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I'm curious. I expect my personal opinion be very uncommon. I would vastly prefer not to have kids. It's not that I don't like kids, I'm just kind of afraid she will neglect our relationship if we have kids. I have seen people divorce because one parent is so focused on being around their kids so much that they ended up losing interest in intimacy and didn't care about spending time with their spouse. That would honestly crush me because the only thing I really want in my life is a close marriage where we put our relationship first. I'm aware parents have to put their kids needs first, which is fine, but in terms of kid's demands, I would be pretty depressed if she would rather fulfill them than spend time with me. I would always put our relationship first, unless it is something necessary for our kid's mental/physical health, and only prioritize things that the kids actually need, not want. I don't think it would be fair to me if I was in a relationship where I loved her a lot more than she loved me and her goal was to have kids but mine was to have a close marriage (like the cliché 'true love' 😂).