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Some background im a 21 year old guy working in a retail job. I would have gone off to college by now if not for COVID-19, but for the foreseeable future I'm here at this job. I've gone on only 2 dates before and never actually asked a girl out in person.

I've had a crush on one girl at work for quite a while but we never worked together and I'm pretty shy so we never talked. Recently I got moved up to full-time and she got moved to my department so me and her have worked together more and have had a lot more interactions.

I've made her laugh a few times with comments about work and we've had conversations, but they usually involve some other co worker. That being said, she has directly made jokes to me sometimes. Its hard for me to tell if she likes me, or has a neutral opinion and I'm reading too deeply into small signs. Regardless, I really want to conquer my shyness and fear of asking out a crush.

So, would it be bizarre to ask her out right now? Or should I try to become better friends with her first then ask her out? I don't really want to wait too long but I will if it gives me a better chance. Thanks in advance.

I have been thinking about plutonic friendship between men and women. I know it can happen and work out in the long run for some people. However for myself, I rarely see it or experienced it. First of all I want to say that I'm a... Floater kind of friend. I have many different friends and have been accepted into their friend groups however I keep my distance plus I don't really like all the drama associated with the group drama. I am aware of it, I hope I don't ropped into them but if they ask my opinion I'll gladly give it. Now, I have been friends with women/girls growing up. The pattern I see is that once they get a boyfriend that they start ignoring and hanging out with me and or the group. I get it's a new relationship and it's fun and exciting. Spending time with each other is important but I don't understand this shift after like a year or so. Usually they are like absorbed in to their current boyfriends circle of friends. And the girls some times bring up her girl friends circle and mix. A part of me feel sad about not being included and I just grew up and accepted that is the fact of life? I get the stories of jealous boyfriends but... That just sounds like a bad relationship.

So right now, I have one best friend that is a woman. She's really chill. And I have five male best friends plus their group of girls that are their friends. I talk to the girls and we have hung out a little but their time is mostly around their boyfriends. Like we see them like maybe 4 times a year. However I have another best friend and their circle is tight. A bit of drama but they are more chill about hanging out with the guys and myself. Plus they are also in relationships but they kind of known each other from middle school. Not like they always been to school with each other but it just worked out? After college.

So I see both sides and it's interesting.
What's your experience?