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My situation is this. I was abused by my father who had a drinking problem when I was younger. Around age 12 or 13 was the worst time when he physically abused me by hitting me. My parents later divorced and I chose to stay with my mom, I did not want much to do with my father. I did not feel safe with him and the violence caused some emotional trauma that I needed to get away from. Over the years he hasn't helped me with anything and didn't even call to see if I needed help. Now I'm older and started talking to him again about a year ago when he wished me a happy birthday really I was just hoping he would offer to help me pay off my student loan debt or something as a way to make up for the past. But he never asks if I need help and never offers. He merely texts me to ask how I'm doing, and I am tempted to tell him I don't need a buddy to ask me how I'm doing. I needed a father and now I don't need one anymore. A father's role is to protect and provide which he didn't do for me. My spiritual father says he forfeited his role when he failed to do these things. I would like to confront him about the past again, last time I did about eight years ago he denied everything. I would say that it's hard for me to forge a relationship with no Foundation seeing as he never asked for forgiveness or confessed anything. Thank you for your feedback and feel free to comment.

I had 2 other people that I was talking about a topic with. Person 1 was feeling upset about some stuff and wanted to talk, Person 2 and I asked him what's wrong. Basically Person 1 was thinking about past bullying that basically happned through thier entire childhood due to thier behavior. Person 1 is diagnosed with ADHD and Asperger's and felt bad for being bullied for stuff that wasn't his fault. He basically hot bullied for hyperactivity associated with ADHD, which led to him being annoying, and other behaviors that involved not fully understanding social rules that came with Asperger's. And I'm assuming that both of these combined led into him just beinf "weird" overall such as talking a lot or not paying attention in class, talking about "weird" things and just being annoying overall.
Person 2 basically told him "Well, you were responsible for your own repercussions (in this case, bullying) because at the end of the day, you are still responsible for your actions, disablilty or not"
This kind of led into a small debate between me and Person 2. My reasoning was basically that he shouldn't have been bullied for. Rather, people with things with ASD and ADHD or anything similar should work towards being understood and helped, not bullied.
Person 2 said that we can't be upset about the reactions he got growing up, because the actions were unacceptable whether he liked it or not. Person 2 said that the bullies are not at fault for reacting.
So I asked Person 2 is Person 1 deserved the bullying. Person 2 said he deserved it.
I disagreed and said people don't deserve bulkying for something that is for the most part, uncontrollable. Since he never asked to have either ADHD or Asperger's. Especailly if he (as a kid at least) try to improve and was unsuccessful in doing it. I understand if he needed improvement in these departments, but bullying wasn't required for that.

So basically GaG, please help me out a bit.
Who do you agree with and what is your reasoning?