Is it weird that I haven't kissed my girlfriend yet?

[Anonymous]

She's been my girlfriend for about a month now, but we've known eachother fo almost half a year. She said she likes to take it slow, but it feels weird when all of these other guys are kissing girls on the first date and whatnot.

[boringmurderer]

it isn't weird - you're fine. :) i understand why you're worried about it, but you don't have to do what everyone else is doing. can you kiss her cheek etc? maybe talk to her and tell her how you feel about it, let her reassure you that it's bc she wants to take it slow, not bc of something that's wrong with /you/, and you should feel better. and she might even consider letting you kiss her a little sooner.

[BabeBarlow91]

I think it's a little too long but not weird especially if she's nervous or doesn't feel ready. Have you done anything else yet?

[Asker]

Strange enough, we talked about sex a lot the other day. We've held hands and things along those lines.

[BabeBarlow91]

Ok, so what's the deal here really? You've been dating for about a month and you've only progressed to holding hands, etc. Does she want to have sex or make out with you? What's causing her to hold off going down this route? Do you have a rep as a player? Does she think your the wham bam type? There is something more going on here than just "taking it slow".

[Asker]

Some men treated her badly in the past, and she's been fooled at times. That's why. I've taken those things into consideration which is why I'm holding back, but at the same time I feel I have to ask before making any advancements.

[Realfire22]

One thing you need to understand is that your relationship isn't supposed to be like everyone else's because we're all unique.
When the time is right for you and your girlfriend to lip lock, it will happen and it will be wonderful. U have to believe that.

[simplyadorable]

so you haven't attempted on kissing her but you talk about intimate stuff? It's not weird though yes you have a point, the "usual" is unlikely. The quality of relationship is more important than length of time. I think what you are doing is admirable :)

[kaminalove]

No it is not.
Every relationship is unique and she did ask you to take it slow, its good you are doing well. If you feel that it is the right moment to kiss theb simply go for it.

Just remember to do it for both of you and not "because other couples usually do it". Follow your own path, not the others.

[InconspicuousBox]

It's not weird. Every couple is different, and you two should move at the speed that is comfortable for both of you. Waiting to kiss her or do anything else with her will make her respect you all the more for it. Personally, I have a lot of respect for people who are willing to take it slow and wait for their partner to be comfortable and ready for physical intimacy.

[NiscoTheCat]

I don't think you should be kissing her on the first date or anything but I'm in the exact same situation. We've been together for about a month, a little over. I like to take it a bit slow too but now I'm at a point that I want him to kiss me. Just ask her about it if you're so unsure. It's good to make sure she's comfortable. If you're in a really romantic and sweet situation, just simply ask "Can I kiss you?" That simple.

[Checkers82]

I think it's a little weird but then again all the guys I've been with I have kissed before we were "official" but I guess that's also weird so I'm not one to judge. Just do whatever feels natural.

[CottonMuffin]

I had the same opinion. But not only because I wanted it slow, but because I was also insecure about kissing.

[LittleSally]

Yep. Sounds weird.
Maybe she's had terrible relationship history before this...
Maybe start up a conversation about it.

[Okeeffeflower]

I actually don't think it's weird. You wouldn't want to push her into something. But when you do kiss her, be sure to suck on her lower lip.

[Anonymous]

It's not weird, you respect that she wants to take it slow and that is good on you. I honestly find it so annoying that guys seem to expect a make out session after just one date.