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My "friend" told me she cheated on her current boyfriend of 5 years with one of his current best friends. I had an issue with it and brought it up to her after she told me about it. I just wanted to tell her that I don't like knowing, I felt bad for her boyfriend, and I'm going to distance myself a bit. She said she understood, but shortly after accused me of trying to break them up. Her boyfriend's best friend (the one she cheated with) also accused me of this. We made up for the sake of our friend group. Little did I know, her boyfriend also thought I had made stuff up and tried to break them up (I wonder who told him that).

3 months later and here we are, this girl and her boyfriend are trying to convince the others to not let me go on this trip. I was originally lied to about who didn't want me to come, and became very confused when that person texted me asking why I wasn't anymore. I eventually find out from my best friend that it's this girl and her boyfriend that are behind it.

I haven't heard from this girl once since I found out about this. But, oh boy, has she made sure to cling onto my best friend. I messaged the guys when I found out who actually didn't want me to come. I told them I wasn't coming on the trip, that I wish they wouldn't talk behind my back, and then exclude me w/o any outward explanation. That night, this girl asks my best friend if she can come over and talk, she talked bad about me to my best friend, and made sure to post a snapstory so I knew that she had been there. Then she asks my best friend to hang out the next two nights in a row. My best friend did, because she's recently started her first relationship with one of the other guys. I decided to remove myself from the groupchats w/ this group bc none of them were acknowledging what had happened. I was hurt, and it was a constant reminder.

Now this girl is posting on her ig story about "toxic people". I unfollow and then she changes her bio to "I love my life and I love my friends".

I’ve been dating this guy for about 2 months. He seemed very interested in me at first. Texted, arranged dates, called me every other day. Had sex early on into the relationship... probably at around date 5. Every date that we’ve had has gone really good. We’ve gone on about 8 or 9 dates. He started to get very busy with work and our dates started to become every so often his schedule aligned with mine. We worked around his busy schedule.

He went away to visit a close family member overseas for a week and communication pretty much went downhill. He snapped me once every other day, but posted on his story. He also left me on ’open’ several times—meaning that he did not respond to me. Once on his trip he wanted to sext, I turned that down because I’m not about that especially when you chose to ignore my messages.

He recently came back from his trip and hasn’t at all made the effort to see how I am doing. No questions about how my week went, no reasons for why he could message me for a whole week. I asked him how his trip was via text and got bland responses in return.

From what I have gathered from him/his behavior, he is either too busy to date or uninterested in me so that being said... here is what I think I should do (5 plausible options):

#1 Break it off/friend-zone him: Text him that I am not going to be a side-priority that he will pursue on his terms... and because of that, we should stay friends (if even that)
#2 Tell him that I want a serious relationship with someone who values me and doesn’t put me on-hold
#3 Ask him if he wants to go out this week, and if he feels hesitant, go to option #2
#4 Only ask him if he wants to go out this week and if he says no (or shows any hesitancy): he ain’t the one, or if he says yes then I will tell him in person how I feel
#5 Ask him what is wrong and why he is acting distant.

This guy would be my first relationship and I feel like this guy is really special and unique... so any advice will help me :)