Am I not attractive enough for dating? If so, how can I improve my appearance?

[Asiancel]

I am a 29 year old Asian guy. I'm 6 ft tall. I am a virgin who never had a girlfriend, mainly due to the fact that I had a health problem (that's now resolved) and I am an introvert (due to Asperger's Syndrome)

This is how I look like: images-ssl. gotinder (dot) com/659371361ced3401003aa507/640x800_75_cb9a7ad7-98f0-461d-aa2d-52005a0d4603(dot) webp

Am I ugly? If so, what can I do to improve my appearance? I admit that I am a little overweight at 219 lbs so I guess I can get in shape, but are my facial features acceptable enough to make it?

That is my Tinder profile picture. I joined at the beginning of this year and I only got 2 matches after 5 days of swiping, but they never responded when I said hello to them, so they might be bots.

I tried approaching women in real life, but I don't know how to make a 'cold approach' without looking awkward, especially in a public place like a mall, so I resorted to online dating.

I live in Canada, and I understand that Asian males are at a disadvantage in North America, when it comes to dating. I see some Asian guys pull it off due to their social skills and charm, but I have neither of those, being someone with autism.

I need some advice on how I can get a girlfriend, or at least get laid this year.

[SueShe]

I cannot open your picture as the site you mention is blacklisted in my browser settings and my security settings prevent me to access a site with potential pornographic content.

However, attraction is not the only feature that people look at. Actually, I never look at the physical features of a person because they simply don't interest me. I pay attention to 3 (and 3 only) features in a person. Those are:

1. intellect

2. character and

3. personality

If you have those 3 assets, then dating should absolutely not be an issue with those that are serious about dating. However posting a profile picture on a site that is probably posting lewd pictures as well is not how it will get you a date.

As for your cold approach, you are right, most girls do not like it because we are very well aware what such an approach implies.

Best is to take up a hobby and join a club where you can meet people sharing the same interests. The rest should not be too much of a problem. Good luck.

[Altheavas]

Without reading all you have to say here. You just need a little self care and a good barber and a stylist. You’ll get the ladies.
Stop devaluing yourself, stop speaking of yourself negatively. I’ve seen some real beauty and beast scene play out in daily life.

[LaterZ]

You seem like you need confidence. Just try talk to girls without trying to date them so you learn how to talk to them. And just fake confidence until you actually become confident. Obv maintain good personal hygine and the basics, but if your trying to get laid whenever you try to speak to a woman, they can smell the desperation from a mile away. Yes you may get rejected 99.99% of the time, but that means every 1 in 10000 girls won't reject you. there's rougly 4 billion women in the world which means you can still suceed with 400,000 of them. At the end of the day juts a numbers game and if you dont shoot your shot, u have 0 chance of suceeding

[Avicenna]

I think pretty much everyone agrees that they see unattractive people with partners out in public or know some, and I see Asian males with partners all the time. The real issue is having Asperger's, and from what I understand, it is possible to learn social skills if you have Asperger's.

[DreamLife7]

You're thirsty

[Nocturnaldepressi0n]

Ur not ugly at all.

[Anonymous]

Slowly on the rise