Men hold the key to marriage, True or False?

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Hear me out cause I know it sounds sexist but it comes from a logical point of view, women have the final choice of yes or no but if the man doesn't propose there's really no choice right? I'm fully aware a woman can propose as well but the thing is do women really wanna do that tho, it seems like women want to be proposed too cause it's where the magic is at right, it makes em feel more feminine, make them feel more special to leave the proposing to men no? So thoughts? 🤔

normalice · Accepted Answer

In general it is true we all basically know if a woman is dating a guy for 6+ months chances are she's fine with marrying him, if not outright hoping to. We know women don't generally have any incentive to waste months of time on physical flings with just one person. Women obviously like sex but tend to like it more when they have some sort of bond with the guy. For those exceptional women that get immense pleasure from sex without any sort of bond, if it is truly physical she could and likely would find multiple partners.

But those are exceptions. The point is peak sexual pleasure is too complicated for women to be the simple minded motivation that it is for men. So, of course, we all assume the reason women get into a relationship is because they want to be in a relationship - not because they want sex. And even if sex is their motivation, again, they can only really get peak pleasure from that while in a relationship.

Whereas men are usually pretty blatant about sex being their sole motivation. Just as it is known women want a relationship it is also known men want sex. So, yes, the bottleneck between meeting and marriage is generally clogged with a man who isn't yet ready to admit to himself that random women aren't going fall out of the sky and land on his dick. It's hard for us to detangle all our life's ambitions from just our sexual ones. But once that is done usually all those sexual ambitions can be heaped onto the spouse for him/her to deal with, leaving the guy free to pursue other ambitions without distraction.

Keyboardkat · Accepted Answer

I woulda been flattered (flattened?) if a great woman had proposed to me! Trouble is, you know that by proposing she has exposed her vulnerability, and you are now in a position to either make her deliriously happy or to hurt and disappoint her! And that does produce some pressure to say yes. But I guess women have been dealing with this exact pressure for years! It hurts to be turned down! It can turn your fondest hopes and dreams to ashes! And if you have to say no, it can make you feel like sh-t for doing that to someone!

myloveforuisinfinte · Accepted Answer

I guess it is all about attitudes and initiatives.

Young adults are more likely than their elders to consider it "unacceptable" for a woman to do the asking. According to the studies, nearly half of single women who hope to get married someday say they would consider proposing. Among the newer unions, 83 percent said the man proposed.
So, the boy-asks-girl proposal still reigns.
I think it probably takes a woman with a lot of guts to be able to do it. Because a woman who proposes also risks criticism for her boldness. It could mislead the boys that girls who would propose seem like as desperate, aggressive and unattractive. Somewhat same thought girls have for those boys who often propose the girls.
I also believe that girls are more commitment oriented than boys. Like if a girl propose someone, then it means she would like to be with the guy till her last breath.
In short, Whether you are the boy or the girl, if you feel you are at the point you want to make a lifetime commitment, express that. Otherwise you will be one of them who will feel regretted in future for not proposing someone you ever wanted to.
Hope it helps😃❤️✨cocoo:)

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

I see magic in the relationship... I see magic in aligning, compromising, and achieving an agreement... I see magic in everyday life together... I see magic in being close...

maybe I'm the weird one... but I don't see magic in proposing... :D

in my opinion, marriage has no key, only two people who have to work hard to keep it in good shape

AviatorTom · Answer

Well, it's said that men hold the key and women hold the lock, so...

CheeseMonster · Answer

I didn't know marriage had a key. But using that analogy, I'd say women hold the key and men hold the lock, because the lock has to come first. The man proposes/presents the lock, and only then can the woman use the key/say yes.

dustybiker2 · Answer

False. When it's healthy both parties just know.  True. In some cases when it's unhealthy.

Wsx2wsx2ws · Answer

Its ingrained that women want a leader. Some one who will step up and face challenges. Who takes the lead.
I am not being sexist here. This is the best dynamic for a long term relationship.
So if the man is just a follower, never reaching out to grab the moment he is lame, and she is going to know it.

If the situation arises he can turn her down saying he needs a little more time to think. Then he should go get a ring (if he didn't already) and propose ASAP.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I'd say women hold the key. Men proposing is the lock, but women decide if they do or don't put the key in.

Anonymous · Answer

Women hold the key to sex, men hold the key to marriage.

Edu-HUN · Answer

Well, there are also some cases of the woman asking for marriage, of course they don't kneel to us, like we do. But asking or implying if we are interested in marriage, It's something I tend to see very commonly in recent times.

jahaims · Answer

Opinions aren't true or false. Facts and fallacies are.

DextroShade · Answer

Women control who has sex, men control who has relationships

Lisia · Answer

100% true. I'd prefer my man to propose.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Women sometimes do them proposing too. It’s definitely not traditional but what woman is considered traditional anymore?

Awesomesauce2005 · Answer

Well, women are the lock and men are the key...

NathanDavis · Answer

what about pick lockers?

Miah04 · Answer

What key?🤔

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