My girlfriend cheated on me, any advice?

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I was away to a music festival when it happened. She was drunk and her side of the story is a guy tried to kiss her and she backed off. Other peoples story was she kissed him (I don't know who to believe) When I found out I dumped her but after a while I have started to really miss her! We did have a talk and she was in floods of tears. I didn't want to take her back because "once a cheater, always a cheater" but as soon as I hugged her, I thought how much I missed her. I do believe she is overly sorry but whether I can trust her I don't know. Should I start meeting her again and see how it goes...or any advice please.

bellazillaman · Accepted Answer

When people break up in these sorts of situations, it generally means there was a lot of anger and upset. The best thing for a painful break-up, I find, is space. You need to let yourself get over that person to avoid being sucked in again. It's the same for both parties. The more you distance yourselves, the less chance your going to fall for one another again. Honestly, I wouldn't believe her. Being a girl myself I understand how our mind works ( in most cases). I have never cheated but I have lied about sexual encounters. People lie because they're afraid of the concequences, your girl was afraid of loosing you. She lied, your all hurt and now you want each other back. No good. You have to think of what caused her to do it. Alcohol? Lonliness? Lust? You want to be able to trust your partner if your away and they're lonely. You want to be able to trust them when they're under the influence. Or if they're just lusting. Once you can determine why she did it, then maybe you can figure out (by knowing her personality) if she would do it again. Personal opinion? It'll happen again. Maybe not with you, but it will. Cheaters do not retain trust.

So you can always remember and cherish the memories, just don't try to re-live them.

You'll find someone who won't have cheated on anyone.

imloveinyo · Accepted Answer

i had the same issue my boyfriend cheated on me and claimed he felt bad and left ... I dumped him and a few days later he called me up crying saying he would never do it agin.. I didn't take him back.. but then bout a week later he came over to hang out and he hugged me. and I broke down crying telling him that I would date him but I told him how it made me feel and everything.. and ever since then weve been happy... and its been bout three months and it hasn't happened agin :) so I say give her one last chance if you truly care about her and you think you guys can have a future.. but make sure you tell her how much it hurt and if she does it agin you guys are over for good :)

AngelLove · Accepted Answer

If you can trust her again I would give her one last chance just remind her and yourself that your relationship is on a string and that you have to rebuild the trust you had for her. If you believe she'll do it again Just forget her and stop wasting your time on her.

well I hope this helped . Good luck

bababooey · Accepted Answer

no. make her work for you. make her prove how much she loves you. DUDE! if you let he back in right now you are going to be disgusted with her. I'm telling you. you will think about what she did and just be sick of her. if you love her you need to take some time and think about what happened. its going to take a little while to separate the feelings you have and the relaity of the situation. once you do...then make a decision. love is a great thing, but think about this...if she put herself in a situation to cheat, and then went through with it...do you really think she has it all together? you don't want that man.

shes just upset that she got caught. that she made a mistake. would she give you another chance? give it some time before you decide. maybe you can find out what really happened.

KERMlT · Accepted Answer

That's only what you know happened. Her recollection might be skewed from alcohol, that's why drunks don't make good reliable witnesses.

Trust is something that takes time to rebuild. And alcohol doesn't make you do things you don't want to do. There had to be some intentions there.

My advice is that there are more fish in the sea. I have been plastered and been out drinking at strip clubs. I have never cheated on my g/f. If she had good morals, she would never have crossed that line.

freefall7 · Answer

Listen dude 90% of girls are whores.  They want every aspect of life without facing the consequences.  It doesn't work that way.  Women are in denial when they cheat. Ever talk to a girl when you know they cheated on someone and their response was... "oh but I was drunk", "he was never there for me", "he treated me like sh*t".  These are just some of the responses our whorish American women come up with to make them feel good that they cheated on someone.  Either ditch the bitch or keep her on the side, just don't gain any feelings.

Anonymous · Answer

Heyi ...u listen...u have to ensure that what you heard from others, is true...? Besides you should have invatigated...isnt it...? Y did you leave her..?  you have been confused about the incident but still you belived...y...? Don't you belive her...? did you ask her about that...? Didn't u..? You shud have asked her...r you an innocent guy...?...try to understand...every person in the world is not perfact...it means everyone has some nagetive virtue...still we are to cope up & over come those things... I think you didn't love her...because love depands on trust right..!...thus you don't trust her that's y you left her...u shud have warned & given her a chance...now go to her & ask her frankly & make her careful as if she doesn't do in future,if she did that..?...okk...i hv asked you many questions...if you answer all the questions then you will get your advice...thank u...

darkknight1x · Answer

I wouldn't. Don't let her out of your sight at a music festival. Don't ever let her drink alcohol out in public. I hate people that use alcohol as an excuse to do what they want to do and not suffer any consequences. Next time, go for a girl that only drinks alcohol on special occasions like birthdays...etc.

OceanLover · Answer

this is why I don't get drunk...

she was drunk, her judgement was impaired. so she wasn't in her right mind... but... personally, I wouldn't even bother dating a girl who gets wasted. I would tell her to not get drunk again because if she does, promises won't matter. she will cheat again.

mikkie180 · Answer

Considering you did dump her, which is my advice to anyone who has been cheated on, and now you miss her, go ahead and give her another chance with the clear understanding that there will not be anymore chances. Good luck.

Leeggg · Answer

She's a bit of a whore, clearly lying to ya. Use her as a booty call if you must (she'll do what you like cause she'll want you back), but she's not girlfriend material.

DoctorSex · Answer

omg I wote thee most epic speech for you, and it probably would have helped you, but it dissappeared! screw this man, your on your own! looool 2 lazy to retype it!

Urbanpunk · Answer

dude, if its what you want, and you believe you can trust her again and you know she is sorry, id say go for it, id hate for you to miss an opportunity

Dominique_7 · Answer

I personally believe everyone deserves to be given a second chance. Talk things over really well and give her the opportunity to win your trust again.

KarKingJack · Answer

She was drunk man! People leap out of tenth story windows when their drunk, let it slide.

sillysally · Answer

Everyone deserves a second chance. I know she may have hurt you, but she didn't sleep with the guy!

simply1me · Answer

Well, if she only kissed him then at least that's not as bad as if she would have slept with him.. you could look at it that way!  id give her another chance and just take things slow...

pavlove · Answer

Definitly break up, bro no good can come of this...

ookiss · Answer

love is power . It can change everything . Trust in her , you will gain better life .

trod199 · Answer

dump her ass for a white girl

ballast · Answer

dump that b!tch.

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