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My husband and I are gearing up to buy our first house early 2022.

I've been looking at our finances and I believe we will be able to afford around the $350,000 mark.

My in-laws do well for themselves and have offered to buy us a house and then we would pay them back monthly like a mortgage but they would not require us to pay interest.

They have purchased all the homes for his siblings and their spouses and are being paid back. His siblings are 32 and 30. My husband is 26.

While I think that this would be a very nice gesture on their part and I know it would save us a lot in interest, I'm uncomfortable with the idea.

His parents have been known to tell their other children that they own their homes and kind of guilt them into making certain changes to the homes because "they own it." Everyone says they're joking but yet the changes seem to happen.

Also they have been known to invite themselves over randomly. Heck, my husband and I live in 5 States away and we were informed on Monday that they will be visiting Friday (today) - Wednesday.

I find this behavior really invasive but my husband just accepts that this is how things are. We are tentatively planning on moving back to the area they live when we buy a house since both are families are there but I really don't think I can handle random uninvited visits all the time.

My husband is fully on board with his parents buying us a house and thinks I'm being ridiculous because I'm hesitant. Should I just go with it to save the extra money or dig in my heels to buy it ourselves?

They are truly very sweet people and I love them, but I'm uncomfortable with how financially involved they still are in the lives of their adult children.