My ex-boyfriend texts me using fake numbers he got from a text app. He is currently dating someone else. What could this mean?

[Anonymous]

We broke up about six months ago. That was the last time we spoke. Back then, he told me that while he still cared deeply about me, he just didn't love me anymore. His new girlfriend is my ex-best friend. He left me for her. Recently, he texted me, "It's been a long time since we talked. How are you?" This is the second time this month, but I haven't responded because he's still with her, as far as I know. My thing is, he wouldn't be here if there wasn't something missing in his relationship with her, right? Or maybe I'm only telling myself this because I'm clinging to this false sense of hope that he'll leave her for me. I'm not sure if that's something I should even want.

[Finchie40]

Why would you even consider giving him another chance to begin with? Especially after what he did to you with your so callled best friend? I would kick them both to the curb where they belong , and not waste anymore of my time on them whatsoever. She could text me all she wanted , I would just ignore her and block her ass all together. Realize you deserve better than that shit. Ignore him and find yourself someone that wouldn’t walk away from you period

[ThatRandomBoy]

Change your number even though it might end up like it's going to be a hassle to change everything else but I would highly recommend just change your number and give it out to only people you trust if you do this though remember to disable all your two factor stuff and update it to the new number otherwise you're going to be locked out of all your stuff

[PeachyPie93]

I understand you were probably in love with him and you are right he is probably missing you because he realized the grass wasn't greener with your friend. But my advice is don't take him back, he betrayed you so he does not love you. If he did, he would of never have left you and he could easily do it again if someone else comes around.

[Asker]

You’re right. I don’t want to be a placeholder for him. I’ve decided I’m not going to respond to him. I want to be with someone who wants to be with me.

[Asker]

Oh, and he is still with her.

[DreamLife7]

Why are you worried about a guy who dissed u in the harshest way possible? Without even saying anything to u through his actions told you he sees you as worthless, ugly, not good enough, weak, insecure yet with your question you're proving him right as the weak individual you are.

[Asker]

We haven't spoken since the initial breakup. He doesn't know anything about how I'm feeling. That's why I'm here so I don't give in to him.

[DreamLife7]

What's there to give into? So basically he's right about you. He dissed u and by his actions showed u he sees u as worthless, ugly, weak, insecure , and not good enough. So basically he's right okay I see why he dissed u

[Asker]

Because he keeps trying to get ahold of me, which makes it harder for me to forget about him and move on.

[DreamLife7]

Okay you're like maybe retarded or something because you're not comprehending. I see why he dissed u

[TommyMountainFigure]

It means he is missing you, and you're right, he's missing something from the relationship!

[Asker]

Not enough, clearly. Otherwise, he'd be with me and not her.

[HawkPerception]

It means he's a cheater and wants to fuck you behind his current girlfriend's back. Honestly if you have any decency in character, you'd cut him out and even tell his girlfriend about him. He's a low EQ scumbag.

[Asker]

His girlfriend is my now-ex-best friend. They were messing with each other behind my back while she had a boyfriend and he was with me. She hates me nowadays. I have no way of getting ahold of her.

[HawkPerception]

Sounds like a pretty fucked up scenario. You should just remove them both from your life and not give it a second thought.

[Asker]

That's what I'm trying to do. There are certain aspects I miss. I sometimes wish things could go back to the way they were.

[HawkPerception]

Life never really goes back to the way things were. Don't get lost in the past and look to the future.

[Asker]

You're absolutely right. Thank you!

[HawkPerception]

Atta girl 😊

[lightbulb27]

You are right. he's mixed up. Has no business messaging you.


I dont agree w your comment gelow that hed fought harder for you.

[Asker]

He would have if I was the girl he wanted.

[lightbulb27]

Nah… you clashed somewhere and easier to avoid and deflect. People dint know how to solve deeper emotional conflicts. Guess… I wasn’t there. Just saying my view. But that be why he's coming back… not resolved!

[lightbulb27]

Messaging

[Kelley1]

You broke up 6 months ago so stop stalking your ex-boyfriend.

[avery58]

@Kelley1 how is she stalkinf him if he's the one making fake numbers to text her?

[avery58]

Stalking*

[Kelley1]

@avery58 If she wasn't still interested, she would block him or at the very least she would ignore him and move on with her life. Instead she is keeping track of whoever he is dating. In the event she did block him, he should accept it and he should not be creating new numbers to contact her. In that case, he is stalking her making both of them stalkers.

[Asker]

He left me for my now-ex-best friend, which led me to believe that they were messing around during our relationship. That's how I know who he's dating. I don't keep tabs on him, so I'm not sure if they still are, hence why I wrote "as far as I know." I blocked his main number, and that's why he keeps creating new ones to talk to me. I'll admit, I still love him despite everything he put me through, which is why I'm here asking for advice.

[Kelley1]

That explains it. Since you blocked him, he is, in effect stalking you, by creating new numbers to get around the block. I would be very annoyed if that happened to me. I might consider contacting an attorney to see if that is illegal or if I could get a restraining order. More likely, I would do what I usually do and let calls I don't recognize go to voice mail and then ignore any of his text or messages.

You are hanging on because you think you would be doing well, meaning he is at or above your league. Otherwise, you would not have dated him and certainly you would not be interested.

Guys are different. Guys will date down for sex but they don't marry down. Guys will not tell girls they don't like them even if they don't. Most likely he contacts you because he know you care for him more than he cares for you and that he can manipulate you when he is horny. However, it is possible that he regrets dumping you and wants you back. Therefore, you might respond to his message feel him out. However, if you do, I would be very cautious because although men can change, usually they don't. Therefore, more likely than not, if you take him back, if will be a repeat of your prior experience.

[Ironic_Method]

So your ex, that is an ex for a reason, is trying to at the very least go behind his partner's back to chat in secret to his ex... and there's a part of you that wants to be with this person?

[Asker]

I know you're right. I don't know what's wrong with me.

[dustybiker2]

It shows you have control. Keep it and leave him in the past.

[Asker]

I'm trying not to give in to him. I blocked him once again. Thank you!

[dustybiker2]

Go find your happy.

[sheikalana]

This means you have to block him every time he tries to reach out to you. Is never a good idea to get in touch with an ex.

[Asker]

That's what I've been doing. I just needed more reassurance, so thank you!

[noohair]

I don't live in the past, I can't grow while I am living in the past. He could just be covering his bets.

[WhitneySnow]

That’s creepy that he’s texting you with a fake number. He doesn’t want anything good.

[Asker]

I blocked his main number, and I don't use social media. Like I said in another comment I made, I don't keep tabs on him, so I can't say for sure if they're broken up or not. I can't ask without breaking no-contact either. Asking here was a last resort.

[WhitneySnow]

Just ask him. You can always go no contact again if you don’t like his answer.

One thing I will say is that he must be pretty desperate to talk to you or went to all the trouble of getting a fake number.

[Asker]

Okay, he’s still with her. But you’re probably right. I’m not going to speak to him until they break up. And by then it’ll probably be too late.

[WhitneySnow]

Good idea. Best to just move on.

[Alessandra111295]

Sounds like he’s trying to friend zone you. You’ll be he’s plan b. That what I read.

[Asker]

He's said in the past he has no interest in being friends. Could mean he's guilt-ridden?

[slatyb]

It means you are well rid of him

[Ms_Facesitter]

Nothing, block the numbers.

[DextroShade]

He wants you as a side piece.

[impalabill77]

What does he text you, that he wants to hook up?

[Asker]

He wrote, "It's been a long time since we talked. How are you?"

[impalabill77]

I would take it as catching up.

[Asker]

But why the sudden change? We didn't end on good terms. He left me for my ex-best friend and told me he wanted nothing to do with me.

[impalabill77]

Maybe he was thinking of you.

[Asker]

Of course, he was thinking of me if he went out of his way to do this! What is he hoping to get out of that?

[impalabill77]

I would say. To get beck in touch with you.

[Asker]

I get that. I guess I was just hoping it meant he wanted me back. But I probably shouldn't want that anyway given everything he did.

[impalabill77]

If you don't mind me asking. What did he do to you?

[Asker]

He left me for my now-ex-best friend. I found out when he left that they were also messing during the relationship.

[impalabill77]

Honestly, I would ignore him. If you got back with him. He probably cheat on you again.

[Asker]

You’re right. I’m not the girl he wants. If I was, he would’ve done everything in his power to keep me in his life.

[impalabill77]

Absolutely true