together. A friend of mine was married once, she said things changed once they got married so she wasn’t going through w it again. I have a male friend who said the same thing. People have different reasons. If he doesn’t want to get married why is that so wrong? It always seems to be about the females wants or needs in a relationship. Men don’t seem like their feelings or wants are acknowledged. Why not respect his wants or his feelings for not getting married? If you’re looking for marriage it’s obviously best to find someone who wants the same thing.

[BeMuse]

You don't want good company & comaraderie, the quality time together, sex & human touch, a loving relationship, respect, loyalty, trust, someone that always has your back and will help you get through your struggles and stand by you when you're sick, etc. you only the legal contract that allows you to take half their shit and to steal their children if you get in an argument over a gift or lack or one. You're crazy as hell.

[BeMuse]

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[Pacquet]

Marriage is mostly a government institution that we’ve turned into status and tradition. Not getting married isn’t always indicative of someone not wanting to spend the rest of their life with you. That said do you want to get married? If so, then why? Is it just a stamp on the relationship or do you see other benefits.

[UnknownSwede]

The point is being with someone you love and if a piece of paper is what keeps you together, then the relationship wasn't that strong to begin with.

My parents have been with their partners for 25 years without being married. Many friends with kids and living with their partners for years without being married.

[RavVid]

What is the point of being with someone if they want to be married?

A man can't afford to be in a relationship for a year now in many jurisprudences.

[Gent207-2]

There is no point if your goals are not align chances are other things aren't ether. Like your views on sex, money, kids and in-laws.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Because marriage isn't necessarry for a long term commitment, regardless of how common it may be.

We aren't all religious.

[LazerBean]

There are way less repercussions for leaving or cheating on someone when you aren't married to them.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Sex and companionship until you find someone who does, I guess

[Anonymous]

There really isn't a point to waiting your time on a non-committal relationship. That includes not only people who don't want to get married but who don't really beleive marriage is for life.

[BarryLiverstone]

To enjoy life day by day, to learn and love and support each other. Make love with low std risks or pregnancy risks

[Anonymous]

Nobody has to get married, but anyone that is 100% against the idea is probably not worth being with anyway, at least not permanently.

[UnknownSwede]

My parents were married and got divorced, they have been with their new partners for double the time they were together without being married to them.

[RusticFox]

Some people just want companionship. Marriage is just a man-made term for a type of relationship and a way for governing bodies to fulfill administratrative tasks.

[Anonymous]

None. It’s already predefined to not go anywhere so it’s pointless.

[melanieeeB]

Partnership doesn't need a ring on it.

[Zayed_]

True

[LiamJHayden]

Companionship

[Jamie05rhs]

There is no point.