You should LEAVE HER. You deserve better. You seem like a good guy who would not stab someone in the back so you don’t deserve to have that done to you. There will be a good girl who will love you and only have eyes for you.
I’d say break up with her. She stepped out & betrayed your trust.
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Break up move on she will do it again most likely... you can't sleep with someone if you actually love someone else.. you deserve better... its a different situation if he raped her.. she's traumatized and she didn't do it out of her own selfish greed but he forced her thats a different story but from the way I am reading what your saying she chose to sleep with him when she should have remained faithful to you.. let her cry she doesn't deserve to walk all over you like that! You deserve a woman who only has eyes for you that doesn't want anyone else in her but you... I kinda think of it like a door and a lock for years now I have the same one and I much rather that and same with him were on the same page! She showed you her worth noda be thankful she didn't string you along and just break up with her... so many people cheat its not worth seeking revenge just find a woman that deserves your love and affection cause if she did she would have slept with you and not him! I dont care how sorry she is honestly words are cheap nothing she could say would make it better... she did what she did and it takes two to tango... she's the only one at fault cause she's the one in a relationship with you.
PS im sorry man! there's much better women out there im sure of it!
This is not what you wanted, this is not what you were looking for.
You were looking for a girl who would respect you, love you
If this is what she wanted, then she shouldn't have bothered with you.
You need love. You want sex. You want love. You want support. You want respect. Realize your own needs.
She's made her choice. And she disrespected you in the process. She should've ended up your relationship with you and then do whatever she wanted.
She needs to be punished for bad behavior. Her punishment should be breakup.
Now don't let her treat you like trash anymore.
You're not the kind of man who would pick up something which is thrown before you by other men after use. We decide what we become.
Revenge is immatue shit.
End up your relationship with her and continue your search for life partner.
Everyone has emotions. Everyone needs sex. She needed sex. Bro, you also need sex, right? You want respect right?
It's time to do the hard.
That woman has played her role , made her contribution.
She doesn't deserve forgiveness. You're not obliged to forgive her.
Bro you should realize that you have your own needs and deserve a better life.
She went out of the way to fulfill only her own desires completely aware and knowing her responsibility towards you.
Dump her stupid ass.
The more you give women freedom, the more they will act bitchy.
You don't need to, you shouldn't control everything about her , but you need control over your own life.
Wife has the responsibility to look after her husband's respect.
Where there's no respect for her husband, she will never go there.
Mutual growth and wellness comes before personal intrests.
Whatever is your decision, I want you to know, sometimes its okay to be selfish. Its okay to place yourself as priority first. Do not be guilt tripped in anyway, and for that do not try to do something in anger, you might regret. Its okay if you stay and its okay if you leave as well. But if you leave, you leave, no coming back. So make a decision wisely. But again, know this, your feelings matter, your pain matters, your frief matters. As they say, never make a promise when too happy, and a decision when too sad. Think with pure logic for sometime. Suggestions will come from everywhere and usually majority is right, but sometimes its not. Sit down and think brother, we people here got your back!
Depends on your long term plan. If you think the two of you can make this last then sit down and have an open and frank conversation about the issue. If she was just satisfying an urge, the question becomes why not tell you she has a need and the two of of you fulfill it together. Why was a third party brought in?
you might find out things you never knew about her and yourself. This thing cannot be left to fester. If either of you are not able to open up, best to let the whole thing go now and pursue a relationship that you can build to a better future.
Break up and move on , you will never fully experience true love with her , the fact that she cheated on you will haunt you for the rest of your life if you stay with her , you will never really be able to trust her and you will never experience true love , By you leaving her might be a turning point in her life to never cheat on someone again but if you stay with her she will eventually think that maybe you will cheat on her and then turn around and cheat on you again , why it’s best to move on and not waste your time and realize you deserve someone better than that , Cheating is a selfish act , when someone can cheat on you they don’t truly love and respect you , they only like the convenience of you , realize you deserve better than that
Break up with her, that's a given, that "what comes around goes around" thing is best put as "what happens once will happen again" and from now on best you keep a foot out the door in future relationships, if it helps look at it as whoever you end up with won't do whatever it is that bothers you about who you're currently with.
I wouldn't normally forgive... but true love is a rare thing so if you love her (but she definitely doesn't or she would prioritise your hurt over her own pleasure) then maybe consider staying with her. In my opinion anyone can do better than a cheater, but it depends on your feelings towards her.
Break up, no matter what.
My first girl Just kissed someone else.
Wich I consider cheating. I Made the mistake of believing her regrets when she was crying on the phone when I said it was over.
She kept crying and I gave her a 2nd chance
2 weeks later we wake up together in bed.
I go home about a 2 hour ride. At the moment I wanna put the key in the door she text me that it is over.
Girls that cheat are PURE EVIL walk away when you still have the strength too do it or she will hurt you again
When men cheat and have sex with another woman it's sometimes emotional and some does not. When women cheat it is always ALWAYS emotional. No matter what she says.
She has proven to be completely untrustworthy and if you stay with her she will do it again because she knows you are nothing more than a rug she can walk all over. So leave her, and find someone worthwhile
How did you find out? Did you ever cheat on her? Sounds like you didn’t.
If you stay with her then you are just enabling bad behavior. She will look at you as a nice guy chump and she will likely cheat on you again. You need to respect yourself and dump her. She needs to learn there are consequences to her shitty behavior.
Too many women (and some men) get affirmation in society to be shitty. Part of the problem (besides modern feminism) is that guys aren’t being tough enough because we are afraid of being lonely. Truth is you will increase your chances of getting a new and much better girlfriend if you dump this cunt. You know why? It’s shows you respect yourself which in turn will make women respect you more.
Ditch the bitch. I know it’s tough but if you don’t you will regret it. Trust me.
Leave now, a woman that cheats on you has no respect for you as a man, you have a better chance of just leaving and finding someone else or being by yourself. Don't allow the need of wanting to be with someone to make you stick with someone that doesn't see your value. "Rather be alone than with bad company". Also remember it she cheated once what makes you think she won't do it again, if you allow behavior it will turn into a habit.
Break up. I know people say you can forgive and forget but you’re always going to second guess what she does, where she goes, who she’s with. She’s broken your trust now. If you stay you’ll be paranoid
I want to add something to this wonderful answer. OP you must be feeling a lot of anger, maybe rage along with grief. Whatever you do, please do not say anything in anger. You can of course say in grief, but no anger. If you say something in anger and leave, it might create a guilt in you. You want to be a free man, dont you? If you discuss do not say things like "You are this or you are that", say it like "I felt this on your actions". OP the damage has been done and maybe she doesn't give a damn and move on quickly, but you, you do not do anything foolish in anger that you will later regret. I want you to handle it such, that you come out guilt free.
Leave her! It's hard to do but she'll do it again trust me and you'll be more hurt that round.
Be brave. Your young and will meet another.
For a woman to have sex there has to be an emotional attatchment. Do the research, biology doesn't lie. The oxytocin release in women is what makes them moan in ecstacy during sex forming a pair bond. Google it
How did you discover it? I am just basing thos off of how I would deal with infidelity. If she told you soin after then you should forgive her. If she didn't and told you long after or you dound out another way, then leave her. If she told you she felt remorse. If she tried to hide it from you... maybe not
Move on.
She clearly doesn't respect you.
She'll probably do it again or worse you will always suspect her of doing it again.
She's broken the trust that a relationship needs to thrive and grow.
Are you thinking of marriage?
Will you you know for sure that any children are actually yours?
The sooner you suck it up and leave the better.
Think about yourself and your needs.
She clearly is thinking about herself and her needs.
Why is this a question? If your a cuck you stay with her, if your not you break up, its not difficult. She cheated on you once she will do it again because she has shown that you don't matter, that your relationship doesn't matter. I would dump her ass and be quite brutal about the whole thing because people like that have absolutely zero value in society.
Well I can't tell you what to do, it's your relationship.
Personally I would never forgive a cheater. I'd immediately break up.
But I can tell you this, if she did it once, what's stopping her from doing it again. And moreover, would you be okay with that constant doubt of it happening again?
Well for starters you should stop referring to her as your girlfriend.
1) If she confessed it within 24 hrs of that happening... And is willing to suffer the consequences...
Than I think she deserves a chance.
2) If you can move past it! And can look at future and not ponder at that incident!..
Then only give her the chance..
You being able to move past it matters a lot here...
If shouldn't be like you give her a chance and this grows on you and 3 months later you cheat on her and turn this relationship really toxic for both of you..
Well, what's YOUR opinion on this? That's the really important question. The issue may be less to do with the fact of the infidelity, but moreso the fact that she's violated the boundaries of your relationship. To me, cheating in any form suggests a massive disrespect to the partner being cheated on. You probably thought the relationship was "sacred", and her actions have completely contradicted that presupposition. How does that make you feel?
Ignore her completely. That's the best punishment for a horrible person. She doesn't deserve for you to properly break up with her.
If you want to be the pussy boy, and her Second choice? What's to stop her from fcking someone else, later, because you accepted her doing it now?
DUMP HER, and get one that is HONEST, and caring, and DOESN'T CHEAT!!
So, tell us why you'd keep a woman that fucks around FOR ANY REASON. And all that 'it was just sex' is complete bullshit.
You seem desperate. I'd tell her fuck right the hell off. GIVE her to HIM. My bet is he doesn't want her - he just wanted to fuck her.
She is faking feeling bad about it around you. Around him she just takes his lead on how she should think and feel. Some women even just feel however the TV or their media tell them to feel. Women like this will always be like children for whom the sweets must be locked away; until they achieve enlightenment as described in the Bhagavad Gita. Im European by the way, but Hinduism is the most complete moral science on the planet, give credit where its due!
If you are open for it, try a open relationship with so foundational rule.
I found that the Four Agreements are a very good foundation for open/group relationships.
Be Impeccable With Your Word.
Don't Take Anything Personally.
Don't Make Assumptions.
Always Do Your Best.
Break up. Why would you want to be with someone who cheats on you?
Break up. Once a cheater always a cheater. Have some god damned self respect, man! Leave this whore she doesn’t deserve you!
What does she want to do? If the two of you can talk it over and be certain she'll never do it again, you may let her use her one-per-life get-out-of-jail-free card. You may also want to go for couple's therapy if you think the relationship is worth saving.
Kick her ass to the curb so fast she bounces. Get a date, any date, and ensure you are seen publicly with her.
Then move on with your life.
Oh, it was only sex? She only allowed another man to plow her? In that case, propose to her 🙄. Dude, get rid of her. She doesn't care about you. She's not loyal to you. She's not faithful to you. Are you that desperate?
I'd end it. She could do it again. I'm not forgiving when it comes to being cheated on. My trust is broken & i deserve someone better than a fucking cheat.
Or you could choose the third option. If you love her but dont want her cheating on you. Then start and open relationship. That way you both can sow your wild oats. Because she obviously isn't done sowing hers.
She should give you a free pass to have sex with another girl.
You will NEVER shake the image of her fucking this other dude. Every time you are intimate you will think about how she let this other dude fill her with cum and maul her, while she moaned and groaned for him and held onto his ass while her pounded his stub into her.
Just move on bro. She isn’t worth it. No woman is. Especially one who devalues you in that way.
Still depends on you, but in my own perspective I need to break up with her.
Leave her she doesn’t respect you I would rather have her say she has feelings than a woman tell me there’s no attachment. Because she just wanted to fuck him if that’s the case.
If I found out, she'd be single the very moment. My advice is to ditch her. Her ungratefulness and lack of discipline would immediately kill all the passion.
If you're one of those people who don't mind then no need to break up but if it bothers you (seems like it does coz you're posting here) and hurts you then I'd say dump her.
Never forgive a cheater.
Yeah it sucks man, but move one. In a year you will be fine. This relationship will never be the same again. And she doesn't respect you, not now and even less when you forgive her.
'Should' is very subjective in this case. The mistake you made was dating a dud in the first place.
I'm a Clinical psychologist. If I used my ID I would be inundated with requests for help and i cannot help everyone.
I appreciate your concerns, but I would rather stay hidden than make up something that isn't true.
If it hurts you and your perception of her and your trust in her and your relationship than break up with her
Only you can decide. You balance up the positives and negatives, see whether you think she's worth it. Do you see a long term future? Do you trust her?
Dump her if she does it once she will do it again! Also if you cheated on her what would she do? Think about that or maybe ask her.
Break up, throw that bitch away, find yourself a girl who respect you
Oh, it was only sex right? Then forgive her and let her have another sex with another guy again. Just keep forgiving her. Since Its just sex right. Infact let the whole city take on her, but forgiver her please cos its just sex and nothing else. 😒
The guy's so funny 😒
If you was my girl, I don't care if you gave "emotional attachments" to any Jack. All I know is dont share that pussy and dont get touched by no one, not even a hair graze, no touching no b0dy and nobody touching you, no fucking nobody and nobody fucks you but me. Over n out 😒
Did she just confess suddenly or did you catch her? 1000 other questions...
Details make or break this question.
Do what you think is right for you. But cheating is just something I can’t look over personally...
Is this a troll question? So you would stay with her, when everyone wants you to stay with her on gag? She does not deserve you and you should break up but in the end it is your decision
To the used up manwhores who justify cheating for men since it is not eMOtIonal you are retard.
Why does it matter. Cheating is cheating
Emotionally or non emotionally cheating is cheating. Just because men dont emotionally cheat, it does not justify this manwhorish behaviour. These guys try to justify it. I dont understand why it does matter whether it is emotionally or not. So if women did not cheat emotionally, it is ok?
Is it man whoring or not or is it immoral, unclean or just a bad idea is a totally different "debate".
Cheating is the act of breaking the trust of your partner. And a lot of partners are happy with open relationships.
For guys sex is more physical, we show and love differently from women. We show love by taking care of that person we care about, financially, safety, give our life for whatever needs.
A woman living in a open relationship and having sex with other men is also no cheating on his partner.
For women it can be a more riskier venture, in terms of how intimate the sex and emotions are during it.
I dont understand you? Women ain't beta cucks. It does not matter, whether sex is emotionally or not, it is cheating. There also Women who fuck manhoes but choose nice guys as boyfriend. It is weird to me but i even see that in reality when my foreign friends tell me how they love to have one nigh stand with man sluts but never see them as boyfriend material and even get annoyed when these manhoes want to be in a relationship with them.
I also see guys who had enough of being treated like sextoy by women. So believe me men can be used as sextoy too.
I am not talking about open relationships. I have the feeling some try to justify cheating by saying that for men sex ain't emotional. I may misunderstand you and thank you for your replies
Yes both genders can slut around and will lose respect for it.
Women lose respect more than men, as a lot of women want a man who other women want.
While almost no guy wants a woman who has been "run through".
A womans value is her beauty and her pureness, and she is born with it and must keep it.
Guys are born without any value and have to create it for themselves, by working hard on themselves and their finances, to be wanted by women.
I think you are taking cheating as just having sex with someone else other than your partner.
No, cheating is an act of dishonesty.
That is why i mentioned open relationships, where both know and are okay/happy that their partner is having sex with somebody else.
My first comment was on why "manwhores who justify cheating for men since it is not emotional"
My point merely is that sex is not emotional bond for men, for guys it's just like going to the toilet, a bodily function, but more fun.
So the "manhores" are right about that.
I do not however support cheating, which is lying to their partner.
Consensual open relationships, vixens, hotwifing, threesomes and what not are not cheating.
But maybe a bit of a man/woman hoe lifestyles yes.
No, it is probably because of western media that normalizes the whorish behaviour of men aka fuckboys. A non virgin man is undesireable in my culture for example
Lool. You dont have to be a manhoe to be good in bed. I doupt that these fboys really care about women's orgasms or sexuality. With a lot communication and practice with your partner, you could satisfy eachother
Ahh disgusting. I prefere virgin guys and stop encouraging other men to sleep around. It is disgusting. Many guys dont care about what?
There are already few virgin guys and so it is already hard for me to find a virgin and seeing people who support the promiscuos behaviour of men make me kinda crazy
I don't support it, like yeah you go guys. I'm just saying it's not as black and white, how in their view it seems like a good idea, and sometimes is.
Many guys don't care about pleasuring woman.
There are plenty of guy virgins in the ages 18-24. I personally know a few who are even between 30-35.
For some reason women in general don't want them.
And nothing wrong with wanting a virgin guy/girl. Or being one.
People have their preferences, and it's not something that "wild/crazy" to be called disgusting.
Believe me i really dont care about promiscuos men and women as long as they use protection and ain't terrible people. I rarely slut-shame people. I only slut-shame cheater, people who play with people's feelings to get sex/money etc. Yes, i should not use words like disgusting but i dont mean
How do you know that many guys dont care about pleasuring women? Why do they dont care? Huh?
A man who loves her woman would care about her pleasurr
Yes a man who loves a woman more than his own comfort will do it.
A lot of men are egoistic that way, to only want to get off themselves.
Guys talk to other guys how they get laid and etc, and in those stories the woman isn't much more than a sex object.
Men don't respect these women. Not saying it's right, but it happens a lot.
Some men do care about pleasuring a woman, so it's not all men for sure, but a good size don't.
This is kinda depressing. It is kinda disgusting to tell other people your sex life that you shared with your partner. I never understand why anyone tell their friends about their sex life
Did you tell your friends about your sex life?
Your sex life should be private. I did not know guys would tell their friends how they have sex with their gfs.
How do you feel about it? How will you feel next time?
It's your call. Personally, I'd move on.
"Should I forgive her or break up and move on?"
Depends. If you want to fuck around keep her, if you want a loyal partner you have dump her.
Trust is broken when a person does this. You’d be better moving on at such a young age and finding someone who wouldn’t even consider cheating
Whole you be comfortable with an open relationship? Would she? Maybe that's what you should do.
It's pretty common for women to cheat these days, best pretend it didn't happen or stay single.
No, forgive her, then cheat on her, and then break up with her.
Easy you need to dump her, no self respecting guy would actually risk staying with a cheating asshole.
Have some self respect, you need someone loyal, she broke your trust. Move on. If you stay with her, she could cheat again. Or, you will be in constant fear of her doing it... Not worth it.
Break up and move on. Especially if she is already using excuses of "no emotional attachment". gtfo
If you want you can give her one more chance but after that, dump her ass.
it up to you if you forgive her and she dose it agin I move on
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