How should I respond to a man who is slipping away but trying to see if I change in certain areas?

[NewMe8393]

My s o has set deal breakers w me n I cannot seem to be successful in changing them n now he has zero tolerance for my mistakes he seems to be in my life outvof pity so that he won't hurt my feelings n I told him one day to seriously tell me to moveon so that I would listen and move on but instead he texts that he is driving. And he never told me to move on. But when he is around me I feel rejection mixed with mixed signals... itswhen I make a comment or ask a a probing question or tell our mutual friends my complaints about him that he snaps and shows me disdain. What should I do so that I can keep him and not loose him?

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

Keep yourself. Drop that dude like a sack of rocks.

If he has a fundamental issue with things about you that you can't change, it's not going to make either of you happy.

And if he can't see past that, or at least take the time to talk about it and try to meet in the middle he isn't a great guy to begin with.

If you tell me what the issue is I might be able to suggest ways you could fix it/make it up to him... But from what you already said I strongly suspect he doesn't really care or respect you like you deserve so it isn't worth trying to change yourself to keep him around. That sounds like a lose lose to me.

Dump him and find someone who likes you the way you are. Solve two problems, make it a win win for you, and let him work on his own issues.

And, added plus, there is always a chance he changes his mind and says he doesn't want to lose you over your differences. But he won't ever accept you the way you are if you let him blame you for it and treat you like a doormat.

[NewMe8393]

Seal breakers were not to get jealous over other women he was to be friends with while he is telling me to wait for him. he said that he was gonn be ready for me until we moved in together

[NewMe8393]

Seal breakers were not to get jealous over other women he was to be friends with while he is telling me to wait for him. he said that he was gonn be ready for me until we moved in together
Not to make certain comments and when he corrects me he is extremely hard on me he critises my money spending habits at the casino cuz I followed his footsteps I would spend amy money Ihe says im allover the place he talks to girls that are jealous about me about our issues and they brain wash him about me and I suspect that they have slept with each other or her at least given him bjs.

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

Yeah, I put up with shit like that. She was allowed to have three boyfriends but I couldn't even see my best friends.

It's not a way I'd want to live.

He sounds like a sack of rocks to me. (But that's just my opinion)

[Anonymous]

How should you respond? If I were you I’d be done talking in general and leave his ass, with all his unrealistic expectations and trash attitude. Here’s one thing that’s good to understand, and it’s that you cannot keep a man that does not want to be kept, no matter how hard you try. Nothing you do will ever by right or enough, even when you’re actually achieving these crazy expectations. Because in his mind he’s already checked out of your relationship, he just hasn’t left bc he hasn’t found another woman yet. But if he’s slipping away you can bet it’s because he thinks he can do better, and you only amplify his ego because you’re so afraid to lose him that you actually try and do these things. Stop treating a clown like a king. He should be afraid to lose you and should never feel like he can do whatever he wants and you still won’t leave. Love yourself more than him, prioritize you happiness/mental health and kick him to the curb. Don’t look back unless he shapes up and comes at you correctly but even then I would be done with his sorry self.

[Gemlover]

He's not accepting you for who you are make him miss you and if the change is something that you think you need to do then make the change

[KrakenAttackin]

If your "mistakes" invoke other guys cocks, he needs to bid you farewell.

[NewMe8393]

No no other guys cock

[Adam1978]

What are the deal breakers?

[NewMe8393]

That I was not supposed to be jealous regardless of who he chose too talk to. N that I was not to question him

[NewMe8393]

Or make comments

[Adam1978]

Well of course you should be able to question him and comment but there is situation where it's disrespectful. And if he makes so bad calls that you have to disrespect him in those, he isn't for you. Jealousy is something you need to work on. It's simply not good in any relationship.

[NewMe8393]

He was giving me a chance but I pressured hi. Bu asking him in asking phim in a loong paragraph how much time was he going to make me wait for him he said it was coming down
Soon but I just couldn't handle my internal warfare with my mind it was too much for me to handle and I would slip up by being jealous when hevwpuld consistently give mote attention. To this other woman

[iseekpinetrees]

Sounds like u dont have a relationship. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Is he your father? To give permission? 😂