I'm dating with this girl, barely a month and se betrayed me kissing a "friend" she told me, "Sorry but I can't undo it, and I'm sorry, the kiss was short, I was 2/3 drunk and I stepped back, I was starting to feel wrong but it was already done")(It happened in a party, I was there but didn't see nothin, a friend of mine told me he had seen her with that guy, that friend of mine talks a bit to her, anfter they came back from were they were my friend tells her that he had told me he saw her with that dudé, immediatly they come over to me saying it was a misunderstanding but it was obvious) , in the night we chatted a bit, talking bout the action and I wanted to belive what she told me was true but, next day i didn't talk to her cause I was so confused, a bit late I start messaging her asking her questions and discussing her to make her say what really happened but she was still saying she didn't do nothin, she was a bit stressed out and I was so down inside me cuz I was making myself ideas, What if she didn't? , What if she did and not only a kiss?, told me go to her house to talk things and I did, she was still covering what she did, anyways she convinced me, but not tot, that night we talked like always, kinda cute and stuff, but still I had that doubt, next day I decided to ask her out while in the videochat, and right after that that, I took out the doubts, and started asking her stuff bout that day, ("I told her damn, I can't understand what U guys suposely needed to talk, I know U already told me that U guys were discussing some things but what damn things"), she stayed silence a bit and told me once in for All that she did kiss him and,... I burned my last neurons thinkig that I loved her too much to end things like this for 1 infidelity, so I did forgived her cuz I think everybody makes mistakes, even though sh dnt tll me, I found it out basicly by my own and I wan't to get over it, and trust on her again, so what is recommendable, some opinions please 👏
Some good advice please: I'm dating this girl barely a month, and she betrayed me by kissing a "friend"?
Its been a month. You bonded that closely in a month to make crazy commitment pledges that you intend to keep forever? More than likely you are still feeling each other out - she has options and attention directed at her from every possible angle. Have a talk about what is this "thing" you have going. You are more attached than she is, that's ok. (someone always is) Let her tell you, what's really up - what is she thinking - she is probably prioritizing work/school/social shit right now. Not some horny guy that wants her 24/7. Don't get hurt if she isn't 100% all in a commitment now this second. Not everybody is ready to commit right away! LOL If she was the one that demanded the couple thing - and she was kissing some other guy... yeah that's betrayal. If it was you driving the couple thing too soon - and some other guy made a move on her that's expected that she didn't think it was a big deal. If she was really not ready to commit (but really likes you) ... she needs to clarify her thoughts. Over time she will either get closer - she will realize how these other guys are just horn dogs - and she will start realizing how special you are... or you will drift apart. Once you make a better assessment of her state of mind you can move forward, from there. Her and some guy friends seems innocent right now from her point because she is still a kid. She can start evaluating if these other guys are worth the risk of loosing you. You can start seeing if she is willing to change.
Bud going to tell ya that your going through puppy love right now. You be leaving high school and stepping into the real world where things completely different and what you feeling right now being so in love with this girl is just a phase. Ease back and focus on you since your putting out too much emotion into this relationship. One thing about alcohol is drunk man tells no lies. If she wanted to kiss that guy like she did she already had the thought alcohol only brings out what’s already there and what people consider doing or saying. You going to be fine bud and hang in there.
Thanks, all I can say is that, I've got to have some lessons from life, sometimes we gotta risk, either way it goes, life's 1 and maibe tomorrow i'll say it was good, maibe it was bad, but one thing is sure, I've done it from the bottom of my Heart,
You've known this girl a month and she's already getting drunk at parties and snogging on someone else? Doesn't bode well in my opinion. She sounds immature.
I'd consider cutting this off. She didn't "betray" you. She betrayed herself! If this is happening a month after you're going out, she must not consider you her "love."
You can certainly like someone after a month, but you can't be in love with someone you don't truthfully KNOW. Dial all that emotion back. Stand back and look at what she's done.
She was at a party WITH you and is drunk and making out with someone else! Really. She has no class at all. Find a nicer girl to go out with. Cut bait and fish elsewhere.
It's up to you to decide what you want. But for me, I will never accept anyone who could not be loyal. You guys have only been with each other for a month. I get the feeling that she is still looking around and want to hang out with other people. A word of advice, drunk is a poor excuse of infidelity.
I think 95% - 99% of the time girls are lying when they say they kissed somebody while drunk. If you are that drunk - you won’t remember what happened. You can do better.
I'm not sure if you are yet mature enough for the advice i'm about to give you over a girl you feel betrayed by a kiss (make her sound like freaking Judas or something) with a friend. Here is the thing about having been DATING this girl for almost a month. Technically, since you are not married, engaged to be married or even have like promise ring involved... She betrayed just what with you? So, now that you found out that she is still interested in other guys... if you want to stay with her, then realize that until you two really have some form of real commitment... she is free to do what she wants. If you can't handle it and want to be with someone you feel would be more faithful, then leave her and let her go and move on without you.
How you're going to love someone in just 1 MONTH? Thats not enough time! and 2nd she doesn't value the relationship enough to stay true. You deserve better but if you keep letting her get away its just going to make you feel worse.
If a girl shows attention or any type of affection to another man (that is not her relatives) that means she doesn't love you and is most likely trying or actually using you for something that benefits her.
Have some respect for yourself and always put yourself first when your in a relationship (come into the relationship thinking if she doesn't meet your principals or have respect for you, then it's an instant warning that you would leave and if she does it again then actually leave and don't take her back... no matter what), cause if you don't these chicks will walk allover you bro
She looks only betrayer had you not posted this story only photograph could have suggested. Boy it starts with one thing. Think this, if anyway you to wanted to fuck this bitch she is giving it to many so why can't it be you too and she is probably a cumbag. She wanted someone to hold her dduring moral times so its you, her easy prey. If you dont leave her today tomorrow she would coz anyway even together she is still trying out to see if she has made the right choice with you but thats not the right way thats exploitation. If she is on whatsapp DM her Number.
y'all were only a month into dating and she did that? Not a very good sign. I’d love to tell you that she can change and all but if i were you i would have given her an ultimatum or ignored her i know your in love or feel like your in love but now that she knows that you easily gave her a second chance and took her back imagine if she does something like that again , and she can easily say the same thing and she knows you’d forgive her please be careful with your heart. Your only 17 and i know another girl would love to have you. If it happened just within a month it can most definitely happen again.
He's not a friend, he is her second option. The more clingy you are the more control you give her. Never attatch yourself to something you can't drop off in 30 seconds or less. This truly makes you independent and it will show in the way you walk and talk
Dude she's playing you. The fact she kissed another guy show's she has little to no respect for you, is not someone you want to build a relationship with and most of all she expects you to be okay with that behaviour like "the good little simp you are." No, have some respect for yourself, tell her what an awful person she is and walk away. Just think she's kissed another guy whilst with you, what next? Having sex with another gut while with you? Nah. YOU DESERVE BETTER
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Anonymous
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Push all of this nonsense to the side and focus on what she said to you. " I'm sorry but I can't undo it". Do you believe she was sorry? You know in your heart whether she is or not. If you believe she was you CAN choose to forgive her if you choose to. If not we'll the writings on the wall isn't it?
She is not someone you want to start getting into a serious relationship with. Sounds like nothing but heart break I would also be saying goodbye to your "friend"
This is probably going to sound weird and heartless, but this is an ideal outcome. The faster you can pick off a bad partner the better. You don't want to spend too much time with bad partners.
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Anonymous
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She cheated on you too soon. Also, why drink to the point of getting lost and take it as an excuse to do things that are wrong? I advise you to stay away from her.
If you were exclusively dating each other it would be a problem. If not the two of you need to have the conversation about what kind of relationship you are having.
What do you expect dating girls your age they don’t know what they want and you’re too young for all that anyway graduate high school and then focus on college
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