True or False, Men need to protect and provide in a marriage?

[Xia1994]

Amongst other things, in a marriage men need to protect and provide, true or false?

True

False

A total of 76 votes were cast: 23 girls and 53 guys. See detailed results

[Lliam]

I selected 'true'. It goes without saying.

Protection:
Women love a man who makes them feel safe and secure and who will protect them if necessary.
Being bigger, stronger and typically more courageous and skilled at defense, men have served the role of protectors since the dawn of mankind.
A man who flees from danger and abandons his family is no man.

But that doesn't mean that women can't also be fierce in protecting their loved ones. Most women would give their lives for their husband and children.

So it's not only men who are protective. They are just better at it.

Providing:
Of course a man should provide for his wife and children. Many men take pride in making it one of their primary duties. Hard work, competence and success gives them purpose, as well as a sense of achievement and identity in the broader society.

But a man doesn't have to be the sole provider or even primary earner in today's society.

In hunter-gatherer and agrarian cultures, women worked as hard as men. In hunter-gatherer cultures, they were the primary gatherers and processors of food. In agrarian cultures, they worked right alongside the men to farm, garden, and care for livestock.

Providing doesn't only apply to income. There is also nurturing, caring for, and doing innumerable things that don't earn income. Both men and women should do those things. A household in which one person earns income and does nothing else is dysfunctional.

[Lionman95]

I would say true not necessarily because women need that but because men want to do that. A man that can´t protect or provide in any sense probably feels useless. Just to be clear that doesn´t mean he´s the only one fulfilling those roles but those are the roles a man most likely will want to fulfill.

[ManInChains]

I just think it’s sad that that is all men are for is to die for a family that only loves him for what he can provide

[Xia1994]

@ManInChains I understand everyone has different opinions, but if a man is comfortable providing for and protecting his family, they should love him for who he is, not just for what he provides. If you're loved only for what you provide, you may have chosen the wrong family.

[ManInChains]

So it’s the man’s fault for choosing someone who only cares about him for what he provides? It’s not the fault of the woman for only caring about him because of what he provides? That is misandry

[Xia1994]

@ManInChains you’re quick to jump into conclusions, you see clearly that this post about men specifically, it’s obvious that the woman is wrong too for only caring only about what a man provides I mean state the obvious why don’t ya duhhhh!!!

[ManInChains]

The sad thing is that it isn’t considered obvious

[Xia1994]

@ManInChains it depends on your worldview others might argue that it is obvious.

[mandyfire98]

Provide what? All the money? Most women these days make their own money.

Provide money for a two income household? Yeah, provide their half.

Provide companionship? Sure

Provide parenting? Sure, their half.

[caitycat21]

Yes, when I’m looking for a relationship I gravitate towards men with these qualities. A man who doesn’t want to protect you or provide for you is really not a relationship I could see myself in personally

[AI Opinion]

Diving straight into the heart of love debates, I say the notion that men must protect and provide is a dance as old as time but with a modern twist. True, historically, men have been slotted into that role, but today's relationships are more about sharing the stage. It's about partnership, communication, and mutual support. So, while protecting and providing can still play a part for some, it's more about balancing acts and knowing each other's strengths and weaknesses. In modern love, both partners have the opportunity to lead and support, making the relationship a true duet rather than a solo performance. 🕺💃

[liggang]

People think if humanity deviates from a strict Christian religious conception of man and woman that society will veer off and long term end up in a hell of our own creation.

It's pretty silly.

[OlderAndWiser]

People need air to breathe, food and water, and shelter from the elements. Those are needs. Everything else is a want or desire.

[Finchie40]

False, because his wife should be a partner as well and help out as well , a couple should be a team , there is No I , in team ,

[Kaneki05]

No both do. Unless one is really happy to take that on themselves then they can but a healthy balance is always the best for both.
If there is a problem for example it's better to have two people work to fix than one right? Sure one could do it but why would 2 be bad?

[RavVid]

we are very comfortable with trad gender roles. are using need in the sense of my wanting to do this or in the sense should/must do this?

If in the sense should/must what are your should/must do's?

[Xia1994]

Do you believe the statement/ question to be true or false if the statement is men need to protect and provide in relationship?

[RavVid]

Yes. I certainly see that as my role so it is a want to and should do in my view.

[SotiCoto]

False. They don't need to.
Most will probably want to because they're conditioned BOTH by biology and social pressure to do so... but it isn't like it has to be that way.
To be honest, the biggest threat to most relationships comes from within these days. The need for actual protection is low... and both participants can provide. In fact both probably should. It is too imbalanced for only one of the two to be providing.

[RingOfFire]

Providing and protecting is a man's natural role in a family. They are physically and mentally designed for it by millions of years of evolution. Women are designed to have babies and take the primary role in raising them and men are designed to provide for and protect the women and children.

The roles are a survival mechanism that creates a strong family unit which is the building block of a healthy society. It is the reason we are here today to discuss it.

[ManInChains]

Men are expected to die for the family. Women are meant for the caregiving and to protect the children as a last resort. There are some men who don’t think protecting a family that doesn’t want men involved in said family isn’t worth protecting.

[dustybiker2]

No. Not in as many cases as people like to believe. You get a lot of men (not all, a large group of anons though) mouthing off on gag about this. But there is gag and then there is reality.

[exitseven]

Marriage is a partnership but each member has a role. The guy has to provide and protect.

[LiamJHayden]

The couple needs to decide what works best for them.

[Zbrody1997]

It’s biological, however if you're not worth providing for or protecting, then don’t expect a happy marriage.

[Nikki1989]

False, men are not needed in that way at all.

[HighValue]

If the woman didn't save herself for marriage, the man shouldn't provide for her.

[WhitneySnow]

Both of you need to protect and provide for each other

[grega239]

Its 2024. Women can do that themselves.

You wanted equality and because of that men are no longer required to do that.

Tha patriarchy has been smashed. Good luck

[Ms_Facesitter]

They don't NEED to. But someone HAS to. Either of the two will do.

[Likes2drive]

We usually do but women don’t seem to want that anymore, also hard to do these days when things cost so much without her contributing

[genericname85]

everyone can live a relationship they want. and what one wants should not be dictated.

[jahaims]

Opinions aren't true or false. Facts and fallacies are.

[Anonymous]

with the government and mainstream media actively working against marriages and the nuclear family unit, men must protect themselves and their family at all costs

[TonyMetal___86]

It's not a must especially these days but yes in general a man must protect and provide for his family, that's what i prefer!

[MsProsperity]

Very true and they need support from their women

[msc545]

only women who wish to take full advantage endorse this

[pinconon]

that would be something I'd look for

[BarryLiverstone]

Both parents protect and provide

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

100% true.

[gorydetails]

True 100%

[eagle1951]

yess

[grega239]

Why?

[eagle1951]

@grega239 In my days it was what we were taught and told we had to do

[grega239]

I was told the same. But since women dont want to uphold their end of things, why should men?