I'm a good guy that needs some dating advice... How do I get a date? Does playing hard to get REALLY work?

OK, being the nice guy or the good guy, I have a good head on my shoulders... Something people tell me all the time. "You're a great guy!" "You're going to make a lucky lady VERY happy one day!" I hear it a lot...

But at 19 years old, apparently girls don't like guys like me. It's just a proven fact it seems. I mostly a very chill, laid back person, I don't speak up a whole lot, act obnoxious or loud mouthed... I end up in the friend zone all too much. The only girls that end up liking me are generally unattractive or younger that me by about 2 years. Or older women, obviously not romantically, but I get much better vibes from older women, typically age 25 or older, in conversation. I get a lot of compliments from them too on looks, or that I'm attractive or whatever too.

But enough about me... I'm be pursuing girls my age, I get them to laugh, they smile at me, they look me in the eyes. Sometimes flirt, but at the end of the day, they just don't end up liking me as any more than a friend. I show them my interest, I assert myself, I come off as confident as possible, smile, whatever... But am I too available?

Idk I always thought if you were really interested in someone, you'd make time for them, but playing hard to get? Does it work? It's a pretty retarded concept if you ask me, truthfully IMO. I mean if you're GENUINELY interested, then why would you?

I mean I only have the best intentions... I'm not looking for sex on the first, second, or 99th date... I'm basically looking for a good friend is all. A good friend I can enjoy spending time with be a little extra affectionate with.

I really don't understand why its guys like me that have trouble with getting dates. A trustworthy guy, a cool guy, ya know not getting into any sort of trouble. An all-round great guy that is a good friend to all and would be a great person for anyone to associate themself with, male or female.

I'm not trying to talk myself up, but honestly, that's the kind of person I am. I mean I don't do anything or go anywhere where there's potential for anything bad to happen. And I'm a really fun person to be around if you just let me be myself. I mean I'm a people person and accept anyone, I'm a fairly religious person...

I just don't know what I'm doing wrong when I pursue a girl... Is it really playing hard to get that gets the girls going crazy, because apparently I don't have that "wow" factor. Or maybe with how I'm only looking for love, maybe I just don't have what it takes for "young love"

pssh... idk. Maybe my focus shouldn't be on dating right now, but I'd love to be able to date and get some experience with relationships, I've never had a girlfriend, because I've been pretty shy in the past, but how am I supposed to gain experience if I can't get a date? What do I need to do?

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Idk... I've just heard that playing hard to get works like a charm... so idk.
I'm a good guy that needs some dating advice... How do I get a date? Does playing hard to get REALLY work?
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