How long should I ghost a guy before replying back?

[Juum_]

Me and this guy have been talking for a month, we went on a trip with our friends, suddenly during the trip he decided to act like he doesn't know me and when we came back home he didn't reply to my previous messages I sent before meeting him, so I sent him a vn asking if there any misunderstanding happened cause he seemed really weird, he said no everything is fine, are you mad or is there anything that furstraded you, why do you think I'm weird.

So I hadn't responded and I ignored him but I do really like him. How long should I wait before I text him back.

3 days

2/3 weeks

Never reply to him

[ProbablyClueless]

I need more information. How long did the guy leave you on read? Did you send the messages after you got back from the vacation, or were these messages you sent before returning home?

If you want to talk with the guy, don't ignore him. That is a guaranteed way to make sure your connection with this guy becomes anatagonistic. He asked you what he's doing that makes you think he's being weird. If you want to have a connection with this person, you should answer the question.

"The reason I thought there might be a problem between us is because you never responded to my previous messages."

[Juum_]

We were talking right before the trip, he sent couple of messages as usual but I packed slept, I replied to him while I was on my way, it was on Friday morning, the trip was on Friday and Saturday, he didn't reply so I texted him yesterday "Wednesday".
I really wanna talk to him but I don't get why he suddenly decided to ignore me, he even left his buddies to come and say hi so at the beginning of Friday everything was normal.

[ProbablyClueless]

It doesn't sound like he ignored you at all. It sounds like he texted you before the trip, you took your time replying, then y'all had your trip together where he saw you in person. It's not like the guy blew you off...

[Juum_]

Then why he didn't reply to the messages when he came back, and during the trip he acted like I wasn't there, whenever I was talking to our friends he looked at the opposite side of where I'm standing.

[ProbablyClueless]

I don't know. You should probably be talking with him directly about this situation.

[Summeroflove]

Ghosting someone is childish and cowardly. Don’t start that… If you aren’t interested in talking to someone. Just communicate that. You don’t have to be specific as to why if you don’t wanna get into it. But tell him.

Maybe he was busy? You told him you had a problem and he was trying to figure out what specifically the problem is. You also asked him a question and he answered you.

If you really like him and ignore him. He will probably figure you’re not interested and will move on. Sometimes people get busy and can’t respond immediately. Other times someone takes days or weeks to reply. Once someone does they to me I figure they aren’t into me and there are people who are. You can’t be the only person who likes him either.

[Caroline91]

The only reason for you to continue any kind of contact is bc you are really into toxic relationships based on a lot of manipulative game playing. If that’s the case, than go for it ‘cause you got yourself the perfect guy for a high drama time. If that’s not what you really want, then get yourself into therapy to discover how to have a healthy relationship. I wish you well.

[bobalife]

Lol girl, ghosting means no return. That’s a zombie comeback😂 I would encouraged you to just continue to ghost as he doesn’t deserve your time, emotions, and energy. Like he pretended he didn’t know you? That’s such a red flag and turned off. No need to hold onto someone who’s douchey and doesn’t even make time for you. Time to move on.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Stop playing games. You want to talk, you talk. You don't want to talk, you don't. It's that simple.

[Juum_]

I wish it was that simple and I wanted it to be that simple but he started he ghosted my first.

[Ms_Facesitter]

he started playing games, so you are automatically forced to join in on his stupidity? No. It is indeed that simple. People who play games I have cut out of my life, immediately.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Ms_Facesitter You beat me to it. Nothing says "cut me out of your life" faster than playing games. People will put all this effort into planning the games they are going to play but no effort into actually communicating and solving a problem.

[Flatmanlewis]

This is the textbook definition of immaturity and games. If you’re seeing this kind of behavior before you’ve even committed to one another then why would you even invest the time and effort into him?


Liking someone isn’t going to make them better. Best to move on and find somebody who isn’t this immature.

[Friendlybro79]

Sounds like some maturing needs to happen and I mean that kindly. You're both adults. Ghosting seems childish. There doesn't seem to be anything worth while pursuing in this relationship considering how this going. Why even waste time here?

[DreamLife7]

Unfortunately he does my like you so he does my care if you dissappear lol 😆. He's the one who ghosted u in the first place. You playing this game isn't going to make a guy who doesn't like u, like u. I don't know why u girls simply can't take rejection. If a man were hounding u like this you'd be calling on the metoo whatever group

[DreamLife7]

*unfortunately he does not like you

[82lynx]

Games like that from either side are or at least should be unacceptable. Even if you see him as a prize right now, you’re better off with a Razzie.

[emma55]

Just ghost him already, if he is acting weird then that’s on him.

[ThatRandomBoy]

They're probably going to think you're not interested and move on so I would probably cut the bullshit games out of this

[Juum_]

So you think I should text him back?

[Kelley1]

Never wait to reply. I am certain that he is out of your league or else you wouldn't care. Therefore, if you wait, he will find someone else and probably will anyway.

[IslaTheWitch]

you shouldn't ghost him at all, you both should clarify the situation as soon as possible

[Billlewis]

How long has it been since you've been back?

[Juum_]

4 days

[Billlewis]

I'd leave him hanging for at least a week, maybe up to ten days, etc.

[Juum_]

So it's okay to reply to his messages after 10 days right?
Should I respond to what he said or open a new conversation?

[Billlewis]

Consider responding to his old message by saying, 'Sorry I took so long to respond, but I've just been so busy', etc. In other words, make it seem as though there are other people interested in you, as well. Use your instincts to determine how jealous you want to try to make him;)

[Juum_]

That's seems fun, thank you ;-)

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, you're quite welcome.

[MsProsperity]

Don’t ghost him, talk to him and tell him everything he did that you didn’t like

[JesseP1nk]

Being there... Trust me when i say it. If you like someone, please dont ghost them. Only person you are gonna hurt by ghosting is yourself. Communicate. That works both ways - for guys too.

[SotiCoto]

"Ghosting" is psychological abuse. Don't do it. Not even if someone does it to you first. There is no justification for it. Even considering it makes you an arsehole.

[WhitneySnow]

Talk to him. Explain why you’re upset. Get him to admit why he ignored you.

[strateguy632]

don't ghost, or else he woll move to another person

[Fromdusktilldawn]

ghosting will only escalate it, he seems to be confused and doesn't really know what he wants, usually we guys open up a bit when we feel very comfortable with you and have some alcohol in

[itsclearlynicholas]

There was no option to vote "ghosting is cruel" 👻👻👻😔😭

[rishabhgupta54]

Open communication and trust is the key to a successful relationship. Ask him directly what had happened if he don't then tell him I am done

[whistlingwh0res]

I think all men are good actors. but inside of them there is just a crying baby. that's why madonna made ton$ of money by showing her fake mother side.

[MLGbreezy]

Who hurt you

[Rangers]

If you're ghosting a guy, don't talk to him anymore. He deserves better than you