Why does it feel so weird when your first real love gets married?

[Anonymous]

We dated for a year and a half, he cheated on me(I mean he kissed a girl at a party, while I was at unwell at his place.)and I stupidly stayed with him until I realized how stupid it is for me to stay, so I broke up with him. We had lots of problems in our relationship, this was about 4 years ago. I knew he was engaged and we had sort of kept in contact as friends I guess you could say, even when his new girlfriend and him were together.

Obviously I knew they were getting married as they were engaged, but we stopped talking and haven't spoken in a long time . And I recently found out he got married. I don't know why, but I cried. I guess thinking it could of been me and then I feel like what if it never is. I have a boyfriend and I don't even know if I want to marry him one day. I don't have feelings for this ex but, it just hit home. I don't understand why? It is also a reminder that I have got nowhere with my life, even when I met him, I'm still stuck in the same place I was before, unwell and going nowhere with my life because of my health. It's depressing. I had dated a guy before my first love but, I consider the one that got married my first, real love. As it was real to me. I don't get why it's affecting me so much?He hurt me and lied to me, so I'd be better off without him. But I can't stop thinking of my past. I

[confused415]

I had this happen to me! However, I realized that he was a terrible person to me. He had broken up with me and took it back but I just couldn't take dating him anymore. Even years later in college he was still the same jerk.

I was upset when I saw on his Facebook that they had the fairytale wedding and whatnot but then I realized that he and I would not have worked out in the end.

[freewill10]

love hurts, and hurts when we don't feel so good even more...maybe things will change for you in the future. you also hurt because he hurt you in the past, and now he seems happy, and its unfair. That doesn't mean he'll reach happiness before you do. being married does not mean happiness for ever.

[why-makoto-kun]

It's not because you want him, but you're feeling nostalgic about what you thought you could have had. And obviously your current boyfriend isn't fulfilling your needs, if you want to get married. :/ Life sucks sometimes.

[yopyopyop]

You're just unhappy, so every reason that reminds you of this is "good to go".

Yeah, it sucks when your first love gets married. Obviously, some "what ifs" pop up.

Mine even has two kids now. But you can't really expect that the world will stop turning because you failed some stuff, or some stuff failed on you.

[Anonymous]

That's because you've put a lot of emotion into that person.

[Anonymous]

It's just stirring up old feelings (jealousy, betrayal, love).