So, I'm a somewhat shy guy at initiating physical contact. I went on a coffee date last week. We didn't hug or kiss. Last night we went on our second date. I was going to try and hold her hand while walking in and out of the restaurant but she was switching arms with her purses or carrying her to-go etc. I walked her to her door at the end of the night, and gave reached in for a simple hug. She gave me one and we parted ways. (Keep in mind please, it's below zero outside. Doesn't make standing around a possibility).
I want to ask her on a third date but I'm worried I might be seen as moving too slow. I am relaxed around her the rest of the time, just not with that stuff. My last girlfriend I hugged at the end of our first date, nothing at the end of the second, and kissed her on the cheek (An extreme inner push was required to do this) at the end of the third. She told me in between the third and forth date that had I not made that move, she would have lost interest, but she could tell I was shy and trying to go slow, and was attracted to her by making that kiss.
So, if I get to the third date with this girl, I should push myself right? Hold her hand, arm around her if we do a movie or something, and definitely go in for a kiss at the end of the night? I'm 26 and haven't dated all that much (Honestly, this is only my 2nd REAL second date, so I don't wanna screw it up by seeming too slow or unattracted).
Should I tell her that I might not always read signs of chemistry and attraction the right way?
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No don't tell her that you might not always read signs of chemistry/attraction the right way. I think you should definitely kiss her on the third date because like every girl else she will expect you to do it, so why not? I understand that you are shy and stuff but you should make that move SOMEHOW, but you also need to feel relaxed and don't think about it too much.Good luck on that !2