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I’m very frustrated with my dating circumstances. It never fails, if someone I find good looking talks to me, they’re either: not interested or only want casual. The ones that do pursue, I’m not attracted to them. I was speaking to someone who I thought was cute but admitted when we video chatted that he was 5’7. And I’m 5’7, I don’t want to be with someone my height and no longer wish to speak with him. It never fails: I only attract guys I don’t find good looking. The ones I find cute only want sex or are jerks. I’ve been told before that I will end up alone because of how picky I am and have also been called shallow. I don’t think I’m asking for a lot: good looks with ate, pretty etc and I used to be a chubby girl. Hence, why I was invisible for 18+ years. Now I’m 25 and smaller, I still only get approached by guys I don’t wanna pursue. Am I just cursed or am I too picky/ unrealistic?

Ok, here is the basis for my question.

I belong to a really nice, full service health club in the large metropolitan area in which I live.

You can do everything from taking Yoga classes to playing tennis, racquetball, pickleball, basketball, to getting a massage, besides all the traditional workout classes, exercise machines, indoor and outdoor swimming pools, etc.

In the men's and women's locker rooms, they each have their own jacuzzi, sauna and steam rooms... not co-ed. And as such, nudity is allowed in those areas, as long as you at least sit on a towel of course. Not all clubs that have private facilities in the separate locker room areas like these allow nudity, some require bathing suits even though it is same sex areas, but ours is one of the exceptions that allows nudity.

From what I have heard from the guys is that about 50% of the guys use these private facilities in the nude, just using a towel to sit on, and about 40% in a bathing suit, and the remaining 10% with a towel kept wrapped around their waist.

In the women's locker room, it is a different story. About 60% have a shower/spa wrap and almost all the rest have a bathing suit, or at least a towel wrapped around themselves. Girls who use those private facilities nude are very rare and thus not very well perceived by many of the other women/girls using them.

Even though I am a nudist, I stay within the acceptable social norms and have a spa wrap that I use. I won't say that I have never go nude, especially when there are not as many members there, or I am with others that are doing it as well, but it is very rare.

So, what is your take? ... would you break the unspoken rules of female, or male, prudence... or would you stretch the boundaries to exceed basic common decorum?

... and why are the statistics so much different for males than it is for females?

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Use anonymous if you like and tell us why you are having an affair.

Is it lust, is it a bad relationship, is it abuse causing you to do it, is it because the deep emotional connection that you once had is gone, is it better sex?

Are you receiving the emotional connection you want if you are female, or if you are male, is it just the sex that you are getting out of it that you feel that you have to have?

Do you know anyone that has been involved in an affair? ... why did they do it?

I hate to admit it, but I have a girlfriend that has affairs behind her boyfriend's back with both guys and bi or lesbian girls. I hate that she does that and have told her that she is wrong to do this to her boyfriend. I think he knows she is doing it, but just tries to ignore it. I can not figure it out.

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