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After being with this guy for 6 years, I am starting to see things in him much more clearly.
1. He has to say something negative about everything. i. e. do you want to eat this? "ew gross"
i. e do you want to go here "we'll have a bad time" i. e. do you want to read this book "looks like a terrible book"
THEN he has to say something positive about it, i. e man that was good green bell pepper, it tastes so good, wow we had such a good time, let's go again!, and "that book was so funny, why didn't you tell me it was such a great book!"
2. He never listens to me, i. e. I am not mad, "yes you are mad!", I don't want to talk about it anymore "we're going to keep talking about it, continues name calling and bad things he will do in the future"
3. Me telling me how others are treating me bad "Him", starts treating me the exact same way I just told him others were treating me bad. i. e. others call me a liar, he starts to do the same. i. e. others start calling me evil, root of all evil, he starts doing the same.
4. he also gets really angry and tells me that I'm the reason he gets angry. That I'm the root of all his problems.
5. When I talk to him about how others are treating me, instead of just saying "well that sucks" he straight up tells me to stop talking or hanging out with these people. These people are my friends! They are my family! I just want someone to empathize with, and he has zero empathy!
6. He pays back. i. e. If I buy something or goes somewhere, then he has to spend the same amount or more money (it's our money) and if I go somewhere, then he gets to go somewhere too. If I tell him to pick up after himself, then he tells me to pick up after myself too! i. e. I do 10 loads of laundry, and I ask him to do 2. he will tell me that if I tell him to do 2 loads of laundry, then he can tell me to do 2 loads of laundry too. i. e. If I tell him to pick up after himself, while I'm doing a million other tasks, then he has to tell me to pick up and clean the kitchen too! While I'm doing more important tasks! I Have to do 20 loads of laundry in silence, I have to clean up after him in silence or he will get really mad and we'll have a fight! What shall I do? AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH

I feel like I am married to a narcissist? What can I do?

Can you change a person?